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I have a situation that I'm trying to figure out.

 

We've got a neighborhood woman that we're pretty good friends with. She's got a son who is almost 18. Here's the dilemma.

 

Ken has been a bit of an older brother/father figure to him for awhile. We hire him to help Ken out with remodelling stuff on the house, and stuff like that.

 

Well, over Labor Day it became somewhat clear that he finds me attractive.

 

Part of me has been thinking that he's a nice guy, and young guy cute. After he turns 18, he might be fun to play with.

 

Another part of me is going, do i really want a guy that much younger? He's had girlfriends, but he might still be a virgin (that's been a long time since I was with a virgin).

 

And yet another part of me is going "DANGER!! DANGER!!". Would he be able to see it as just a fun time? Would he brag about it to his friends? He's pretty reliable and level-headed, but he is a teenaged boy.

 

Any thoughts?

 

Rachel

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Depends partly on how old you are.

 

If you're over thirty, chances are you're old, old, old, old, old to him anyhow.

 

Assuming you're younger, then.

 

At age 18 (or less? as you say). You bet you're house he will tell his buddies.

 

Time to consider relocating, maybe.

 

Either that or invite his folks to your club.

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I have a situation that I'm trying to figure out.

 

We've got a neighborhood woman that we're pretty good friends with. She's got a son who is almost 18. Here's the dilemma.

 

Ken has been a bit of an older brother/father figure to him for awhile. We hire him to help Ken out with remodelling stuff on the house, and stuff like that.

 

Well, over Labor Day it became somewhat clear that he finds me attractive.

 

Part of me has been thinking that he's a nice guy, and young guy cute. After he turns 18, he might be fun to play with.

 

Another part of me is going, do i really want a guy that much younger? He's had girlfriends, but he might still be a virgin (that's been a long time since I was with a virgin).

 

And yet another part of me is going "DANGER!! DANGER!!". Would he be able to see it as just a fun time? Would he brag about it to his friends? He's pretty reliable and level-headed, but he is a teenaged boy.

 

Any thoughts?

 

Rachel

 

Didn't I see this on Desperate Housewives or something? :lol:

 

My advice would be to just use the fantasy to heat up the sheets between you and hubby. Otherwise, leave it be. As SuAndBud said, he's young, and he's going to brag to his buddies. His Mom will get wind of it, and THEN you've got a problem.

 

And just because he finds you attractive doesn't make it a problem. You don't have to actually DO anything about that. It's no secret that men hit the hornball stage in their early 20's, and this young fellow is, I'm sure, no exception. Of course he finds you attractive! Lots of younger guys have "mature woman" fantasies. I work at a university and am surrounded by young hotties (male AND female) all day. Don't think for a second that I haven't noticed some chemistry there! The thing is, I've been burned once by the "Don't shit where you eat" rule...which makes it much easier to follow now. ;) Very mild, playful flirting is...okay. But I have to be VERY careful that I don't cross a very fine line between friendliness and unprofessionalism. It just means steering conversations back onto more appropriate topics, not doing stupid things like offering them a ride somewhere if we happen to both be going the same way, and being careful that I dress "office sexy" but not so much so that it embarrasses the department. I like to think I put just enough je ne sais quoi out there to make them wonder what I'm like behind closed doors. And that's where it ends. :kissface:

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Swinging with neighbors is a bad idea I believe. If things go sour...you're still neighbors and that can get complicated. All things ignored I'd pass on ground of them simply being neighbors.

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Swinging with neighbors is a bad idea I believe. If things go sour...you're still neighbors and that can get complicated. All things ignored I'd pass on ground of them simply being neighbors.

 

 

Dito

 

Not only that but what do you tell his mother if she finds out? I mean after all he may be 18 but he is her baby and up until now your huband has put himself in a position of, as you said, a father figure, someone he trusts. Some how saying "I waited until he turns legal" really isn't going to make her feel much better. I know, speaking as a mother, I wouldn't be too thrilled that my 18 year old was carrying on with a married woman, even if her husband knew. Then if the mother knows you can be sure that the other neighbours are going to find out pretty quick and soon you are the talk of the neighbourhood. :eek: . You have to remember that I tend to think of the worst case scenario here, but I think there is a lot of value in that in this particular instance.

 

 

Personally I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. There are lots of swingers out there you can play with, why get into a potentially ugly situation.

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WOW. "The Graduate" revisited.

 

I have swung with my next-door neighbors before, and our relationship has lasted throughout all these years ... even tho we're not neighbors anymore (I was just talking to the husband last night, as a matter of fact).

 

But it's not something that I recommend. Too many things can potentially go wrong.

 

I have also swung with ... umm ... "young adults" let's call them, and I find the generation gap to be so wide that to me it's like a visit to a different solar system. When you ask "Do you have any Fleetwood Mac?" and you get the reply "Who's Fleetwood Mac?" when you know you're on different planes of existence. So I stick to my own age group, 10 years either way from my own age.

 

So far as a male teen of 18yo goes, I remember what I was like when I was 18 ... and anything with two legs and a pair of breasts was lusted after (flash some skin and it was some good masturbation material!). And so that's what I perceive this as: teenage lust. Nothing more than hormones a-ragin'.

 

I personally don't like the scenerio that Rachel painted, and were I in her shoes, I would be flattered but I wouldn't touch it with a ten-foot pole.

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I think I have to agree with the Majority here, Neighbors are not good, People you are Good friends with are not good, THEIR CHILDREN NOT GOOD, Come on you know this is bad why ask?

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Danger Will Robinson, Danger...

 

Try to put yourself in the place of this kids mother, how would you feel if an older neighbor had sex with your son. Better off not to do these things in your own neighborhood, the backlash could be more than you bargained for. :(

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Yeah, you're all telling me about what I figured.

 

Dumb idea.

 

I have to disagree a little bit with the "don't swing with friends" as that is what we tend to do. But I can see the other points.

 

Sigh, I guess just a lady in her 30s letting her mind get away with her about some teenager (who she actually really knew) finding her hot:-)

 

Thanks all.

 

Rachel

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If you do it...then the whole neighborhood will know about it, all his friends will know about it and on top of that they will all probably want to meet you also.....

 

Do you want that?

 

Single 18 year old male in the neighborhood....I'd say leave it to fantasy.

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Can't think of a better way to mess up your neighborhood and maybe even your whole world.

Relax, and let this fantasy stay just that.

My .02.

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It will be so hot to have but perhaps to hot to handle too. If you really like the idea do it but not with you neighbor.It is bad luck.

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Well, even tho you don't go through with it, which is what I am hearing here, do the boy a favor and keep it in mind when he is around. Speaking as a "former 18 year old with a crush on the hot older neighbor lady" I got through some dry times fantacizing about how things would go. Tease him a little but make smoochie with the hubby when he is around. He's watching you like a hawk and ANY little undone button or visable panty line will get him going. Keep an eye on the package and make sure you give him some timber as a reward but keep him at arms length. I think you and hubby may benefit from all this too. But I agree, "thinking is the best way to travel". facelick

Freddy

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Make it fun JUST teasing when he is over 18.

If it gets any more serious the fantasy...always use the party masks and darkened room. Have the party at another neighborhood without him knowing you are there. BUT the invitation has to come from someone else than you. Be creative and have a friend over the house to hit on him.

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Run Forest...run!

 

If your house it up for sale and the moving truck is in the driveway - go for it, otherwise - BIG :kma: from the rest of the neighbourhood.

 

I have a neighbour who is fairly good looking, nice tits, my wife's age - don't go there - especially their kids.

 

As for the teasing, may be fun but still dangerous.

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