We met for sex and it didn't work out - were we played?

Hi my husband and I met a couple that we think would be great to play with. Lots of sexy communication between all of us for a week. Had a meet n greet, laid out ground rules and all things were a go.

During meet n greet the other guy say next to me rubbing my leg, placed my hand on his dick for a quick touch under the table. My husband asked the wife if he could touch her leg under the table and she freaked out on him. Saying no pda no pda.

Mind you this is the same woman who was telling him during the week how she wanted to suck his dick etc. This is the same woman who invited us to meet them at a Halloween party the next night and after we were supposed to go to their house to play.

Party night arrives, we got there first. They show up and sit with us for about 15 minutes then get up to mingle. Well they pretty much ignored us the rest of the night so we started mingling too.

We were having a blast meeting new people and out the corner of my eye I see them leaving with no good bye, they stiffed us on our play date

The next day I texted them asking what was up. The husband tells me that my hubby reminded her of her ex husband and if she were to kiss him it would be like being with her ex. He told me they both wanted and liked me and were both attractive me.

I'm like WTF? It's not like she didn't know what he looked like before all this and we did meet each other.

So my question is were we played out?

Firstly, no PDA is a perfectly acceptable rule for her to have. Discretion is paramount and just because her husband was being indiscreet doesn't mean that she has to be too. There are plenty of people whose cocks I have sucked that I wouldn't feel up in the middle of a bar because you never know who's watching.

As for the bailing on you, how they went about it was rude and uncalled for, they should have been honest and up front with you, but anyone is allowed to call a halt to the proceedings at any time for any reason. Maybe your husband said something that her ex always used to say and it put her off, maybe something else happened and they were just making excuses. Either way, write them off and move on, you weren't a match.

Sorry things didn't work out. Thanks for sharing your experience and welcome!

This kind of thing happens. I would let it go and move on. I have found it's better not to sexy talk or text until you are actually in person. My friends say don't write checks your ass can't cash. That's what you are doing when you tell someone dirty things you'll do before you meet. Hopefully the other couple learned their lesson too.

Even if you see pictures things are different in person. Maybe it was more his mannerisms or expressions.

I wouldn't recommend to completely avoid getting flirty beforehand in chatting before meeting, if you're in fact feeling flirty. However, I do recommend scrupulously avoiding saying anything that could be construed as a promise of play. And while I acknowledge that you don't really, really know for sure if you'll want to play with another couple until you've met and spent some time together, a little harmless flirting beforehand (if you're feeling it) can help to create some excitement for meeting in person.

I think the couple handled things badly, and weren't very nice about how they treated you. Unfortunately these things happen, and I hope you don't take their (mostly her) rudeness as any kind of reflection on you two. I agree with the advice you've already gotten- call it a non-match, and move on to another nice couple!

You two are better off, it sounds like if things would have continued drama would have ensued (more than what already happened). Just because they were rude and...difficult, DON'T take it personally. Move forward with the knowledge you have learned and find another couple. They are a problem just looking for a place to happen...she KNEW that your husband looked the way he did when you first met, but it sounds like they were looking to play with you. Just avoid them and find a better match.