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Congratulations. You've found a great way to begin your LifeStyle journey. Enjoy it.

 

You seem to understand one of the axioms, that things always change. When they do - you may decide to try out other fantasies, or relationship with the couple you've found may change - be open to that as well.

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I value my friendships. There's always that thought in the back of my mind that they will get bored and want to move on. That aspect of this is a bummer. Like I wrote before though, it's fun, and it will be while it lasts!

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wow (I know not a very civilized expression, but it's what came to mind).

Starting to look just for fun but finding a lot more.

Congratulations

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This relationship with this couple is growing into something quite amazing. We've spent time with them every weekend since the first weekend we met them. It's become so much more than swinging, and all four of us are completely on the same page!

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Update: We are still with this couple, and we have fallen for them! It seems this sort of thing is rare! It's been a wild ride to this point, and we did hit a little bump in the road, but it's all good now. Next up is a trip to the mountains in Colorado!

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Lovely! Personally, my husband and I prefer to keep things more casual and more intermittent. We have a nice group of couples we've known for sometime (some longer than others) and have wonderful get togethers now and then with at least one, if not all, of them. It's great your's has developed into a poly relationship that you really enjoy and are comfortable with. I hope it continues to go well! By the way, I'm curious, is it strictly MF swapping?

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Lovely! Personally, my husband and I prefer to keep things more casual and more intermittent. We have a nice group of couples we've known for sometime (some longer than others) and have wonderful get togethers now and then with at least one, if not all, of them. It's great your's has developed into a poly relationship that you really enjoy and are comfortable with. I hope it continues to go well! By the way, I'm curious, is it strictly MF swapping?

 

It has been MF swapping. He and I have no interest in MM, although our wives have played a little while we're all in the same bed. It hasn't been strictly all four of us all of the time though. We've gone on a couple of separate dates. The most recent being this last weekend. I took his wife to a concert, because we both are really into music, and he took my wife out to a nice dinner and some drinks. We all met up afterward for a quick drink and chat. We all had a wonderful time!

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It has been MF swapping. He and I have no interest in MM, although our wives have played a little while we're all in the same bed. It hasn't been strictly all four of us all of the time though. We've gone on a couple of separate dates. The most recent being this last weekend. I took his wife to a concert, because we both are really into music, and he took my wife out to a nice dinner and some drinks. We all met up afterward for a quick drink and chat. We all had a wonderful time!

 

Oh, great! Yes, I figured if it was anything, it would be WW, not MM, as that is more typical (it's how it is with us, as I am bisexual, so I'm often with another woman, but my husband only has interest in women). Sounds more casual for your wife (and the other women) to be involved in WW activity compared to how it is for us. Very nice you were able to take the different wives out on those dates, makes things better when you can share interests like that (and did you have sex with them during the date, then the four of you get together to play again or just the latter to cap the night?). So lovely to have options like that! :)

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Oh, great! Yes, I figured if it was anything, it would be WW, not MM, as that is more typical (it's how it is with us, as I am bisexual, so I'm often with another woman, but my husband only has interest in women). Sounds more casual for your wife (and the other women) to be involved in WW activity compared to how it is for us. Very nice you were able to take the different wives out on those dates, makes things better when you can share interests like that (and did you have sex with them during the date, then the four of you get together to play again or just the latter to cap the night?). So lovely to have options like that! :)

 

Actually, we didn't have any sex that night! It was just a really wonderful time had by all, and it reaffirmed to all of us what we have and how truly special it is. Our Colorado trip is coming up soon, there will be plenty of bedroom activities!

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Actually, we didn't have any sex that night! It was just a really wonderful time had by all, and it reaffirmed to all of us what we have and how truly special it is.

 

Watch out! All those people with "red flag" emojis will be popping up saying how you are endangering your marriages.

 

Why that is, I don't know. Why should it be that it is considered a bad thing for people you're having sex with (or that your spouse is having sex with) to actually care about him or her as a person? To treat them well and enjoy activities other than sex? I never understood why someone would prefer screwing (or having your spouse screw) a stranger who would just dump them to the curb after it's over.

 

It sounds like you have created four great relationships. Keep it going and keep us updated.

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Watch out! All those people with "red flag" emojis will be popping up saying how you are endangering your marriages.

 

Why that is, I don't know. Why should it be that it is considered a bad thing for people you're having sex with (or that your spouse is having sex with) to actually care about him or her as a person? To treat them well and enjoy activities other than sex? I never understood why someone would prefer screwing (or having your spouse screw) a stranger who would just dump them to the curb after it's over.

 

It sounds like you have created four great relationships. Keep it going and keep us updated.

 

We have created a wonderful relationship, and the four of us have discussed at length the potential dangers of having such a relationship. As I've said, we're all on the same page. We had fun swinging, but realized after we found them, that we wanted more than just swinging, and they were looking for more too. This whole experience has been a pretty wild ride to say the least!

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So lovely you have that with them, the four of you can depend on each other, help each other and, yes, enjoy time with each other (whether it's sexually or not). Really beautiful! :)

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