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Other night my wife told me her friend had done a mmf threesome, she then said if her friend asked me, "Would you be up for doing it?"

 

Is this my wife asking for a ffm threesome?

 

Weeks before, her friend felt my leg under the table at dinner with her leg.

 

P.S. My wife likes to watch lesbian porn with me.

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Hello, Funnyhat, and welcome to SwingersBoard!

 

I'm not 100% sure I've gotten your question clearly. I think you're saying that your wife stated that if her friend wanted to have a threesome with you and your wife, your wife thinks that you would be up for it. And you want to know whether your wife's statement is actually her way of asking to try a threesome with you two and this woman. Do I have that right?

 

I'm not sure what your wife's friend's "feeling your leg under the table with her leg" was all about. Could have been accidental brushing contact, or stealthy flirting. And the fact that your wife enjoys lesbian porn is fun, but may only be a fantasy, rather than an actual desire she has. Then again, it may not be just a fantasy!

 

The best way to sort all this out is to simply talk to your wife about it. If you poke around here much, you'll see that open, honest communication is an important element of a healthy swinging relationship. Rather than Han guess, it would make things much clearer if you sat your wife down and asked her whether she wants a threesome with another woman. Let her know that she should feel safe to tell you what she's thinking.

 

If your wife tells you that she really is interested in an FFM threesome, and if you are interested in it as well, you two will want to discuss exactly what kinds of contact are allowed by all of you. Are you allowed to have sexual contact with the other woman, or just your wife? Is your wife comfortable with you having intercourse with the other woman, or is that off the table? Setting rules and limits like this beforehand can help to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

 

Finally, I'll mention a word about the fact that the "other woman" we're talking about is a friend of your wife's. While that scenario sounds like it might be fun, there is always a risk that something might go wrong- your wife's friend might not like what happens, your wife might not like what she sees, or either you or your wife could get a flash of jealousy. Any of these could put your wife's friendship with her friend at risk. Or it could just get weird between the three of you afterwards. So you two might want to consider whether she wants to risk her friendship with this woman in order to live out this fantasy. You could instead find a different woman to try this with!

 

Good luck!

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Hello, Funnyhat, and welcome to SwingersBoard!

 

I'm not 100% sure I've gotten your question clearly. I think you're saying that your wife stated that if her friend wanted to have a threesome with you and your wife, your wife thinks that you would be up for it. And you want to know whether your wife's statement is actually her way of asking to try a threesome with you two and this woman. Do I have that right?

 

I'm not sure what your wife's friend's "feeling your leg under the table with her leg" was all about. Could have been accidental brushing contact, or stealthy flirting. And the fact that your wife enjoys lesbian porn is fun, but may only be a fantasy, rather than an actual desire she has. Then again, it may not be just a fantasy!

 

The best way to sort all this out is to simply talk to your wife about it. If you poke around here much, you'll see that open, honest communication is an important element of a healthy swinging relationship. Rather than Han guess, it would make things much clearer if you sat your wife down and asked her whether she wants a threesome with another woman. Let her know that she should feel safe to tell you what she's thinking.

 

If your wife tells you that she really is interested in an FFM threesome, and if you are interested in it as well, you two will want to discuss exactly what kinds of contact are allowed by all of you. Are you allowed to have sexual contact with the other woman, or just your wife? Is your wife comfortable with you having intercourse with the other woman, or is that off the table? Setting rules and limits like this beforehand can help to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

 

Finally, I'll mention a word about the fact that the "other woman" we're talking about is a friend of your wife's. While that scenario sounds like it might be fun, there is always a risk that something might go wrong- your wife's friend might not like what happens, your wife might not like what she sees, or either you or your wife could get a flash of jealousy. Any of these could put your wife's friendship with her friend at risk. Or it could just get weird between the three of you afterwards. So you two might want to consider whether she wants to risk her friendship with this woman in order to live out this fantasy. You could instead find a different woman to try this with!

 

Good luck!

First paragraph is correct

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The only one who has the answer to what your wife wants and to what her sexuality is would be your wife! Luckily for you she has made it a lot easier for you to talk to her openly about it by being the one to bring it up. Time for you two to sit down and have a real open conversation of each of your wants and comfort levels moving on. Good luck.

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She might be, or she may just be curious. Or she might just enjoy watching women going at it, without actually wanting to live that fantasy herself. It certainly is true that many women in the lifestyle take the opportunity to explore playing with other women. And most of us men find that to be really hot!

 

You know what we're going to tell you... the best way to find out is to ask her straight up if she has any bi fantasies!

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She all ready has told me she fantasies about other girls but not all the time she once out of the bule said

Would you like to see other woman on my tits the more I think about it the more I think she up for it

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As others have said "Quit guessing and start asking." This is the only way you will know for sure. I might suggest you figure out what you will want to respond for all the possible answers. Have fun with this conversation.

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Swinging (and great relationships in general) REQUIRE three things: Love, trust and communication. First make sure you have an abundance of all three and then (ask CoupleinMD79 already suggested) talk to her. Easiest way is to start a discussion about sexual fantasies and ask her what hers are (and be sure to share yours as well). The only safe way to address the questions you are asking is to ask her in a non threatening way. Most likely you are either dead on right and she wants to have a threesome...or you are totally wrong and she will be shocked at the suggestion of it. Only real way to find out is to talk to her.

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Ask your wife those questions. Only SHE knows what she meant or if she's bi or at least curious. You're going to have a real bumpy ride if you depend upon us for answers to questions like this.

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Bumped into the other woman over the weekend she said "so your wife tells me you want to try swinging well we just unsure yet " but this was with a lot of flirting

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