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Why don't people relate bisexual with non-monogamy?

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Society has made some progress in how it views people that identify as bisexual. If someone is in a hetero relationship, and say they are actively bisexual, then logic dictates that there is some sort of non-monogamous something happening there. What is strange to me though is when you read of a celeb or someone in that situation, while the coming out as bi may be accepted and even praised for it's courage and honesty, no one on the receiving end of that information seems to want make that next step to holding the same feelings about the swinging, poly, or whatever situation is involved that is making the bi possible.

 

Is consensual non-monogamy still a bridge too far for society so when it comes to someone in a relationship saying they are bisexual, people just avoid making that next logical step in their mind? Anyone found themselves in a similar situation?

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I may be wrong because I don't read celeb stuff, but aren't those coming out as bi only mean that they have the attraction, not that they are currently engaged in another sexual relationship of any type? Same sex relationships in the past and possibly in the future, but sticking with the one I'm with for now? The only exception I can think of is the perception that most men don't care if his woman is playing around with another woman. It's considered safe, hot, and cute.

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The difference in bisexual acceptance and swinging/poly acceptance is in the relationship. The term bisexual insinuates that this person could have a relationship and fall in love with either sex. If gay marriage is accepted, then it reasons that a bisexual in a relationship should be accepted. Now, that's all just the surface. I bet 90% of straight people will say that's fine but their thoughts are 'gay'. Black and white are the colors of choice when it comes to sex. Which also explains why Swinging and poly relationships are not close to that same level of acceptance. It is still PC to shun the sluts of the world.

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The term bi seems to be much broader than the old perception of being able to fall in love with either sex. I have fallen in love with a few females but never felt it even remotely with a man. I wouldn't say it's impossible, but it hasn't even come close. Most would consider me bi since I enjoy sucking men and have sucked more than a couple. I'm called orally bi. There have been threads here that castigated men who have sucked men and called themselves straight. I feel you can be straight and enjoy the taste of cock if your primary interest is women. I call myself bi because my sexual enjoyment of men is beyond a taste here and there.

 

Yet am I bi if I couldn't feel equally toward a man as I do toward a woman? Should we call that fully emotionally bi? Once again labels just don't cut it.

 

How the general public accepts non-monogamy is an interesting questions. Many can't. Many still feel it's cheating or has a taint even when done with consent. I feel it potentially opens a relationship up to levels of intimacy as deep as you wish to delve. By challenging what intimacy and sharing may contain, discoveries are possible, perhaps inevitable.

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Most would consider me bi since I enjoy sucking men and have sucked more than a couple. I'm called orally bi. ... Yet am I bi if I couldn't feel equally toward a man as I do toward a woman? Should we call that fully emotionally bi? Once again labels just don't cut it.

 

You make a very good point. As a woman, I made the journey from absolutely straight, to incidentally bi (suck hubby's dick after it's been in another woman's pussy), to situationally bi (kiss a girl and/or do oral on each other when part of sex with a guy(s)), to sex with another woman alone, to emotional attachment and love in our poly family. And your right - where is it one draws the line? My sister told me I was a lezzie after the first step.

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