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Why do men get so OCD over the girth of your dicks?

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Just interested why is it you men get so ocd about your dick sizes? Mainly over girth... My husband as some of you have read in posts before is 6 inches long and 5 girth. I think he is fine, he does not see it like that feels so small when he is not. He says it is due to me having kids and that I must not feel him, this is cuz I fucked a guy who was little bigger then him and I didn't see a difference in them...

 

Do you men really think women need bigger dick after child birth? Or that it is women don't feel anymore because of birthing children?

 

What the hell guys, honest what's with the deal .....

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I think guys use the length more than girth when playing the "whose got the biggest?" game, but when you hear from the females, many will say that girth is just as if not more important to them than length. So, there's a disconnect there right off the bat.

 

Why guys get so concerned with it? One factor is it goes back to the whose is the biggest game. In some men, the wanting to be the alpha male and competitiveness thing runs very strong, while in others, not so much. For that first group, not having as much as someone else does is a blow to their psyche and there's nothing they can do about it, which makes it even more frustrating. The second thing is guys want to please women, and true or not, all they've heard their whole lives is it takes a big penis to satisfy a woman. That's not true of course, but once something gets drilled into someone's head, it can be hard to get out.

 

To my knowledge I haven't been with a woman who has given birth to many children, so can't speak to that, but for most, I don't believe having birthed children makes much if any difference. Vaginal tightness has to do with many things, again, like penis size, much of it outside of the woman's control. And while there is a little variation there, it's not much, and they certainly all feel good!

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As with most things wrong with sex, I blame porn and not just modern porn. If you look at ancient Greek and Roman "erotic art" (porn), you see these absurdly huge phalluses... and it makes a kind of sense from an "artistic" standpoint, exaggerating a feature to call attention to it. Add in the fact that, for time out of mind, the idea of "great size equals greater power" is simply ingrained in our cultural psyche. A physically big man is a strong man, a powerful man... big arms and big legs equal strength. By that logic it is easy to see why one would think a big penis equals virility.

 

Flash forward a couple thousand years, and we still haven't really gotten over our ancient preconceptions. Sure the industrial age and the technological age have made great sexual strides for the smart, skinny kid but let's face facts, our cultural ideas of sexual attractiveness are still rooted in the age of barbarian warlords and fertile wenches... and huge dicks still look more impressive in porn.

 

So, ordinary men try to find ways to fit the ideal. We've come recognize that no matter how we hold the ruler, we can't make our respectable 6 inch penises into the 12 inch sexual beasts pornography demands of us. So we change the goalpost by measuring girth instead of length. Meanwhile, being insecure idiots, we try to come up with explanations of why our quite respectable cocks must be inadequate... after all, our wives and lovers are clearly not thrown into a quivering sexual frenzy at the touch of our members. So we "reason" it must be because we're too small... something bigger got in there first and we just don't measure up anymore.

 

So, basically, men are insecure morons who have fallen victim to literally thousands of years of cultural brainwashing which essentially tells us that, unless we have the wang of Conan the Barbarian hanging down to our knees, we don't measure up.

 

My advice, ladies: complement your man's John Thomas. To exaggerate, but do tell him what you like about it. It will help. :)

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I think guys use the length more than girth when playing the "whose got the biggest?" game, but when you hear from the females, many will say that girth is just as if not more important to them than length. So, there's a disconnect there right off the bat.

 

Yeah length...I don't think I have ever heard anybody talk/brag about the girth of their dick...'yo check out this eight inch circumference piece of meat'. Now 7 - 12 inches, yeah that gets bragged about.

 

I will also comment in society women are allowed to be self conscious about practically every body part they have. Chest size, legs, waist, etc. How big is the plastic surgery industry for breast augmentation. Is it healthy, no I wouldn't say so we are all beautiful. There is not a lot of physical male characteristics that men get to self conscious about, so it will manifest in penis size, doesn't seem too unusual.

 

To my knowledge I haven't been with a woman who has given birth to many children, so can't speak to that, but for most, I don't believe having birthed children makes much if any difference. Vaginal tightness has to do with many things, again, like penis size, much of it outside of the woman's control. And while there is a little variation there, it's not much, and they certainly all feel good!

 

oohhh...I am going to be a little politically incorrect and say, I do not really think it goes back to be completely the same. A five to ten pound baby is going to do something!! I am not saying Mommy vaginas' are bad, they're GREAT!! Meaty, moist pink palaces of the feminine form.

 

As an aside I played with a women who had just finished getting off the one of the biggest dildo's I have ever seen. She had a great time with me.

 

Also from the feedback I have gotten. There is too small and there is too big. It varies with different women. That's just another indicator of the real variety of people in the world.

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I was with a woman who loved to talk about sex she said I'm 5 to6 long when hard  but thick and the guy was with is 7 and thinner but liked both

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On 6/18/2016 at 9:35 PM, Carbella said:

why is it you men get so ocd about your dick sizes?

Half of it is show, half is perceived performance. 

On 6/19/2016 at 6:59 AM, cplnuswing said:

I don't believe having birthed children makes much if any difference

It didn't for me, I still cum easily enough on the same dicks.  No dick is as big as a baby's head.

 

7 hours ago, let's do it again said:

Men are no more OCD over the size of their cocks than women are over the size of their tits .

With tits that never grew beyond A cups, I had to get over that early. 

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I find women are just obsessed over a man’s length and girth as the men who are big. The ladies made more comments about the very endowed man while the men just smiled and laughed. 
I will never know how a woman feels or if size matters during physical penetration yet I know penetration is just part of having sex. For the ladies who say they gave birth and no penis is as big as a head of a baby my answer is I never heard a woman scream as loud as when a woman gives birth without meds. 

1 hour ago, couplers said:

It didn't for me, I still cum easily enough on the same dicks.  No dick is as big as a baby's head.

You have only had three lovers and being you aren’t a swinger you don’t know how other men feel in you. 

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Because most women prefer a big dick.  That's not to say women prefer a freak show size cock.  But if you have a 6" dick and the other guy has an 8" or 9" dick you'll probably be a little self-conscious.

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I don’t understand why men are obsessed with dicks period!  Unlike some other posters I will disagree that most women are also obsessed with the size of a penis.  We do not know any women at all and have never meet any that care about cock size.  They all care more about whether the man is attractive or not and their penis has nothing to do with that.  In fact all of them like us completely ignore guys online that just post dick pics.  Also anytime I have looked at the comments on someone’s dick pic they are always from other guys not women.  I am sure there are some women that care, but I think they are not the norm.

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I will say it Size Counts. I won’t talk for all women who are happy with one penis and get satisfied. I too can orgasm with a smaller or average penis not being able to tell the difference if it’s an inch bigger or smaller when in me as most men are average, the reason they call it average. Where size counts for me and Mike is when we meet a new man and I open his pants. If I see a larger penis it’s more exciting giving a blow job. Orally one can certainly tell the difference on length and girth which adds much more to my excitement. 
Are men obsessive to size? My man enjoys the visual of me with a larger partner and that makes both of us happy. 

 

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18 minutes ago, Anon321 said:

Cliff notes: women like bigger dicks.  I don't think this is very surprising.  Sure there are some women who are perfectly happy with an average dick but more often than not I think women will go for the larger one.

It is a survey from 105 woman who were making choices quickly based on the whole body in the pictures! Not just certain body parts.  In this case if the men were of equal attractiveness the ones with bigger cocks were rated better.  As they say to put it bluntly increased penis size on the short pear shaped guy did not increase his attractiveness at all.   So by this very small survey standards a bigger cock does not make you more attractive at all to women unless you are attractive in the first place.  That is a tall V shaped body not a short pear shaped body.   So big cocks are absolutely useless unless you have something else going for you.  That sounds about right.  

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9 minutes ago, enhancer said:

It is a survey from 105 woman who were making choices quickly based on the whole body in the pictures! Not just certain body parts.  In this case if the men were of equal attractiveness the ones with bigger cocks were rated better.  As they say to put it bluntly increased penis size on the short pear shaped guy did not increase his attractiveness at all.   So by this very small survey standards a bigger cock does not make you more attractive at all to women unless you are attractive in the first place.  That is a tall V shaped body not a short pear shaped body.   So big cocks are absolutely useless unless you have something else going for you.  That sounds about right.  

Yes that's true.  What I meant was all else equal women will grab the bigger cock.

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"10 things to know about your penis." I like that article as well.

 

The article says only 4.9% point straight up. So I guess I'm unique in that my cock stands up against my belly when erect. Cool!

 

As for size and girth, I'm not OCD about my cock, but .... it is truly stunning, at least that's what I tell myself each morning.

 

 

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