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What is it that makes you feel sexy and confident? I know Pet often says he feels sexiest after he's just gotten a haircut. I personally think he's freakin hot when I get to watch him work out....

 

I can't say what it is that makes me feel sexy and confident, clothes that just "feel right", sometimes just having my hair cut (if the cut turned out really well), having just had my nails done. A few minutes ago I was wearing casual slacks (for lack of a better word) and a printed t-shirt. I felt frumpy. We are heading out so I changed into a nicer pocket t-shirt and a pair of denim "petal pushers" (I can't recall the modern name for the short pants). I feel much better now. This isn't what I'd wear to the club or anything, but I feel comfortable and adequately sexy for what the evening has planned (drinks with another couple).

 

So, what makes you feel sexy and confident? And what is it that makes your partner seem sexy and confident?

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I like wearing high heels and painted toenails, garters and stockings, any kind of dress or skirt... I also love costumes! Getting to dress crazy or slutty is one of my favorite parts of swinging.

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A fresh haircut and color usually helps. When I find a perfect form fitting t shirt and jeans. I also love wearing t shirts with semi naughty sayings on them. It's like flirting without any effort. (ex. I have one with the Tootsie Roll owl on it and right above him it says "Wanna Lick".

 

Other than that, in all honesty what makes me feel most sexy and confident is catching someone looking.

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At first I thought just getting out of my scrubs made me feel sexy and confident but I'm wrong about that. I totally feel sexy in my scrubs and ponytail, not sure why that is. I think it's probably more attitude than anything. Some times I've been all dolled up but left feeling unsure of myself and other times have worn sweats and a t-shirt and ended up feeling sexy as hell. I think most of it is just what my attitude is when I wake up.

 

I finally kicked a 30 year nail biting habit three months ago and that makes me feel A LOT sexier. I don't paint them but having pretty hands has gone a long way to making me feel good.

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Clothing does not give me confidence. That's like Dumbo and the magic feather he holds. Achieving a few successes gives me confidence. I run at it a few times before I knock it over.

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Heels and anything low-cut. lol My calves and my boobs are my favorite parts of my body, so I enjoy things that show them off.

 

Attitude really does make a difference, though. I can wear the same exact outfit at different times, but my level of confidence will vary depending on what else I've done that day.

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One thing I should add is whether or not I have hit the gym like I should that day/week whatever. I feel more confident when I have been going like I should. A day that I miss makes me feel guilty and like I am magically going to gain 20lbs immediately for not going.

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I feel sexy and confident when someone else that's sexy and confident hits on me:) I like being wanted.

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I feel sexy and confident when someone else that's sexy and confident hits on me:) I like being wanted.

 

That is very much me.

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I feel sexy and confident when someone else that's sexy and confident hits on me:) I like being wanted.

 

I would hope that applies to everyone! I know it does to me, as well.

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Mrs Doc feels sexy when someone at a house party finds her and slowly removes her clothing. I feel sexy when a the woman of a couple we've never met walks naked up to me at a house party and says, "do me"! This happened last night and I'm still smiling!! Thank you J!!! :)

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Certain clothing make me feel sexy. High heels helps. Tight jeans or even a fresh new pant. A new dressy dress or short skirt. When I get dressed up I usually won’t wear anything under. No panty lines. I have never been one to dress in what some say is sexual. No garter belt, split panties or even sexy lingerie. I like simple cotton panties or boy shorts. What really makes me feel sexy is catching someone staring at my butt.

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I like wearing high heels and painted toenails, garters and stockings, any kind of dress or skirt... I also love costumes! Getting to dress crazy or slutty is one of my favorite parts of swinging.

 

Ah! Yes! We think alike. Love a woman who dresses to impress. Can't say I get hot for "any kind of dress" - I'll let the frumpy ones go. Anything "sexy", especially elegant and sexy - whether short, long, tight fitting, flowing, split, etc. And it's not so much about how much is covered up (more to uncover anyway). But the garters, stockings and heels get me every time. And PLEASE leave the garters, stockings and heels on while we fuck. The contrasting feelings of the silky nylons, smooth skin and those graters...... mmmmmmmm! And you just can't beat the visual. Not that I am averse to naked either!! Naked is most definitely great too. (As are "costumes" and "dressing crazy and slutty" too - tons of fun there..... maybe a little role play with it?)

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Swinging clubs in general - the atmosphere, the attention and the freedom to be who you are - make me feel very sexy, whatever I choose to wear! Pole dancing makes me feel sexy too.

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When I notice a woman from across the room or bar looking at me and smiling at me. Not a friendly smile but a flirty smile.

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I set health and financial goals for myself every year. My personal goals has always been the primary force fueling my confidence.

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Nice lingerie and heels make me feel sexy.  Being fresh out of the shower, all freshly shaved and lotioned up makes me feel sexy.  Hair done makes me feel sexy.  Being naughty in public gets me going too, like no panties or flashing someone.  Thats fire.  

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