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    Have you ever declined to play with a couple or played with a couple and had a less than stellar experience and then gave the other couple a second chance later and had a great experience?

    This recently happened to us and it caused us to reevaluate our selectivity. We should be more open minded and forgiving.


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    It would really depend on what was not stellar about the experience with them if it was someone we had already played with!

    We already feel we are very open minded about meeting people online so if we declined them on there I don't think we would change our mind unless they didn't have their profile filled out including pictures and fixed that problem.

    We have had people online that we had talked to about meeting that decided it was okay to ignore us after face pics were exchanged that then hit us up at lifestyle parties we both were attending. They did not get a second chance. That boat sailed and we wouldn't accept that kind of rudeness in our vanilla life so we won't in this lifestyle either. Karma is a bitch.

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    We had a similar experience. A couple contacted us on SLS. Thru bad judgment by me, I gave them my phone number. They called throughout the weekend to an annoying extent. Then the husband and wife wasted an entire evening chatting with us for about an hour. Then at 7:30am the next day, they sent us a text that we were not a match.

    Flash forward three months. We are going to a hotel party. This couple sends us an email that says they are a no drama (!) couple who want to connect with us at the hotel party. I reminded them how we "met." I said we would say hi and be friendly, but we would not be connecting.

    Everyone can decide with whom they will or will not play. We just felt this couple wasted our time by pursuing us avidly, then abruptly dumped us.

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    We don't tell anyone online that we won't meet we just say we'll see you at meet and greet or at the club sometime.

    There have been a few times when I've tried a second time to play with someone who I liked well enough, but he couldn't get it up. Generally, the second chance only happens if my husband likes the other wife quite a bit. After two tries, I won't do it again. If there is something besides not getting hard that I don't like about someone's play style I don't generally give them another go.
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    We have been on the opposite side of that sort of thing. I think it was a 2nd swap. It was at a couples club, hubby and I had gotten started in one bed, another couple was in another bed in the same room. She asked if she could join me, stating her hubby wanted to see her go down on me. I hadn’t had any female on female experience, cautioned her that I was not likely to reciprocate, she came over and did so, sucked hubby while I enjoyed and reached over and sucked her hubby a bit, then she moved up to my hubby and her hubby and I kept going. There was a bit of a break in the action when I insisted her hubby use a condom, then it all got started again and apparently my hubby couldn’t get his erection back. So, it was nice for me, he had an amazingly thick cock (do guys inject it with air or something, maybe that’s another topic). Any way, on a later visit, she was much more satisfied with my hubby.

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    No. Our view is that there are plenty of other couples and oceans of single guys out there to have a bad experience twice.

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    Would kind of depend on the exact circumstances. As far as the rejections online, so far the ones we had were all very polite and not an outright no, just a not interested at this time, or we have too much going on right now. If any of them contacted us again, we'd likely give them a chance. Well, there were a few outright rejections, like one couple that even talked with us on kik for a couple days then just dropped us all the sudden saying she was not interested anymore. I am pretty sure that was just a guy though and the wife was a fake. One rejected us completely because us being smokers was a deal breaker for them. No big deal there. They said they go the club here sometimes and if we saw them to say hi, but not to expect any play to happen. Not sure what to take from that, but we have never been to the one club here and I am not big on the idea anyway, so whatever.

    The one couple we went out with though, despite having great conversations and when we met we really hit it off, in the bedroom, the guy did not really do it. He kept his underwear on the whole time, he ate pussy like a champ, but never whipped out his dick at all. Wouldn't let my wife suck it, which I've always wanted to watch her suck another man's dick and she said when he did kind of pull it out and try to fuck her, it was too small to even go in. So yeah, no second chances there, even though I had a great time with the wife and my wife did get off several times from his oral skills, it was not what we were looking for. They did contact us for a second date, but I don't know if I have the stamina to please both women again.

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    Had fun trying though no?

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    Default Re: Second chances

    The only thing I don't give second chance to is rudeness.


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    We/I have always given a single or couple a second chance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by M1F2KTJ View Post
    We/I have always given a single or couple a second chance.
    Curious, how well does that work out for you?

    Our first experience was great for me, but my wife did not really have a great time, he didn't even let her suck his dick and barely even fucked her, mostly just ate her out the whole time and I had to go fuck her while he then did not even fuck his wife, just ate her too. He never even took his underwear off. She was willing to give it a second chance, because I had fun and she did enjoy watching, but I kinda felt like that was asking her to take one for the team, so we decided against it. Plenty of people willing to actually give it to her out there, so why give them a second chance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SA_NewtoLS View Post
    Curious, how well does that work out for you?

    Our first experience was great for me, but my wife did not really have a great time, he didn't even let her suck his dick and barely even fucked her, mostly just ate her out the whole time and I had to go fuck her while he then did not even fuck his wife, just ate her too. He never even took his underwear off. She was willing to give it a second chance, because I had fun and she did enjoy watching, but I kinda felt like that was asking her to take one for the team, so we decided against it. Plenty of people willing to actually give it to her out there, so why give them a second chance?
    I'm feeling as if I'm a dying breed of people who feel empathy. I have had some not very proud moments.

    From having sex with other men my wife is beginning to feel confidence in herself. She is emotionally distraught when she encounters a man who is having trouble getting an erection. She feels it's because of her.

    I/we will give someone a second chance if we feel a poor performance might be a matter of insecurity or nervousness from feeling the need to perform or not feeling worthy enough to fuck a woman as beautiful as my wife or to fuck her in front of me or maybe my cock looks bigger than his or whatever .

    We won't give a second chance to someone who is obnoxious or blatantly disrespectful.

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    Checking It Out Napoleon's Avatar
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    Yes. I usually attend a gathering alone the first time with no expectation of having sex, but simply to get a lay of the land of the couples and single women's personality. Some couples have been very nice and courteous to me, others the very opposite. The second time I come to the event I bring one of my young gorgeous girlfriends with me. Those same couples who gave me the cold shoulder are "now" interested when at first I couldn't even get a simple "hello" out of them. I cold shoulder them back. I don't offer second chances.

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