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First Date Ideas for SF East Bay

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We are planning to meet a couple for date in a few weeks, what some ideas.

 

A little bacground - both couples are relatively new to the lifestyle, we have had one full swap exp under our belt - they have had one soft swap. We met each other for coffee a week back and are now planning to meet up for dinner. Neither couple is interested in playing on this "first date", in fact we have all indicated our desire to get to know each other and become friends before becoming friends with benefits. We are moving at the pace that is comfortable for the slowest member of the group. So far we all seem to be on the same page.

 

So to my question, ideas for a first date such that even though we are starting slow there will be some spark to ignite some interest and sexual tension. Not looking to jump the gun - but to ensure that a spark will happen.

 

If it makes any difference - both couples are South Asian (Indians).

 

Thanks in Advance - TJ

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I don't know your area well, but we have many times met couples for dinner and found a spark through food and conversation. I prefer nicer restaurants where you can be comfortable having a drawn out meal, if I already know I enjoy someone's company.

 

We also sometimes go to a local dance club or lgbt club if we're with people who like to dance.

 

We have gone miniature golfing and then dinner, that's nice because there is a lot of flirting that can go on while playing the game.

 

You could go for a walk on a trail if that is something near you?

 

Honestly, there is no way to ensure chemistry or a spark, but if it's there, the perfect date is not necessary, just being in proximity will make it work.

 

Have fun and let us know how it goes.

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If a spark is going to happen, it will. There's no controlling it. Five minutes after getting together the sexual excitement will be there...or it won't. Nothing you can do will ignite it if it isn't. That's why we always tell other couples not to spend a bunch of time emailing and texting back and forth but to get together for drinks or dinner and meet in person. Everything else will happen on its own.

 

So, after that, find somewhere nice and classy for dinner and consider it as your first couples date (you're both couples and this is your first date). Don't go in with any expectations...hopes yes, but no expectations, and just focus on having a great evening out with another couple that you share a similar interest with (in this case it's sex). One other thing that we have found, don't spend the evening avoiding the elephant in the room. Bring up talking about sex...ask them to tell you about their first experience and you tell them about yours. I can't tell you how many times we have met a couple and they just seem afraid or unwilling to even discuss sex. It definitely brings some excitement to the conversation knowing that you are talking to another couple about something that most couples have trouble talking about to themselves.

 

Now go, have a fun evening, go home and have some really hot sex (trust me here), and then report back as to how things went. We wish you luck...

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