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Singles: what do you do when you develop feelings for one half of a couple?

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Usually, we always hear about how sometimes half of a couple may develop feelings for a playmate while swinging and many of them pull away or cease playing with that playmate. However, I was wondering what singles in swinging do when they find themselves in this position. Do you also pull away from that couple? Do you continue playing but ignore your growing feelings? Do you test out the waters to see if they are comfortable with it by dropping hints and going from there? What do you sexy singles do?? :)

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I have read about this too, but I can't wrap my mind around it. How are you going to catch feelings for someone else's man or woman? IMO, that's a big "No, No" and you are probably seeing this couple too much. My best advice is to make yourself scarce and start seeing other couples.

As a single woman, I do not use the lifestyle or swinger parties to find a man. I use it more for booty calling. Just to get my sexual needs met for the week or to add adventure to appeal to my BDSM kinky side.

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We were seeing this one guy, still would if he would get his ass over here, but J asked me to see if I could get him to back off on the affection. That kinda shut him down. He said he really desires that aspect of the sex and doesn't want to take that away. Thing is, the first few times we had sex, it was hard core fucking, the guy is a gymnast in bed. But I think he started developing feelings for J and wanted to push it. So no backing off there.

 

The other guy we had an issue with, began with J's feelings starting to develop. She pushed me into a 3way with him one night when I wasn't in the mood. I ended up leaving the room so they could have some time together. I wasn't jealous as much as worried. He was way better for her than I could ever be. Once she noticed I was gone, maybe 5 minutes, felt like a week, she came out to see what happened. I told her I wasn't in the mood, to go ahead and have fun, I'll be here when she's ready to go. She said, lets go. We stayed away from him for about 6 months. Later he started to fall for J and I had to ask her if we could stop seeing him. She had no problem with that. No backing off there. Our experience is that some single guys see what someone has and wants that for himself.

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There is nothing wrong with finding out if a couple is willing to share the feelings you have for one of the couples. You'll (the single) will have to accept that you may not be the only playmate. The feelings you have experienced are feelings that have been experienced by others. If they are interested in exploring your feelings for one of the couples then awesome for you! But if not ... respectful, sexy singles will move on.

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