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You know, a lot of men would love to see their wife with another lady. And, I know some wives feel the same way about their husband with another man.

 

So, would you wives like to see your husband with a guy?

 

And, guys, would you like for your wife to be there when you're with a guy?

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I am very turned on when I watch Brian playing with another man. It is very erotic to see them sucking each others cock and I usually join in on the fun after a few minutes!

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Thank you all for the frank, and honest, responses. I asked for benefit of some friends of mine. Three other bisexual, married, men and me sort of share resources and woes. LOL! Three of our wifes know about our bisexual interest. Three of our wives have been involved with us in the lifestyle. None are currently interested in either right now and it's nice to have friends in the same boats to exchange with. We've all emailed each of the others over the years and we finally just make a private yahoo group so it's easier. But, we don't have any couples or ladies there to ask questions and I appreciate the responses here. Thanks!

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Don't expect much positive response here about this. Google women's most popular sexual fantasies and using a strap-on and seeing 2 guys ranks above 2 girls (though that is on the top 10 as well) but you would NEVER know that was even on the radar if you took the pulse in the LS. You are flat out told (as we've been) that if you list as a bi curious male here you diminish your chances by a 100.

 

Then of course you get the whole homophobic tirades about how men who suck dick are really fags in denial and not really bi curious or sexually comfortable while the women (often the man's wife making this statement) ARE of course JUST exploring. What we can't figure out is whether this is just due to the men's insecurities or if the lifestyle simply for some reason draws women who are far more averse to this then the average vanilla female out there.

 

What is really funny, in a sad kind of way, is that at the same time, I can out about 8 couples just this month who have contacted us who are listed bi female straight male with comments about well he really DOES have an interest or have played we just don't list THAT. Unfortunately the standard - that EVERYONE seems to talk about here but few seem to live up to (with regards to this issue at least) is be honest and communicate. We've declined these couples because if they're going to lie about this, then what else are they not telling us about.

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Corynlaine - While I agree with your post in general, and there are a LOT of closet bi guys in the lifestyle just for fun I googled women's sexual fantasy's most common. Nothing on first page had two guys going at it. While I don't put a lot of faith in such lists, being I think most are just pulled out of the ass of the author or a bad vogue style survey, what I do think is that people tend to rank their own kink higher than it really is. Swingers see swingers EVERYWHERE, that sort of thing.

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I can say that my wife is "Extremely" turned on with ideal of me and another guy having sex! She has been really convincing me to do it for the last 3 years after I told I had sex with a couple guys while I was in the Navy (I was young & full of cum)! In fact while we are having foreplay she fantasizes while I tell her about some of sexual things I did with me the guys. So now she wants her fantasy to come true. So wants me to setup a meet & greet with a guy (that she likes) at a hotel and fulfill the fantasy. We both have been swinging for 10 years off and on, but I never an had an sex with the other guy while we swapping partners, so now she wants to try the bisexual with a guy experience as well as joint in. So at this point I have no problems with it. Actually I think it maybe fun!

 

Note: She has had sex with more than a few women, so now she saying (joking) if she did it now it time for me to have sex a guy(s)! Basically in a nutshell she saying (what's is good for the goose is good for the gander)! Lol

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Note: She has had sex with more than a few women, so now she saying (joking) if she did it now it time for me to have sex a guy(s)! Basically in a nutshell she saying (Whats is good for the Goose is good for the Gander)! Lol

 

If you think it's fun that is one thing. If she was joking about the quote above that is fine. If she was serious, then the whole tit for tat thing is a very bad reason to do something sexually.

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Slevin

 

I think you are taking my comments way too serious! (The last comment ended with LOL) We have a lot of fun, we play with each other as well as we joke with each other and we do a lot of things together. We have been married for 10 years and we have been swinging for 10 years. So to be frank swinging has brought us closer together over the years. We don't have any problems asking each other to do something (Joking or Serious)! Thanks for your comment!

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I think it's going to be a new, and very enjoyable, experience for you both! Go for it! Oh, and let us know how it went, OK?

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I think you are taking my comments way too serious! (The last comment ended with LOL) We have a lot of fun, we play with each other as well as we joke with each other and we do a lot of things together. We have been married for 10 years and we have been swinging for 10 years. So to be frank swinging has brought us closer together over the years. We don't have any problems asking each other to do something (Joking or Serious)! Thanks for your comment!

 

In a text based medium it's tough to really know the tone of something like that. Even with an 'lol'. So I was just making a comment, which pointed out that if she was joking around then no big deal.

 

Cheers.

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I think it's going to be a new, and very enjoyable, experience for you both! Go for it! Oh, and let us know how it went, OK?

 

Yes I'm looking forward to. I think it's not only going to be different but I think going to be fun for all three of us. My wife and I are already preparing for it with her using a strap-on on me! She is excited! Let you know how it goes. Thanks.

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Cool! Roleplay is not only good preparation..., it's fun! :) So, have fun and we'll look forward to hearing about the real thing.

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The first time I saw my guy suck cock, I nearly passed out from arousal. He's more het flex than bi, as am I, but it was really hot and watching gave me a few pointers about new ways to please him.

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My wife is a hot Latino and her pussy was soaking wet the first time. We had been talking about this fantasy of bi oral sex for a while. It is a great way to include everyone.

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The first time I watched him I came without even touching myself. Watching him close his eyes and slowly take that cock all the way in, I have a gag but he does not, it was such a turn-on watching him go to town. Now when we play he is a cock hog and I have to push him out of the way. lol

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My honey and I were just talking about the Obama support of same sex marriage and girl girl sex came up. I thought that people were ok with that, but not ok with man kissing man etc. I'm guessing a bill that supports female same sex but not male same sex marriage would pass both houses and most states without a hitch.

 

She then re-iterated her deep interest and desire to watch men get it on. Say's she'd love to see men kissing, deeply and passionately.

 

We have played with men together a couple of times and it always gets her going and I'd be lying if I didn't say I do it not only for her, but for me. I love to suck cock to completion, sooo satisfying.

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She gets really turned on seeing him suck dick. During one of our experiences we were masturbating in a parked car with a male friend. She watched our friend come in his mouth and got so wet from it.

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Mr. Doe had a persistent fantasy about sucking cock, which was fine with me because I'm turned on by guy/guy. Now that he's experienced it several times, he's happy that no body parts are off limits during sex, but he's not particularly drawn there anymore. Fortunately, he really does get how much I like it, so he'll keep it in his repertoire.

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She has experienced it with a previous boyfriend in a MFM threesome, he was fully bi, she loved it.

 

We've done quite a few MFM's, it's all been straight stuff. I get totally turned off and want to throw up even at the thought of even kissing another guy. I think it's the only thing i don't do for her.

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Mr. Doe had a persistent fantasy about sucking cock, which was fine with me because I'm turned on by guy/guy. Now that he's experienced it several times, he's happy that no body parts are off limits during sex, but he's not particularly drawn there anymore. Fortunately, he really does get how much I like it, so he'll keep it in his repertoire.

 

love this post, very sexy! thanks for sharing :)

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My husband and I have been talking about sharing a penis together! The thought of it really turns me on for a lot of reasons.

 

1) Total uninhibited pleasurable sex. I think it's sad that even in an open community like swinging male bisexuality is taboo. We thought swinging was about doing the taboo!

 

2) Watching someone completely open up is like freeing them emotionally. You get to see them at their naughtiest! ;-)

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We have shared a number of penises. It is a huge turn-on for me. Mr OCC knows I love it and even though it isn't his favorite thing, he does it for me. He enjoys it too, just seems to have trouble acknowledging it. But his hard-on gives him away LOL.

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That is how we started swinging us when I told her I'd sucked a cock of a buddy in high school. She asked if I still wanted to and I said of course but that I'm married. She gave me the win win for everyone scenario and we've never looked back. We share every cock and she always makes sure I kick her juices off his cock after she fucks him. I love watching her get fucked and she loves Watching me suck cock.

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I am turned on by parts of it. My husband is not bi but I do get aroused by other men who are. I enjoy spreading guys for a nice c***, love sharing a nice c*** with a guy, and really love taking cum with a guy. All of these would greatly turn me on if my husband would do this with me. Beyond that I would not like it - kissing, him doing a guy, holding hands, I am uncertain but those things gross me out. I can't grasp why some of it doesn't and some of it does.

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I was orally bi for years before coming out to the wife. I was assuming, like a lot of us, that she would be horrified. Much to my amazement, she took to it like a pro. We tend to focus on her most of the time but she will always get me between his legs and pass his dick between our mouths for awhile. Her pussy juice will actually run down her leg while we do this. A look of pure lust on her face while our eyes are locked and my mouth is full.

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My wife loves not just to watch but join in. It started after she wanted to watch gay porn, which may her so wet. Fantasy became reality after we did a MFM were he was orally bi, after he has sucked me with her I shared his with her. She had one of the biggest cums so far. We are looking for a bi couple to join us.

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We now have 7 of our 8 men who will do most anything as long a woman is there it plead with them, guide them, even force them if need be, but mostly they will do it because they see how much it turns us on. We are all like many of the wives here; it is visibly evident how much we get into it by how much we flow like rivers down our legs. Two guys in a 69 a wife here and there guiding a penis into a mouth, pressing a head down, down, down with two guys taking them anally as we wives hold their legs and help spread their h…., Typically 4 men have to take turns going at it but when they are able to all go at it at the same time it is AMAZING! We have had them all cum so close together so many times, I can’t describe how incredible it is to watch and be a part of and how wet we all get. It is one of my favorite things to take part in watching.

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I think there are many wives in just in the swinger community that want to watch her husband suck another man's cock but has never said anything to him about afraid he would get mad. If my wife wanted to watch me suck another man's cock I would have no problem.

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My wife loves to watch me go down on another guy. She says it is the biggest turn on she has ever experienced. That is as far as I have gone to this point. She keeps hinting about me trying anal, not up to it yet.

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I love seeing my bi, crossdressed husband suck cock and be sucked. It turns me on! I have masterbated while watching him suck cock all dresssd up. I love hearing stories about when he has gone to adult theaters and acted like a slut and sucked a few guys.

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Babe is turned off by male-male play. She has no issues with bi men and will play with them. However, she will politely excuse herself if two men are playing together.

I'm straight and men don't do anything for me, but its neither here nor there for me. If I'm in a room where two men are playing, more power to them. You go boys!

I don't mind being asked, either. All the bi men I've met, and almost all the gay men I've met, have been polite and respectful when I say "no thank you."

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My wife LOVES watching (or even thinking about) me enjoying guy on guy play. Many times she is not even there, but she LOVES to hear about the details and then we fuck like bunnies afterward! I consider myself very lucky that she approves of and encourages it. And I enjoy it as much for myself as the fact that it excites her. It has really opened up our communication-- as, indeed, the lifestyle in general has. And it is quite freeing to have her continued acceptance and allow myself the freedom to be myself without shame or guilt.

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She DEFINATELY loves watching me with cock!!! Especially, when she is with her steady, me with another male,!!!

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We are both super good with same sex partners.  The only trouble is finding the ones that are real.   Both are very oral and helping the other with a same sex playmate is our favorite situation.    

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I am always surprised at the number of homophobic people there are in the LS. In our area if you list your self as bi curious (male) you will substantially reduce your replies. We have been told by several ladies that they won't play with a bi male because they don't want any guy checking out their man's butt! 

OTH couples that we are close to have said that they ARE bi curious but know what will happen if they voice that. We live in an ultra religious/conservative part of the country and while they are good with female bi/bi-curious, they aren't ok with males.  For a group that is supposed to be open minded we have found that their open mind snaps shut like a bear trap at the suggestion of male on male play.☹️.

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It’s been a good 8 years since I replied on this thread and wow how things have progressed!

 

I have been since college and still am VERY into the sexual acts of bi-men. When we opened our marriage to other couples most of we wives thought alike and those who didn’t eventually did. We all are VERY into it! Most of the husbands were either bi or hetero flex (I think is the term), perhaps its bi flex.

 

It took my husband the longest but eventually he has joined in with the guys. I cannot do justice with words how crazy nympho it makes me. As I mentioned being involved with the other couples all these years has been amazing but now, I get so turned on I get into that freaky mode like “use me in every way possible or us my husband in every way possible while I help.” My guy is pretty much lets what happens happen now and he is apparently darn good at it because all the guys are always wanting him to suck them off and to blanket blank him over and over. He gets more booty calls or wait it that cock calls than any of us.

 

We do not ever do anything separate, it is always about sharing the experience live in person. Besides, my guy so far still is not going to give it up (either hole) unless I am there working/guiding it all.  He said it is just not a desire of his but he does love doing it with and for me. Gotta love this Man!!!

 

So yes, for me, SUPER  HOT, Super Into It, and Super “Drives me Wild!”   Such a Huge Turn On!!!  I have a large number of friends who feel the same wildness as I do about it.

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For whatever reason we fit the stereotypes of the women play with one another while the guys do not, although they are not shy during an MFM.  Gayness doesn't offend us, it just hasn't popped up in our situation.  

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On 2/1/2021 at 12:33 PM, couplers said:

For whatever reason we fit the stereotypes of the women play with one another while the guys do not, although they are not shy during an MFM.  Gayness doesn't offend us, it just hasn't popped up in our situation.  

That right there is part of the problem. Sorry to call you out directly but that seems to be the stigma. If two bi women are engaged in sexual acts it’s just that. Same situation with two bi men and now it’s gay? I’ve found the whole “no judgment” in the lifestyle to be complete bullshit. 

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On 5/20/2021 at 6:33 AM, Thegreyarea said:

that seems to be the stigma. If two bi women are engaged in sexual acts it’s just that. Same situation with two bi men and now it’s gay?

It is not a stigma, but yes, if two men are sexually engaged with each other, it is gay, homosexual.  Just as I do not shy from saying that I engage in homosexual, Lesbian acts - it is not my "bi" side, it is my Lesbian side.

 

Is strict male homosexuality less frequent than strict female homosexuality?  I don't know, from my personal experience it is probably more frequent.

 

Bisexuality in men vs. women?  I don't know the answer to that one either, but I suspect there are more bisexual women than bisexual men.

 

Why is all of this?  Someone needs to explain it to me.

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14 hours ago, couplers said:

It is not a stigma, but yes, if two men are sexually engaged with each other, it is gay, homosexual.  Just as I do not shy from saying that I engage in homosexual, Lesbian acts - it is not my "bi" side, it is my Lesbian side.

 

Is strict male homosexuality less frequent than strict female homosexuality?  I don't know, from my personal experience it is probably more frequent.

 

Bisexuality in men vs. women?  I don't know the answer to that one either, but I suspect there are more bisexual women than bisexual men.

 

Why is all of this?  Someone needs to explain it to me.

I’m just postulating here. Don’t flame me, please.

 

I think the ‘it’s okay for women but not men’ comes from the historic concept that men who have sex with other men are weak. As the idea that non-monogamous sex is ‘bad’ from the time we are small, so is the concept that gay sex for men is ‘bad.’ (Yes, that’s changing, but only in the last thirty years, give or take.)

 

A non-woke male will assume that if a man even touches another man’s dick he’s weak, he’s not a real man. So that man won’t ever stop to consider, well, it’s only sex, who really cares. A tremendous amount of vitriol is spewed upon ‘gay’ men, still, and a ‘bi’ man will be the recipient of that hate as well.

 

Women, on the other hand, will be looked upon by those same men with the chauvinistic attitude that, ‘well, they were born weak, so it’s okay for them.’

 

It is right? Hell, no. But, I think, it’s a fact of life in this day and age.

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