As with anything, practice makes perfect. We have to make our own mistakes before we really learn and this encounter really amplifies the importance of patience and some other important things before meeting someone.
I met a couple on the internet and began chatting with them. They had contacted me and they were a bit younger than I was at the time. I usually only meet couples that are older than me, but I was 27ish and they were only a couple years younger...maybe 25 and 24.
While this wasnt strike one, it was something that I had compromised on with myself. Older couples with houses, debt, dogs and kids are typically more stable and more attractive to me.
We had chatted on the internet and phone and exchanged some pics. The pics they sent me were a little dated and that childbirth had move things around a little bit. Her self confidence hadnt returned and she was very camera shy so she didnt want to send a recent photo.
STRIKE ONE. Fast Ball right down the center!
I joke that I am a coffee whore and that I will meet anyone in the lifestyle for coffee and chat. I do enjoy meeting new people and I dont choose friends or coffee buddies on looks. A public place is essential to meet someone for first time. Starbucks is a relaxed, no pressure, no expectations venue. It was difficult arranging a public meeting with this new couple. They were having problems finding a sitter, and we both were working odd schedules. We finally had worked together to arrange a meet for one evening. Later in the day we talked on the phone and the sitter had garden variety excuse and couldnt make it. They wanted to know if I minded coming over directly to their home and we can share some drinks or a bottle of wine.
When I arrived, the person in the photo was definitely not the person greeting me at the door. I am not hung up on looks at all, and feel personality is much more important...but there has to be some physical attraction. Trying to make the most of what we had tried to put together, I wanted to share conversation and maybe a drink, and learn about experiences they had and so forth. I had already made up my mind that something physical would not happen.
We go to the living room and the husband puts on some porn. Its his wife that he has videotaped with someone else.
Somehow we get that off the TV and a music channel as we begin conversation about the lifestyle, likes, dislikes, and experiences....
The husband is overpowering the conversation and when I ask her, who she likes to meet or what she enjoys...he answers for her. I was witnessing the classic door mat relationship
STRIKE FOUL....PLEASE UMP THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME!!!
I am searching for a convenient way to wrap things up politely and find the exit when he tells her that I look like I need a Blowjob and cajoles her into moving over to me as I am protesting and looking for the door.
STRIKE FOUL...UMP YOURE A #$%^&*() THROW ME OUT OF THE GAME
As I am resisting her advances and his pressure for her to make the advance, their child begins crying...
STRIKE THREE.....IM OUT!
The crying child was my way out and I politely left. When I got home, I politely emailed and let them know that I didnt think we were a good match and that we lacked chemistry......
Do we need to review the important lessons here?