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How many of you have found a single bi female, because we have yet to find one that was actually single. Or they aren't something to get involved with for a few reasons.

 

So please tell me is this something to even waste our time looking for?

 

I would so love to share just a women sometime with my husband! Of course in a couple situation we all have to share haha. And I would just love one on two fun for a change instead of 2 on 2, know what I mean?

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We are actually meeting for dinner tonight with one. We will see how it goes, has been fairly difficult to get our schedules to match. I think the key is just patience and lots of luck. :D

 

-Van

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Oh Van you lucky little devil you! Good hun! I hope it all works out. LOL all we have is time right! So maybe in a few years I might get mine haha

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I think I would avoid that for the time being, even if the opportunity came up. We have some friends that got involved with one and altho they thought she was a cool person initially, she turned out to be kinda psycho.

 

So trust what your instinct tell you in your initial conversations and meetings, and I would take it slow...a lot of times the unicorns turn out to be just horses with a party hat! LOL, JMHO ~Good luck in your search.

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Since we started looking 3 yrs ago we have found 2 that we actually got to meet. One we played with for a little over a yr. Then I got tired of the onesided "friendship". The other single fem we havent played with but thats been due to Medical issues. She was in a serious accident and is very very lucky to still be alive. They are out there jsut really hard to find. We have talked to another single fem but shes stood us up twice... :( Good luck in your search :).

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We have found one. We talked to her for about 3 months before being able to meet. She was Sabrina's birthday present this year, and we all had a great time.

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We have a couple of SBF's that we have played with regularly for a couple of years now, a lot of them are jaded because they seem to be the holy grail for all the newbies who haven't figured out that a SBF is a hundred times harder to find than a couple with a bi-female.

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LOL I have been in search for three years. It's easy to find if you just one g/g I have found a ton. But to get Dh invovled is another story LOL. And we do everything together :)

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LOL I have been in search for three years. It's easy to find if you just one g/g I have found a ton. But to get Dh invovled is another story LOL. And we do everything together :)

Exactly, this has been our experience in over three years of regular club attendance too. Quite a few single women that just want to play with girls (we refer to them as the club lesbians), but very few that actually want to play with the man or are even willing to include the man past letting him watch. We have met about three or four that were what I would call actual "single Bi-females" that were willing to play with both sexes.

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Yeah and we don't have alot of time to do the club sceen. We have three kids a young family so basically internet set up meetings is our only thing we can do at this time. But it's working out. I will just have to wait for our unicorn LOL

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True Single Bi-Females are like an endangered species! They need to be protected and cared for to prevent the extinction of the species! The true SBiF’s are few in number and in great demand. It is like a lesson in business 101, the laws of Supply & Demand. They are out there; it takes time to find that right one that you may want to join you and your significant other for the most intimate of fun times.

 

About 12+ years ago I knew a true SBiF by every sense of the definition. She was tall, blonde, great body, wild, and truly single, never married, enjoyed guys as much as women. And if she had a few drinks, there was no holding her back. We opted not to hook up with her. You are thinking why???? Sounds like the perfect SBiF!

 

I knew her through work and sensed something about her that I could not put my finger on, but I went with my instinct. She was as psycho as she was hot. She was a home wrecker, marriage destroyer who would turn into a stalker from a horror movie. Over a ten year period through mutual friends, I heard the stories about her, some first hand from the couples involved with her and some second hand but very believable. My reason for this little story is just a heads up warning to those searching for the elusive SBiF. That was in the days before the internet. So proceed with caution with your search and trust your instincts.

 

Our tip:

The internet is helpful, but also think outside of the box when looking, you may find what you are looking for in places other than the internet, then proceed with caution and trust your instincts.

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We've picked up 8 or 9 over the last 6 years. None of them we've met online. All were at a local gay club where the girls got to know Dave by seeing him around and how he handled himself.

 

Even in the lesbian crowd though, bisexual women are rare. They seem to be chastized by full lesbians. They are out there.

 

Our advise? Find a place that is lifestyle friendly (gay clubs are good about couples, as long as it's not predatory), and let the people get to know you. You'll meet a lot, and prolly find several who will enjoy both of ya'll.

 

And for the guys out there, once you get known in the clubs, the gay men will leave you alone (as far as getting hit on), once you're known and don't overreact (from Dave).

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We met a single female about 12 years ago, but she was more interested in Mrs. DD than with us as a couple. :sad:

 

More recently, we have a single female with whom we have played who we met as half of a married couple. Now, he's gone, and she's single again, and we still play with her. :8-0:: He turned out to be a total jerk. :slam"

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We've picked up 8 or 9 over the last 6 years. None of them we've met online. All were at a local gay club where the girls got to know Dave by seeing him around and how he handled himself.

 

Even in the lesbian crowd though, bisexual women are rare. They seem to be chastized by full lesbians. They are out there.

 

Our advise? Find a place that is lifestyle friendly (gay clubs are good about couples, as long as it's not predatory), and let the people get to know you. You'll meet a lot, and prolly find several who will enjoy both of ya'll.

 

And for the guys out there, once you get known in the clubs, the gay men will leave you alone (as far as getting hit on), once you're known and don't overreact (from Dave).

 

WOW thanks Dave :) I have been so shy in doing the real life thing. I guess this internet is a great exscape from the real world but it also handicaps you. It's like a cruch KWIM. Plus we don't have alot of play time so it's a great tool to have a few dates set. I am not fimilar with gay clubs. I think there maybe one in ithaca New York pretty close to where we are. But I am not sure now that I have the guts I don't remember the name of it. But thanks for the tip. I will have to see if any of my friends can think of the name.

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As hard as all you couples think it is to find a true SBiF, believe you me, it's just as hard for a sane SBiF to find a geographically-compatible-to-me couple where both halves have a personality, are attractive to me and who have a solid no-jealousy, truly ready for swinging relationship.

 

Not to mention...

a lot of them are jaded because they seem to be the holy grail for all the newbies who haven't figured out that a SBF is a hundred times harder to find than a couple with a bi-female

Newbies? Ummm... no thanks, because they have no track record to show me they are non-jealous, non-drama, and truly ready for swinging. Any smart SBiF is not going to stand for being a newbie couple's training wheels... the propensity for drama is just too great.

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As hard as all you couples think it is to find a true SBiF, believe you me, it's just as hard for a sane SBiF to find a geographically-compatible-to-me couple where both halves have a personality, are attractive to me and who have a solid no-jealousy, truly ready for swinging relationship.

 

Not to mention...

 

Newbies? Ummm... no thanks, because they have no track record to show me they are non-jealous, non-drama, and truly ready for swinging. Any smart SBiF is not going to stand for being a newbie couple's training wheels... the propensity for drama is just too great.

Oh thanks for giving it to me from a SBF side hun. I sometimes wish I was single still LOL so I could have an easier time of it. But I guess the grass isn't always greener on the other side huh? Yeah I can see how it's hard to find no jealousy. Trust me I am dealing with that now with a couple. If I knew then what I know now. Oh well live and learn right!

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Newbies? Ummm... no thanks, because they have no track record to show me they are non-jealous, non-drama, and truly ready for swinging. Any smart SBiF is not going to stand for being a newbie couple's training wheels... the propensity for drama is just too great.

 

We are with you there Dynamar, we met with ONE newbie couple in 4 years of the lifestyle despite our mutual vow not to. Well disaster prevailed, they both had too much alcohol, followed by high drama. We swore never again.

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Not to mention...

 

Newbies? Ummm... no thanks, because they have no track record to show me they are non-jealous, non-drama, and truly ready for swinging. Any smart SBiF is not going to stand for being a newbie couple's training wheels... the propensity for drama is just too great.

 

and

 

We are with you there Dynamar, we met with ONE newbie couple in 4 years of the lifestyle despite our mutual vow not to. Well disaster prevailed, they both had too much alcohol, followed by high drama. We swore never again.

 

I think these statements are a bit off. Maybe in your experience you have had some issues, but we all were newbies at some point. If nobody took any chances on newbies, how would any of us get into the Lifestyle? MrsVan and I are extremely new to the LifeStyle, but I can assure you that there are no issues with drama or jealousy in our relationship. If everyone took this stance with us, how would we ever get to have any play dates? :) I think that you can run into issues like this no matter what. Yes I understand that newbies might still be working out some issues in some cases, but not all of us are.

 

We met up with a very nice SBif last night for dinner. Everything went fantastic at dinner and MrsVan and I hope that we can have another date for an actual play date. She knows about our experience or lack there of and it has not been an issue at this point.

 

-Van

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We had found one. Had several dates with her. But had that time of month happening with the wife one date and other date it was the SBif. Went to make a third date and found out she had gotten a boyfriend the week before and no longer plays....:(

 

Maybe one day we will find another.....LOL

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They are there. I know several.

 

I think Dynamar is EXACTLY right. If you put yourselves out there in a positive way, good ones will find you.

 

It is much more intimidating for a single to be with a couple then the opposite.

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Trust me I am dealing with that now with a couple.

Bingo! You proved my point.

 

I think these statements are a bit off. ... MrsVan and I are extremely new to the LifeStyle, but I can assure you that there are no issues with drama or jealousy in our relationship. If everyone took this stance with us, how would we ever get to have any play dates? :) I think that you can run into issues like this no matter what.

When I was brand new to the lifestyle, I had the comment more than once that I didn't seem like a newbie. I attribute that to the fact that I'd done my due diligence (including lots of reading here, and elsewhere) and was mentally ready for the new experiences that swinging would afford me.

 

Oh, but for couples who would do the same! Too many just jump right in, not knowing between each other what they want out of swinging, let alone how to convey those thoughts to me. Realistically, if I met a couple who was totally new, but who projected the same kind of confidence and direction that I knew I possessed as a newbie, would I decline to play with them based only on the fact that they were new?... Absolutely not. As always, it's the whole package, and not just one bit of information would ever drive my decision.

 

As most people are wont to do, I was speaking in a generality. Any specific experience might be the exception that makes the rule. But I stand by my original post... in my experience, most new couples, most of the time... do not have a clear picture of why they want to swing, and as such, bring entirely too much drama to the table.

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We've been swinging for a year, and last Sat night for the very first time we had a single bi-fem over for dinner and a great night.

 

And then on Wed afternoon (it was a public hol here) I went to her place (with mrsX approval).

 

Still can't get the smile off my face!

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We have found four single females in the two years we've been swinging, or should I say they have found us. Everytime has been in person though, like at a meet-and-greet, a party, or one time at a popular vanilla club. She was sitting at the table next to us and started talking and before we knew it she had moved her chair to our table.

 

We have never actually seen one online that we've contacted, or has contacted us, and then later met, though.

 

Mr. WS

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When I was brand new to the lifestyle, I had the comment more than once that I didn't seem like a newbie. I attribute that to the fact that I'd done my due diligence (including lots of reading here, and elsewhere) and was mentally ready for the new experiences that swinging would afford me.

 

Oh, but for couples who would do the same! Too many just jump right in, not knowing between each other what they want out of swinging, let alone how to convey those thoughts to me. Realistically, if I met a couple who was totally new, but who projected the same kind of confidence and direction that I knew I possessed as a newbie, would I decline to play with them based only on the fact that they were new?... Absolutely not. As always, it's the whole package, and not just one bit of information would ever drive my decision.

 

As most people are wont to do, I was speaking in a generality. Any specific experience might be the exception that makes the rule. But I stand by my original post... in my experience, most new couples, most of the time... do not have a clear picture of why they want to swing, and as such, bring entirely too much drama to the table.

 

Dynamar,

 

I agree with most of what you are saying and I guess I was just pretty tired this morning. :D Even as "newbies" we have run into single men and a few couple already that we could just tell via email or chat that they just had too much baggage that we didn't want. We have had a few comments to us from the few couples/singles that we have met with that have been along the lines that they were surprised we have such little experience. I belive that as long as you can convey to the other couple or person what you are looking for and want then you will do better.

 

-Van

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Our first experience was with a single bi-female.

 

She found us. :lol:

 

That's just unfair... Tsk tsk... Can't you send her over to "find" us please? :D

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Well for us, we've found 2. One lives in my house and didn't know (completely) that she was bi, until me facelick, and now she is not bi-curious anymore and neither am I. :D The other is a friend we have known since before swinging, that we plan to go see sometime soon. We've been swinging less than a year.

 

~Blade~

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I say keep the faith, fight the good fight and all that. Everyone is a swinger in the right situation. Sometimes you might have to get creative. Just keep your eyes open and don't miss the oportunity when it's there. That's what I do. We tried our luck at the strip club last night, lol. I'm having way too much fun!

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As hard as all you couples think it is to find a true SBiF, believe you me, it's just as hard for a sane SBiF to find a geographically-compatible-to-me couple where both halves have a personality, are attractive to me and who have a solid no-jealousy, truly ready for swinging relationship.

 

I could not agree more!!! I seem to get mail mostly from couples that live over an hour away. Or after chatting or a couple of emails it turns out that either just he wants to play or just she wants to play. Usually, just he...then I remind him to actually read my profile. :nono:

 

I don't particularly care about the newbie thing but certainly don't want to be "Mrs Robinson"...with couples or singles;)

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