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Why do women accept bisexuality better than men? We have noticed that in swinger´s parties, women always kiss, touch, and lick each other. Men never or rarely do the same with other men, at least in the open.

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I'm going to hazard a guess that there is an explanation for the taboo. The bi or gay man is stereotyped as being feminine, swishy, ineffectual. That is not always the case, but that is the perception. A guy who wants to explore his bi side may be fearful of someone thinking of him as "less of a man." That is a pretty good deterrent.

 

Then, as in my case, the urge to connect physically with another man is very limited. I'm not afraid of the "incidental" touching, but to suck a cock or have one inserted in me is just not something that interests me.

 

Thoughts.

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Yea, I don't know Wornsilver, could be. Since homosexuality and bisexuality have been around as long as humans, it has to be an influence of some kind. I hazard a guess at what I consider the root of all evil, religion.

Religion takes good people and scares us into going against our nature. We can't all fit into this one size box. So, feed an opinion to the masses, watch it grow, enjoy the benefits. Whatever they are. Money, power, influence. I'm pretty sure that had it not been etched into my skull that gay men were less of a man, I would not have felt that way into my 30s. I was never religious, but the rant began with 'crime against god'.

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We have been to several parties and there is plenty of bisexual play among the females and none with the men. From reading on here and other places this is very common. I have asked my husband why it’s okay for me to be with everyone and he would never think about being with another guy. He said he has no desire. I have seen all male porn. The guys were great looking. I was not into watching what they did. Bottom line the status quo is good for me.

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Rookie attempting to answer. Could be the perception of female energy vs male energy? Women always look like women regardless of the partner cause female energy is so fluid. It matches MMF FFM FFF etc. While women can alter it through taking a dominant role it is just another hue of the same energy. Social constructs define male energy. And it is difficult to see it in another light particularly when it clashes with other male energy. Some of us (myself included) super open minded and it takes 1st hand experience or experimenting from a safe place to realize male energy is fluid.

 

FYI - Love all the open minded ppl and shared experiences.

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Thanks for all opinions. Just my point of view, which can be discussed or challenged in this forum: a straight or bi woman will never feel less woman by having a casual sexual relationship with another woman. She continue to like men or like both genders. The mentality of most men is different, for reasons of ingrained culture, prejudice, even religion, as has been said.

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You're right, there isn't much acceptance of bi men in the swingers community. In the poly community it's very commonplace and not looked down on. I have friends who are bi who won't put it on their swinging profiles because they won't get anyone contacting them. In swinging they just let things happen when swinging and I would say most of the time they find that the other husband is bi also and doesn't put it on his profile. In a community that seems to think it's more evolved than vanillas you'd think this would have more evolved attitudes, also.

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You're right, there isn't much acceptance of bi men in the swingers community. In the poly community it's very commonplace and not looked down on. I have friends who are bi who won't put it on their swinging profiles because they won't get anyone contacting them. In swinging they just let things happen when swinging and I would say most of the time they find that the other husband is bi also and doesn't put it on his profile. In a community that seems to think it's more evolved than vanillas you'd think this would have more evolved attitudes, also.

 

I'll agree with WesternSwing... Another community that is more evolved and more comfortable with male bisexuality is the kink community, but they are also closer to the poly community so it all fits...

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Men have to deal with a stereotype that if they like sucking cock or fucking a guy it means they are not manly.  Women are generally more in touch with their feelings in general, we don't repress as much.  We are also more in tune with close contact and moments of intimatcy with other women than men are.  We are constantly touching each others hair, or helping with makeup, or hugging or cuddling together.  Two women can hold hands and its no big deal but two guys holding hands is called gay.  Its a toxic masculinity issue.  

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I've never been attracted to another guy with his clothes on but occasionally a naked erection will turn me on. With the ladies it's all in the eyes, clothes or naked.

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A former swing buddy was a gorgeous Asian woman who enjoyed pegging guys.  When we put a photo of her behind a guy getting ready to peg him as our profile photo, we were amazed at the number of "straight" guys who contacted us and begged for her to peg them.  When we got together with them and she had pegged them, we asked some of them why they  showed straight in their profile.  All said that they thought other women would not be interested in them if the women felt that they were not 100% straight.  

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On 4/26/2018 at 2:16 PM, Shaul.Kassia said:

Why do women accept bisexuality better than men? We have noticed that in swinger´s parties, women always kiss, touch, and lick each other. Men never or rarely do the same with other men, at least in the open.

'Cause women are beautiful, sexy flowers and men are disgusting, ugly weeds...

 

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