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I ask this question for my own personal reasons. I am curious about swinging yes. I do have insecurities about my own body and such. And I know that is some of the reason I am hesitant to jump into swapping. We have done one MFM threesome. It was an interesting experience.

 

But to my real reason for posting this. Do yall think that the thought about full swap or even soft swap swinging is easier for Bi Females? Simpy because they have an equal attraction for the both parts of the other couple? Maybe she don't mind as much seeing her husband with another woman because she likes watching her as well? I know I won't really know how I'll feel until I put myself in the situation. I flop back in forth in my mind whether this is a direction I am interested in. My husband has pretty much taken the back seat on all this and said we'll do whatever I am interested in and won't do what I am not. So there is no pressure on me. But from parusing profiles and looking at couples it seems the majority of Full Swap couples has a Bi Female. Which has made me wonder if the straight females do have a harder time overcoming mental blocks of worry and insecurity.

 

Your thoughts?

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My wife is bi-playfull..she's ok with some kissing and touching with other women but it is not a requirement and her prime interest in with men. The g/g interaction is just a little fun for her that has grown over time. So from our experience her not being bi has not hindered our experiences nor added to jealousy. Have we not connected with couples because g/g play is of prime interest to them, sure.

 

There are so many people on different levels in swinging I'm not sure if you can make a corelation between being bi and having an easier time accepting your partner with someone else.

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I don't know about being bi and accepting your partner, but I do think it's easier to find other people to play with. We have been turned down quite a few times because the Mrs is straight.

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I don't know about being bi and accepting your partner, but I do think it's easier to find other people to play with. We have been turned down quite a few times because the Mrs is straight.

 

I can believe this for sure. It's just hard for me sometimes to not get cynical when it does seem that bi fem play is what the majority is looking for and expecting. Not saying I won't ever try it. Just saying it will probably happen when it's not expected. LOL

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I don't have a lot of interest in most women. My interest is in the guys.

 

I think a lot of couples become interested in swinging because the lady is bi and wants to express that. For those ladies, the enticement of being with a woman might help block out some level of insecurity when just fantasizing about swinging, but I bet those insecurities would come to the fore when the husband wants to be with the lady too.

 

Personally, I don't really think it's correlated. Desire to be with the same sex and lack of insecurity about your spouse being with someone else... don't seem related to me. My only insecurity was in how I would feel when I actually did see it. I didn't have any interest in the lady of the first couple we were with, but it was a huge turnon to see my husband with her. That in itself was a surprise.

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Simpy because they have an equal attraction for the both parts of the other couple? Maybe she don't mind as much seeing her husband with another woman because she likes watching her as well?

 

This is certainly a possibility, however, I believe that if you are going to have some difficulty seeing your husband interacting with another woman, that difficulty will be there regardless of what your sexual preference status is.

 

 

Which has made me wonder if the straight females do have a harder time overcoming mental blocks of worry and insecurity.

 

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, IT'S USUALLY A DUCK! LOL. Insecurity is insecurity, no matter what your sexual preference status is.

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The turn on or not I don't think really ties into the key issue here which is jealousy.

 

Mrs. Chicup once told me, 'No offense but seeing your hairy white butt go up and down isn't really a turn on.' but she has had very little jealousy issues.

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The turn on or not I don't think really ties into the key issue here which is jealousy.

 

Mrs. Chicup once told me, 'No offense but seeing your hairy white butt go up and down isn't really a turn on.' but she has had very little jealousy issues.

 

I love how just about any sentence that opens with "No offense" is very likely to offend :lol:

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I love how just about any sentence that opens with "No offense" is very likely to offend :lol:

 

With all due respect...

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I like the description of bi-playful. That is fitting to where my wife is at currently, she likes to kiss and touch other gals, but doens't want anything beyond that currently.

 

I think it's a fine line for ease of swapping with any bi-s, because it's all a judgement call as for how bi someone is.

 

One couple we met and fooled around a bit with at a party had a fully bi female, and while the preliminary stuff was fun for my wife, she didn't want anything beyond that. And the bi wife wanted all bi, seemed to enjoy touching me and vice versa, but wanted my wife more.

 

On a sidenote, the bi wife actually was jealous of her hubby fondling and kissing my wife. She mentioned this afterwards. That kind of took us back, because we had this preconceived notion that anyone in the lifestyle who is bi would be beyond the jealousy stage, but we guess it's not the case. Her husband was noticeably unhappy about it too, guess he's been hoping she would get past that stage but wasn't there yet.

 

Was an interesting lesson to learn for sure. Never really know where anyone else is at unless they come out and tell you. Good part was this gal actually told us. That was really nice since some people don't.

 

 

Back to topic question, from the sheer amount of bi -something females I've seen in the lifestyle, I imagine it is easier for bi-somethings to hook up with other couples. But again, there are many degrees of bi, and that can alter the mix a lot.

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As the Mrs. in our relationship, I also like the title..."Bi-playful"! I had NEVER had a "swap" experience, much less a "Bi-sexual" experience until just over a month or so ago! My husband, who has been in the lifestyle for 14 years told me that he was TAUGHT in the beginning that was how a respectable encounter happened! It was ALWAYS the girls that started the play and the men were SUPPOSED to sit around and visit with each other as they watched the women! Any man who couldn't restrain himself to sit and talk with the guys until the women were done...was considered an extremely disrespectful man! So my first experience was the first time I had ever attended a "private house party" and a woman walking by said something to me like..."hey baby...you're lookin' fine tonite!" To which my husband responded, "This is her first time and she's never been with a woman before!"

Well that immediately prompted the woman to say, "Well come here baby....we're gonna take good care of you!" And they did! I don't know who they were, nor do I remember anything about them other than the whole time was spent ONLY on ME and what I found to be pleasurable! I can't say that made me instantly Bi....

Actually after that I had 2 or 3 more Bi encounters that gradually, with each one, made me less responsive to g/g! I felt bad admitting to my husband that although that first experience was enjoyable just because of how "wrong" it was, I am just not into girls that much! Which happily my husband has said he is fine with!

 

So I probably didn't answer any of your questions....I only admit that although I am open to being adventurous and naughty...I really prefer men! More specifically....my husband!

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Well Good that to me shows just how "expected" girl on girl play is in the lifestyle. It may not necessarily be pushed but the underlying expectation because of how so many do things is there. Is it not?

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Well Good that to me shows just how "expected" girl on girl play is in the lifestyle. It may not necessarily be pushed but the underlying expectation because of how so many do things is there. Is it not?

 

Girl on girl play is very common in the lifestyle. However, I'm in your position of really being interested in men most of the time. Whenever we are talking to a couple we like (if we think they like us) I make sure to get my preferences out in the open before things progress very far. I always ask if girl-girl play is a requirement or even a priority. If it is, then I just let them know they'll do better with another couple. We have met plenty of compatible couples this way. You will too, I'm sure.

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As the Mrs. in our relationship, I also like the title..."Bi-playful"! I had NEVER had a "swap" experience, much less a "Bi-sexual" experience until just over a month or so ago! My husband, who has been in the lifestyle for 14 years told me that he was TAUGHT in the beginning that was how a respectable encounter happened! It was ALWAYS the girls that started the play and the men were SUPPOSED to sit around and visit with each other as they watched the women! Any man who couldn't restrain himself to sit and talk with the guys until the women were done...was considered an extremely disrespectful man! So my first experience was the first time I had ever attended a "private house party" and a woman walking by said something to me like..."hey baby...you're lookin' fine tonite!" To which my husband responded, "This is her first time and she's never been with a woman before!"

Well that immediately prompted the woman to say, "Well come here baby....we're gonna take good care of you!" And they did! I don't know who they were, nor do I remember anything about them other than the whole time was spent ONLY on ME and what I found to be pleasurable! I can't say that made me instantly Bi....

Actually after that I had 2 or 3 more Bi encounters that gradually, with each one, made me less responsive to g/g! I felt bad admitting to my husband that although that first experience was enjoyable just because of how "wrong" it was, I am just not into girls that much! Which happily my husband has said he is fine with!

 

So I probably didn't answer any of your questions....I only admit that although I am open to being adventurous and naughty...I really prefer men! More specifically....my husband!

 

My response is a thread hijack from the original question, but wow...SUPPOSED TO..., ALWAYS... that seems so extreme to me. We've never been forced into anything and express our preferences both via profile and discussions with others.

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