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  1. 1. Why do you use condoms?

    • As Birth control
      11
    • To protect against STD's
      125
    • Both
      133
    • We never use condoms
      41
    • Other - please explain
      4


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Was going back through and thought I would post the opposite question to the one I posted the other day. This one is for those who do use condoms either all or some of the time while swinging.

 

Why do you use condoms?

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I voted both, actually my strongest tendency is to prevent pregnancy.

 

I am diabetic so and unwanted pregnancy could be deadly to myself and a child. While I am pro-choice, I could never abort a fetus conceived out of wanted sexual content, my opinion not a suggestion.

 

My maternal family line has a four generation history of strokes and high blood pressure, which eliminates many of the medicinal contraceptives, believe me I've asked.

 

Lastly, my major is in pre-med. I know there are some seriously deadly diseases out there. Just like I am not going to rub myself down in a sugar solution and walk through a swamp *reference West Nile Virus* nor I am going to take the risk with my sexual partners.

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Both.

 

Long story short: even The Pill is not 100% effective, and while condoms aren't a sure thing either, using both at the same time is as sure as you're going to get short of sterilization or abstinence.

 

Also, many STD's can be carried by a person and they're not even aware that they are a carrier until it's too late. So, while another couple may honestly believe that they really are "clean", we don't want to pick up something that with, at the worst, kill us (HIV) or has no cure (Herpes).

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Just like I always wear a seatbelt... I always use a condom.

 

because even though I never think I need it. Why take the risk.

 

I always assume that even with the precautions and careful screening we do there is probably one contact in a person's past that puts you at risk.

 

I voted to prevent STD because I've been on the Pill so long I think of it as 100% effective even though I know statistically it is not. I guess I forget that some people actually use the condom to prevent pregnancy.

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Originally posted by naughty A

I voted to prevent STD because I've been on the Pill so long I think of it as 100% effective even though I know statistically it is not. I guess I forget that some people actually use the condom to prevent pregnancy.

 

One of our playmates doesn't use any sort of birth control with her hubby, as he's gotten a vasectomy a while ago. I, on the other hand, am definitely not shooting with blanks. Another one of our single female friends can not use an sort of hormonal birth control, and uses the diaphragm. The 20% failure-rate for the diaphragm does not fill me with confidence.

 

You can bet that when we play with these two, we break out the condoms with extra spermicide! ;)

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For me, it's STD prevention, I have an IUD for birth control.

 

For L, it's both.

 

And there's another thing I like about it.....may sound weird but because there is a barrier it's not as intimate in my mind as when L and I have sex. Of course there are other qualitative differences between our making love and swinging but those are my thoughts.

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We use them for both reasons. The condom does provide some sort of emotional barrier when having sex with others. Maybe it's a mind thing. My husband and I do not use one when it's just us. I was reminded of why we use condoms with others not long ago when we attend a weekend long party and saw some friends of ours having many many partners within about a 72 hour period(which brings up another good topic). I'm not going to hold that against them, but to stand back and look at it...you have been with everyone they've been with...and some of those people I wouldn't let touch me with a 10 foot pole!

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I hear ya Weezie....our favorite swing partners are the biggest sluts in the world and they DON'T use condoms. I love them to death but I would never have sex with them without the reassurance of that little piece of latex.

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We use condoms when we swing to protect against stds. I dont have to worry about pregnancy because I had a tubal done about 4 yrs ago. Hubby uses one to protect against stds and we both believe that it is more personal with each other and that it means more.

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We do not use condoms with each other, but we use them with others for protection against STD's first and foremost, cleanliness second, and birth control third.

 

My wife is on the pill, and I have not had a vasectomy so the last thing we want is for me to get someone else pregnant, and even though she is on the pill, there is a very remote chance it could happen to her, too.

 

Cleanliness. It is a rule that we end with each other, and I don't like playing in another man's cum. It's just is not a turn-on for me. And like Ashley mentioned, the condom seems to take away a little intimacy, and my wife and I feel cumming in her is very intimate. It leaves something else that is left for sex just between us.

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We use Condoms all the time, neither of us are fixed lol and we sure don't want to pick up anything...it's just alot safer to us.

 

Mrs Venus

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My wife is trying to get pregnant. So we abstain from being with others during her fertile period. For us, penetrative sex with others is rare. However, we wouldn't think of sex with others without a condom not only for contraception but for disease protection. If you are intimate with a fairly active swinging couple who don't use condoms, just do the math of the possible partners that they could have been involved with. We know couples that have sex with other couples two or three times per weekend. The laws of probability catch up with these couples having unprotected sex even if the chance of catching a disease is only 1%! After a year, they would have been exposed to thousands of other couples who would have had sex with their partners. Promiscuous and unsafe couples are a danger to everyone and they are a long term threat to the lifestyle in general. :nono:

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Ashley said:
And there's another thing I like about it.....may sound weird but because there is a barrier it's not as intimate in my mind as when L and I have sex. Of course there are other qualitative differences between our making love and swinging but those are my thoughts.

 

We agree, the extra barrier makes the event less intimate. She says, that it does make it less fun, but as of right now we would always use them.

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As I may have mention in another post, we always use them to protect ourselves from STD's & an unwanted pregnancy. My husband is still fertile & since I am not able to use the pill, patch or shot due to blood clots, & don't really trust people especially with all of the nasty & deadly stuff out there, & last but not least I don't want strange cum in my vagina. :eek:

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It's very simple, without condom use and picking your sexual partners sensibly the HIV pandemic would have been as big in all countries as it is in Africa. We use it for disease control first, birth control second...

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I think I answerd something similar to this in another post :rolleyes: .We don't use anything w/ eachother...but with other people we use condoms.I also noted a dilemma w/ regards to oral sex.I noticed a lot of you saying that you use a condom when playing because you've seen some of the people that the people you play with have slept with, etc. So, does that count for oral as well as intercourse itself or just intercourse?I'm still tossing this around in my head... :confused:

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Although I had a tubal done many years ago I voted both because I would not want my husband to get someone pregnet. If he did as his wife I would feel equally responsable for the innocendent. :rollseyes (However my youngest was an answer to the quenstion I had as to why are these condoms were cheeper than the other ones)

 

I am also concerned about STD. In which brings up a question I have been wanting someone to answer. This has not happen but I am concerned about it. If by some chance we were to run accross a couple with STD and was unaware of it. A condom would protect my husband but as for me if I am going down on the female wouldn't I then be at risk of STD, And what about kissing would that put me at risk. facelick Is there anything that could be used that would not spoil the moment to protect from STD When going down on a woman.

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MysticalStorm said:
Is there anything that could be used that would not spoil the moment to protect from STD When going down on a woman.

 

Yeah, but nothing that's any fun. :D

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We are both fixed so pregnancy isn't a worry. And after studying the various STD's and the effectiveness of condoms in preventing them, we are not as convinced about a condoms effectiveness at preventing the ones we are likely to encounter in swinging as most here seem to be, so we don't normally require condom use but have no problem using them if requested. There wasn't a choice for us as I would have to say we usually use condoms, at least with new playmates.

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To Prevent STDs and Pregnancy

 

We havent found our 1st couple yet, but when it happens condoms will deff be used. Me and Hubby dont use condoms right now since we are sorta trying for baby#2.

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I am surprised by the amount of women who swing and do not use some sort of birth control. Even with the use of a condom there is always a chance.

I had a tubal 12 years ago, and The Mr. is hopefully [:kissface:] considering the vasectomy, we discussed not long ago.

We already have our family, we are not in need of an extended one

 

The risk of STD's is also the other concern.

 

MysticalStorm has a few good questions that I have wondered about too. I haven't found a good solid answer eigther.

 

I guess, as with anything in life, there are risks.

The Mr. reminded me, that we did not :eek: use a condom when we had our first MFM. That will not happen in our future. :nono:

There are some STD's that you can catch regardless of taking preventive measures, but I prefer that we are as safe as we can be.

 

Weezie, your point about an emotional barrier is one that I did not think of till i read your post. Atleast not consciously. :rolleyes:

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I always use a condom. Me and my wife don't swing, so obviously I use it for birth control. It's easier, cleaner, and she doesn't have to worry about a pill every day. Plus, they diminish her sex drive and ALTER her moods. And she's tried every one. I've never understood why men have such an aversion to condoms.

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I am new to the forum and I just voted in this poll. I strongly believe in using condoms. I voted both for 2 reasons.

 

1. To prevent STD's. The very thought of A.I.D.s and Herpes scares me more than anything else. Plus I recently found out I am a Type II Diabetic.

 

2. Prevent Pregnancy. I don't want to become somebody's father. I'd hate it if somebody years from now walked up to me and said, Hi. You're my dad. Uh... No thanks.

 

The only time I don't use a condom is if I'm involved with any intimate touching that doesn't involve penetration and and exchange of any bodily fluids. Heck, my greatest sexual fantasy is in that category. I'm not sure which forum to post that one in, provided I become brave enough to share it.

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I always use a condom. Me and my wife don't swing, so obviously I use it for birth control. It's easier, cleaner, and she doesn't have to worry about a pill every day. Plus, they diminish her sex drive and ALTER her moods. And she's tried every one. I've never understood why men have such an aversion to condoms.

 

To tell the truth, I spent 22 years in the Army and NEVER used on and was screwing three or four "business" girls every month in Korea. I never caught anything...."knock on wood". The wife now insists on using one when we have anal sex...whether its me or a toy. Since this is 2nd marriage for us both, I just found out last week that she did not know how to put a condom on a guy. I sure she's had sex with more men then I have had women before we met and I was stunned. When I inquired she simply said, "I never used one before." I just laughed my ass off and said how lucky we've both been.

 

Cheers.

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For me it's important to use condoms not only as a birth control but also as a way of preventing diseases. I also use it with my husband because I can't use the pill, and I would never let other man to be with me without using a condom, not at all.

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We chose the option "Other". however this has to do with our lifestyle choice.

 

We are in a polyamorus quad (four person exclusive relationship). The males of the relationship, both are V- safe. With the four of us being exclusive the use of condoms are not really necessary. We all know who we sleep with, each other LOL. We would never, not use a condom in any other lifestyle situation.

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Birth control. I made a conscious decision to refrain from scattering a bunch of "young Mstr. Essexes" around the world.

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A condom definitely does not do much to guard against herpes; herpes can be transferred by genital contact, not just the penis or inside of the vagina. Until someone comes up with some type of condom that covers the entire genital area a condom is not going to do much to guard against herpes. What it does guard against are many of the STIs that are curable with some antibiotics and it also helps to guard against HIV.

 

Interestingly the incidence of HIV transmission from heterosexual vaginal sex is getting lower and lower each year. The incidence of male heterosexual infection of HIV is getting lower each year, but unfortunately the incidence of female heterosexual HIV infection is remaining consistent. While there is risk of HIV transmission via heterosexual vaginal sex, it is not actually a very likely source of transmission. Anal sex has a far greater risk of infection of HIV as well as blood transmission (of great degree like a blood transfusion) and also of IV drug use (instances of HIV are much higher amongst the IV drug using population than those that don't use IV drugs).

 

As for oral transmission, it is very possible to contract most STIs from oral sex (giving or receiving) most of them are curable with antibiotics, but it is possible to transmit herpes this way and there is also a very small possibility of transferring HIV this way.

 

For us our primary concern with using condoms is to protect against pregnancy. A little bit of protection against STIs is a nice bonus of that, but we are well aware that it's not a foolproof thing and there are many STIs we can contract even though we used a condom (either from genital/pelvic contact or via oral sex).

 

One thing I should note, even though I said some things about low likelihood of contracting HIV via heterosexual vaginal intercourse, it's still possible and a condom does still help to protect against it.

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