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Does she know that you're Bi?

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Yes, my wife knows that I am BI since most of the threesomes we have with my best friend involve some oral between him and me. She actually enjoys watching the two of us play with each other, and if he is having trouble cumming and my wife is getting a bit sore, I can usually get him off with oral. She also has no problems with my friend and I playing together without her. Of course she sometimes plays with him without me too, and that also turns me on.

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Finally told my wife about two months ago about my past experiences. Was a load off my shoulders. It was the last thing I haven't been open about. This communication stuff is scary but, it's awesome at the same time.

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My wife not only knows but encourages my bi-sexuality. While she has had other women 'touch' and go down on her she isn't ready herself to take the bi-sexual plunge herself but with any luck it'll happen sooner than later but for now she really enjoys watching me suck another man off.

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Finally told my wife about two months ago about my past experiences. Was a load off my shoulders. It was the last thing I haven't been open about. This communication stuff is scary but, it's awesome at the same time.

 

I can totally agree with you!! I told the Mrs the other day that I'm basically bi-curious. Yes, it did feel like the world was lifted off my shoulders. She said that she was excited about knowing and I feel better about it now! So, yes communication and being open to her about it feels better to me now. So now I shall see where this leads!!!

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I can totally agree with you!! I told the Mrs the other day that I'm basically bi-curious. Yes, it did feel like the world was lifted off my shoulders. She said that she was excited about knowing and I feel better about it now! So, yes communication and being open to her about it feels better to me now. So now I shall see where this leads!!!

 

I sure felt better when I admitted my bicuriosity. And it made our discussions of 'others' include other guys. But I still have so many reservations about telling her how really bi I am. What's with that? Heck she doesn't have a problem with me saying how much I'd love to sleep with Candice Olsen, Diane Sawyer, or other celebrity women so why do I think she'd feel badly about my fantasizing about sleeping with Sheldon on Big Bang? Now, don't laugh, I think he's cute!

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It was one of the scariest moments of my life when I told Lizardess that I was bi just after we got engaged (I'm lifelong bi, started with boys because they put out first). That was almost 35 years ago now, so I guess she was OK with it :-)

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We're both bi so it's not a big deal. I mentioned to Mr Frojoe in passing and he confirmed he was too. It's never been an issue and we joke about our masculine and feminine energies all the time especially when it comes to decorating the house.

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When she didn't know, it sucked. I was too afraid to tell her such a horrible thing. Once she knew, life got very interesting. She never ceases to amaze me.

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One problem I admit to having before with past girlfriends has been letting them know I'm bi. When I first got into bi activities and let my GF at the time know, she was NOT happy and it ultimately led to our breakup. So because of that I've been extremely timid about letting them know that A.) I like having relationships with girls and B.) I love fucking women AND Men.

 

As future relationships developed, I found a bi girl who was thrilled about my bisexuality and needless to say, our sexual adventures were fun. Unfortunately, that ended and I haven't been as lucky since. In fact, I've had to sneak around on a few occasions (not many) to get my dick fix and I felt awful when I first did it but as most of you know, the "thrill" of cheating can get the best of somebody, especially since I was cheating with another man. It made me feel dirty for sure. It's something I'm working on to improve as a person.

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Letting my wife know that I was bi was the best thing I've done in my long married life. And, honestly, if I were to be single again I wouldn't even go out on a date with a woman who wasn't OK with me being lifestyle-friendly and bisexual. Both of those understandings simply make conversations easy.

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She must at least suspect that I am! I've been hinting at it since we started having sex. I've told her that I was active in the swinging lifestyle, there was almost nothing I wouldn't do, and we frequently share my cum. Still, the idea the idea of my bisexuality eludes her.

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She must at least suspect that I am! I've been hinting at it since we started having sex. I've told her that I was active in the swinging lifestyle, there was almost nothing I wouldn't do, and we frequently share my cum. Still, the idea the idea of my bisexuality eludes her.

 

Seriously?

 

She doesn't get it?

 

Have you played any threesome scenarios out that end in it?

 

That is how my husband came to know that I would love to do oral with him (and more).

 

After our RP we discussed it all. He had come only a few minutes prior and was rock hard leaking as we talked about it. He will never admit it but it turns him on something royally.

 

And he clearly knows how I feel about it. Y U M ! ! !

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We have recently been approached by a married guy (who claims to be in an open relationship with his wife, but his wife does not know he is bi-curious at the very least). He says he has and I quote him here; "sounded her out" about it and he says she is not ready to hear the truth.

 

Now granted my husband and I are bi, and openly so, I understand other people may not be openly bi. I can't help but wonder if his marriage and his open relationship hall pass would be a lot smoother if he just told her. Needless to say this guy has red flags in regards to possible future play. But this thread got me thinking about this guy we know and his situation.

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Yes. They should be open with each other 100%. I could even understand if he was bi and she was not into guy/guy action and let him do that on his on, but at least she knows.

 

I agree. :-)

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If she was ok w/him doing his own thing with bi play (doesn't want to hear about it), would you as a couple play with him?

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If she was ok w/him doing his own thing with bi play (doesn't want to hear about it), would you as a couple play with him?

 

Interesting question and we have found ourselves in this situation before with another guy from a couple we played with.

 

To answer your question, the answer would be no. Because of previous experiences with people who have told us "yes my wife knows and supports me and wants me to experience things", more times than not, we have found ourselves face to face with the wife who was definitely not OK with it all. And we're open and honest people when we play. Getting caught up in lies or half-truths or people who can't seem to walk as they talk, has just made us very much more aware of the backgrounds of people whom we choose to play with.

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One current gf hooked up wi me specifically because she only dates or plays wi bi males. Other has no problem with it & would not mind a 3sm with a pair of bi males. Couple others I played with last year had some experience with bi males & zero problem with them. Bottom line is very few Women I've met & had sex with in the past year lacked experience with or had a problem with bi males.

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gsu22 I know right where you are coming from. I had a long time girlfriend that did not know I was Bi. Had been texting with a guy and she snooped through my phone. Boy did shit hit the fan. Why? Why do you do that? Finally told her I thought I was Bi. Not a pretty scene. Just one person's stigma and being very unsure with themselves and the relationship.

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My wife encouraged my bi side many years ago and has enjoyed watching me since! She loves to lay back and masturbate while my partner and I play...really turns her on.

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I told my wife on our fourth date. She had a lot of questions like did I prefer men or not. And she asked what I liked about it, I listed all that came to mind. She said that's the same things she like. So she said that she didn't know if it's a turn on or not. She was only the second woman I told this to. We're married a year later. Two years into our marriage I told her I was having strong desires to suck a dick. She got a strap on and we bought p***. She got the idea what kind of dick I like. After first time she was disgusted with me. She could not think of me at the man after seeing me on my knees in front of another man. We were soon divorced. Two months after divorce she called me up she want a threesome with me and her new boyfriend. I've done that with three different boyfriend of hers She said when she sees a guy with the perfect penis she thinks of me.

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On 2/13/2013 at 5:34 AM, 19Wolf-Man51 said:

My wife knows. I don't know how you can keep it quiet!

I want to bring this to light once again. Had my husband been bi prior to me meeting him I most certainly would have wanted him to tell me. I am with wolf-man, I don't know how you can keep it quiet and why would you? You are supposed to be best friends for life how could you keep this from your future mate for life? And what if he'd developed interest during our marriage, the same goes, keeping it a secret would only cause issues down the road. So what if we never venture down that road in real life we could have some serious fun in role play. Why not share everything in your life with the one you love the most? We play so many ways now that we have opened up to each other about all of our crazy thoughts, interests, and desires. Many we do not fulfill live with others but we do have fun with them. We love sex talk, discussing what is on our minds. If your partner cannot handle it, perhaps they are not the true one for you?

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Absolutely Not, I am a Midwest middle aged male married for 10 years and the wife would be Shocked if she knew that I love to SUCK and Swallow another man's CUM. 

Wish she would join me, but this is the life I currently live in. 

Swing bi, thanks 

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Dbi, does your wife swing with you? Or are you doing this all by yourself, with her having no knowledge of your extracurricular activities?

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22 hours ago, AdamGunn2 said:

Dbi, does your wife swing with you? Or are you doing this all by yourself, with her having no knowledge of your extracurricular activities?

Yeah, my question too.

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I started playing bi after she told me that watching guys play turned her on. So yes she knows. She told me she was bi the first week we were together. 

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Of curse she knows I'm bi.  She's watched when we played with another bi couple, and I would never go behind her back. OTOH, the number of males that have contacted me and couldn't or don't tell their partner is big.  That's a hard pass for me.

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On 2/13/2013 at 3:34 AM, 19Wolf-Man51 said:

Does she know that you're Bi?

As a woman with a Lesbian side, I ask myself that question whenever I hit it off with a cute girl.  But even if there is mutual Lezzi interest, I have found that being bi can also be a deal breaker.  Quite a high percentage of Lesbian women don't want to be involved with another woman who also likes men.

 

Men, OTOH, don't care if a woman is licking other pussy. 

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