Our First are still the Best

We are a couple who has only swapped on rare occasions and vacations. Several years ago we met a couple on a cruise and we swapped for a night. It was our first time and not at all planned. My husband and I figured we were never going to see any people on the cruise again. We have now taken other trips with that couple and have some other experiences as well. Our new friends have been a little more active than us.

This year we again cruised with these friends and two other couples, one which we had met before. This is not a swingers cruise, just a cruise with thousands of others. We knew to try and get cabins next to each other. If you have cruised you know cabins are not that big. We thought about getting a large suite but costs would stop us. The one thing I really enjoyed in the past was separate room swap. I still remember our first time. It was great. I didn't enjoy same room partying. It just wasn't the same for me. I just feel the guys act differently in a group.

Our first night we ended up as a group playing in two of the cabins. 4 couples in 2 small cabins and we were all aware that walls are thin on ships. Our plan for the next nights were that we would all do separate rooms with a different partner. I am still not that into being with other women so I was happy we all decided to try this. I ended up being with the couple we just met. He was very nice and it was a sexual night. I have nothing bad to say. It was not much more than sex. To be honest I like to be romanced. The second night I was with the one who was my first. It was a great night. Everything I was hoping for. The next night I was with the one I had met before. He is a great guy. He's funny and personable. I really like him but maybe after 3 nights of partying as well as all the drinking and cruising things you do the night was just okay for me.

I still feel that the original was the best.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I think even within chemistry there are varying levels of chemistry. It's not just binary "you have it or you don't" kind of thing, and that's what you experienced there...you had chemistry with all of them, just more with some. Totally understandable and not uncommon at all.

Think we all remember with firsts of anything. I remember many firsts especially sexual firsts. Unfortunately not all my firsts were great. You are lucky that your first was memorable and very positive. That he lives far enough from you that you don't see him often adds to your great memory. I see it hasn't effected your sex life with your husband which is pretty active. I think you should tell your husband what you enjoy about Mr X. Maybe it is just the extra thrill of a new partner. You mentioned you had multi sex during the night. Maybe a night of wild sex with your husband will freshen your home sex.