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    Default Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Question for couples with straight guys...would you agree to swing with a couple knowing the male was bi? We have had an offer, but turned it down because I would not be comfortable with a bi guy in the mix.


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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    We would and we have. We are also aware that many people would not. Lifestyle couples have preferences and nobody should find that to be objectionable.
    Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. The answer is "yes".

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    Quote Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple View Post
    We would and we have. We are also aware that many people would not. Lifestyle couples have preferences and nobody should find that to be objectionable.
    I'm assuming you told the guy you were straight and no m/m contact? He was ok with that?

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    My ex and I played in threesomes with guys we knew to be Bi. I told them I was straight before we started, I never had any problems.

    If you're uncomfortable with just knowing the guy is Bi and don't want to play with him, that's fine, your preference. But if you're afraid he'll come on to you, and that's the only reason you're rejecting him, I'd say go ahead and schedule a date.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Quote Originally Posted by Erik13 View Post
    I'm assuming you told the guy you were straight and no m/m contact? He was ok with that?
    Well, in a way. People who contact us do so primarily through a swinger hook-up Web site like SLS or SZC. The assumption is that the bisexual man has read and understood our profile and has seen and understood the fact that we present ourselves, both of us, as straight. The one person who seemed to not get the message and grabbed for my balls while I was fucking his wife was never invited into our company again. I care not whether or not a man is bisexual or not but grabbing for my ass/balls/whatever uninvited puts him and his partner on the never-again list. That being said, if the people who contact us using a Web site like SLS have bi in their profile, we see this as no reason for turning down an invitation to meet.

    I do not labor under the belief that a bisexual person will not be able to control urges and will right away want to suck my dick or demand that I suck his. If bi, I assume that, while with straight people, a taste for the other gender will direct desire and action. Experience has shown this to be true.
    Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. The answer is "yes".

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    I'm a bi guy, play with other couples with straight men all the time. Not a big deal. I have had my ass grabbed expectantly by a man I thought was straight. However, I have never grabbed or touched another guy when he told me he was straight.

    Hope that helps!!

    Good Luck and have fun!
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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Quote Originally Posted by kikonkrome View Post
    I'm a bi guy, play with other couples with straight men all the time. Not a big deal. I have had my ass grabbed expectantly by a man I thought was straight. However, I have never grabbed or touched another guy when he told me he was straight.

    Hope that helps!!

    Good Luck and have fun!
    My husband is similar in the sense that he's not attracted to another male but he enjoys bisexual acts during sex. We have played with plenty of straight people and we respect their preferences. He has never grabbed any part of another male knowing that he plays straight. I can't speak for others, but it's not an uncontrollable urge. Just like other fetishes, it's simply a matter of not doing it if the other partners are not into it.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    All the bi guys we know are respectful in that if your straight - they don't come on to you. Having said that, there has been a few DP's we had a "oops" moment where some dick has touched the other one while lining up the girl lol

    It's not a worry in our book even though I'm straight.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    I have tried it one time. Was not a bad experience, maybe I will try it again. I think it's up to your mentality, do you accept bisexual or not.


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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    I am a straight male. We have played with couples with bi males. They know it is not my interest, so we don't go there. There is a lot of communicating and negotiating in the lifestyle. It's part of the sport.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    I have heard about plenty of situations where bi guys have played with couples but simply played as a straight guy.

    Been bi (like myself) doesn't mean you HAVE to do things with another guy it just means the possibility is there.

    Personally however I try to avoid not playing with bi or bi curious guys, the reason for that is I find your truly straight guys can be very homophobic.

    Some examples of what straight guys have said in my past would be things like.

    - I'm not kissing her now because you have kissed her, another man has kissed her so I'm not touching them lips.

    - I'm not kissing her now your dick has been in her mouth.

    - I'm not giving her oral sex now because you have given her oral sex first.

    - I'm not touching her now because your cum is on her.

    I think a lot of straight guys do not actually want another male there at all which often is impossible.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Absolutely...I might even try.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    We generally avoid couples with bi males and if I'm being totally honest it is because I've had several people at meets whisper into mine and separately into my wives ear about couples where the male is bi and to "watch out." If you then play with them you are so marked. I'm sure it is not universal but for the largish groups here the whisperers have been exclusively the straight females (or their husbands).

    Having said that there was a thread on reddit a year or so ago with a group of bi men complaining about being avoided by couples with straight men when they were perfectly capable of playing it straight. Then later on in this very same same thread they started going on about how they had done things on purpose to make the straight male uncomfortable during play and laughing about it - started up by the same person who first complained that straight men avoid them.

    As to the OP's question: If you are uncomfortable with the situation don't do it, you don't have to justify it.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sun&Moon View Post
    I have heard about plenty of situations where bi guys have played with couples but simply played as a straight guy.

    Been bi (like myself) doesn't mean you HAVE to do things with another guy it just means the possibility is there.

    Personally however I try to avoid not playing with bi or bi curious guys, the reason for that is I find your truly straight guys can be very homophobic.

    Some examples of what straight guys have said in my past would be things like.

    - I'm not kissing her now because you have kissed her, another man has kissed her so I'm not touching them lips.

    - I'm not kissing her now your dick has been in her mouth.

    - I'm not giving her oral sex now because you have given her oral sex first.

    - I'm not touching her now because your cum is on her.

    I think a lot of straight guys do not actually want another male there at all which often is impossible.
    I can see this, yes and no. On one hand, I sort of had those feelings when my wife and I started fucking around together. But they quickly went away with the feeling that "it's not gay if a woman is there.' So I easily started kissing/eating my wife or his wife after she sucked off/was fucked by another guy, did DP, did DVP. Since the guys butt fuck our wives and each others wives, the guys sometimes now do it to each other. So it evolves as time goes on, as it always does.

    And yeah, so on the other hand, if most guys are sure homophobes, then why is MFM so popular over FMF? If two guys are doing it to one woman there's go to be some ball knocking and friendly fire expected.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Sure, not a point of contention. As long as it's understood there's no same sex contact desired.

    Just 'cause the fella's bisexual doesn't mean he wants, or needs, your sex. Nor does it imply he'd try and "turn" you...lol.

    If YOU are uncomfortable with it, then by all means, don't put yourself, or him, into an angst ridden scenario.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Being a female dominant I’ll never bring another guy into the relationship with my slave if he will not submit to my will. I believe that the three of us must be totally open about our medical checks and having had very recent blood tests to make sure we are STD free. I believe in using condoms unless I have a very close friend where I keep track of his every move and relationships. I can keep a guy on the side sexually happy and loyal with my expertise in fellatio so he is not looking for anyone else so that we can have fun bareback sex. Behind closed doors I love getting the guys hot and horny to the point of them mixing it up sucking cock and sometimes taking it in the ass. Sometimes I act as their fluff keeping them hard and making them take turns doing each other. My personal slave still believes he is straight because I have him psychologically programmed and everything we do is a secret in the bedroom. We may do an MMF relationship every other month and practice heterosexual sex in between. If I find a willing bi-partner that wants a lasting relationship things may change. It’s not a problem for me to take care of two guys because I know exactly how to make them play.

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    Always, an interesting topic. Once had a friend tell me she didn,t want to play with me because she knew I played w bi couples. The irony of the whole thing is she had just told me about how she had caught gonorrhea playing w some straight guys that she met off of a random dating site.

    Just because a person is gay or bi it does not mean that they will want to engage in sex with you. If someone touches another person without consent then thats a person you should not be hanging out with in the first place...as mentioned above in someone else message.

    Have heard so many excuses about why people don't play w bi or gay people and it usually comes down to the good old STD argument. Truth be told I have been swinging about 17 years and have been having sex even longer than that....lol. The point I am trying to make is that I have known quite a few ppl to contract STDs. Almost all of them have been between people that were heterosexual...both within and outside of the swingers community.


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    I divorced my X because he liked guys more than paying attention to me. He is very attractive with a huge cock able to get anyone he wanted in bed. We used to take on guys together and I would fuck them till they couldn’t get it up anymore and then he would take over and fuck their asses. It was hot watching him in action. My ex and I are still good friends and he is also friends with my new husband/slave.

    I still fuck my ex when I can screw him into giving me what I want. When my ex found out that I was fucking my slave in the ass with a strap-on he wanted in on the action. The guys always watched sports together and became good friends. I had rule in the house that we would all be naked together. During half time I would fuck one or both of them. Sometimes I would have them DP me nice and slow. Once the guys got familiar being naked together and we’re starting to do some touchy feeling each others genitals I knew it was time to take the next step. I decided to give my new husband an education by turning my ex-husband loose.

    I decided to do the same technique and fucked my slave until he couldn’t get it up anymore and then I turned him over to my ex-husband. I held him over the leather divan in the living room while my ex-husband carefully took his anal cherry nice and slow fucking him for a good 15 minutes. My ex-husband wanted another fuck so after about an hour I sucked him hard and he fucked my slave again. Behind closed doors my husband learned how to suck cock and enjoy taking it in the ass.

    Now I have more time to spend with my girlfriend in bed while the boys are playing. My slave still thinks he’s straight but I know better.

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    You have to be comfortable. If you aren't comfortable you aren't comfortable. You may wish to delve into yourself to determine why you are uncomfortable, but even if you land upon the reason, the feelings aren't just going to magically evaporate. Your reason may be irrational, it may be a combination of intuitions who have yet to put a finger on, or you may have a perfectly valid reason for feeling this way. From where I sit, its irrelevant. I don't question people's sexual preferences and I don't pressure them to change to suit other people, or what is popular. Sexuality is too personal and too deeply wrought in our psyches to be forced or coerced or politicized. This is about having fun and sharing pleasure with those who want to share it with us. If you are uncomfortable, you aren't going to be having fun and its going to suck for everybody involved. You may, upon reflection, find your feelings about this change over time. And that's okay, too. We all learn and grow as we cogitate upon new experiences and become more comfortable with the unknown. That said, I will play with couples where the man is bisexual because I'm upfront that I am straight and M/M play is not on the table. I have yet to meet a bi man who was anything but respectful of my boundaries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Numex View Post

    And yeah, so on the other hand, if most guys are sure homophobes, then why is MFM so popular over FMF? If two guys are doing it to one woman there's go to be some ball knocking and friendly fire expected.
    I wouldn't say it's more popular, it's just wayyyy easier finding single guys than single girls.

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    I mind making out, feeling, anal with another guy. That's a no go for me. I'm ok with friendly fire and rubbing our dicks and balls. I don't mind receiving blow jobs either. I'm undecided on giving them.. one time i lost a bet and had to let a bi friend with his nearly 10 inch dick have sex with my gf and then suck his dick for 10 seconds right after he finished. Tasted better than I expected but I almost gagged because he got full on hard again in my mouth.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Quote Originally Posted by Erik13 View Post
    Question for couples with straight guys...would you agree to swing with a couple knowing the male was bi? We have had an offer, but turned it down because I would not be comfortable with a bi guy in the mix.
    If he knows you are a straight couple he might not try flirting with the husband/boyfriend. They may just be interested in a straight swap. They might save the bi adventures for other like minded "dates". If you agree to swap with a couple knowing the male was bi and he knows you know it he or they might think you may be curious. I would discuss parameters before the meeting.

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    I'm straight I guess. Wife and I played with a guy. His cock kept slipping out while we were DPing my wife. I had to help keep him in, with my hand, as she was super wet. I was super turned on. Really wanted to explore more, but was to nervous to do anything else. I have never had thoughts about cock, but I would have explored his, covered in my wife's juice. I still get hard thinking about it. Hope someday a similar situation occurs again, so I can play.

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    Default Re: Straight guys swinging with bi male?

    Yes we would. Just as there are couples with a bi female who play with straight couples, understanding there won’t be any g/g play, as long as the bi gentleman understood that my hubby is straight, it wouldn’t be a problem 😉

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    Of course we (I) would. Just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he is going to make a move on the husband or is even attracted to him. Bi guys are no more attracted to every guy than a straight woman is attracted to every guy or a straight guy is attracted to every woman. I've also found that the bi guys in couples I've swung with are very repectful of boundaries.
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