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I have an enlarged prostate BPH and I'm on medication for this condition - taking Avodart and Flomax. I've been on these meds for the last three years. Although my libido remains as high as ever, I have a very difficult time maintaining an erection. At night, I can't get erect at all. In the morning, I can, but it won't last. My urologist does not want me on viagra, cialis etc. given the BPH meds and a strong family history of heart problems.

 

While I can pleasure my wife orally, and she enjoys it, she misses intercourse, as do I.

 

About a year and a half ago my wife raised the idea of a trial separation. I asked why - why would we split up? She replied just so we could date other people. My response was why do we need to split up? I suggested that maybe what we needed was an open marriage. She changed the subject.

 

In January of this year, my wife brought the idea up. She had talked to some friends of hers and they thought there was some merit in the idea of open marriage. We read up on the subject, and I agreed as a trial I would give her a free pass for the month of March - a month that she was scheduled to be out of Province a lot for her work. Long story short, she packed some rather sexy clothes and ended up making full use of her free pass.

 

In April, we agreed to a one year trial open marriage.

 

So far, I am enjoying it. There is no pressure on me to satisfy my wife. She is being satisfied, and I find the idea of her with other men erotic. She has two men, one in Halifax, the other in Ottawa. This works well as she often travels to these cities as a result of her work. Both are married, in open marriages, and I have talked to them and their wives to verify this.

 

The funny thing is, with the pressure to perform lifted off my shoulders, I actually kind of enjoy my impotence. I can still orgasm and give and receive pleasure.

 

This past weekend, my wife and I were talking and my wife was wondering if we could move things along so she could have a 'local' FWB. I said, why not, along as we follow the rules - married, open marriage, his wife is OK with it.

 

She had already lined up such a guy! However, his wife and I met for coffee on Monday and she has taken a real shine to me and I to her. I explained to her that I have ED, but she says we could have lots of fun anyway.

 

So, it looks like I may be having a date too!

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Good to hear you guys are working around a problem in a manner that makes you both happy.

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Your story is similar to ours. I suffer ED and none of the pills work for me. I am diabetic and on blood pressure meds. Four years ago I finally got Red convinced to try the lifestyle out. This was only after confronting her about being with another guy and telling how much it excited me. I got to clean out her cum-filled pussy and that excited her to no end. We started going to local swing clubs soon after and had many great times. Since I have found trimix injection to assist with the ED and do use it on occasion. Mostly I am her support person when she plays with other males. It is not always easy to deal with the penile injection at the different clubs we go to.

 

We have played with several couples and the ladies have had a good time but it still concerns us with me not always being able to get a erection even with the injection.

 

Best of luck with your future in this great lifestyle.

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Good for you.

 

A lot of men suffer from ED. Have you given any type of device a try yet? Not sure of the name, but they make devices for men like you who cannot use the meds.

 

Let us know how it all works out for you :)

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I have ED but use viagra. You might want to speak with your MD about using a devise like a vacuum pump. You could also try a MFM with your wife doing you orally while the other guy penetrates her.

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I would agree with the others here; don't give up on the possibility of getting a reliable erection. Since oral meds are out, it may be time to talk to a specialist about other ways to solve your ED problem. As mentioned, since you apparently have function but have trouble maintaining, injections might be a possibility, and they are not NEARLY as bad as it sounds, once you learn how to do them, and your doctor will make sure you do before you leave the office. There are other possibilities as well. Don't accept "no" for an answer if this is important to you.

 

It's great that you and your wife have come up with a solution that makes you both happy, but I have a feeling if you can get back in the game, then you can both have your cake and eat it too! :)

 

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Clearly its the mark of an unselfish husband to allow his wife to achieve sexual gratification with another, given medical problems which prevent him from pleasing her.

 

Over the years I have met a few couples where the male half suffered from ED issues and were looking to "Spice up" their sex life. In one relationship a 45 year old husband who was extremely well hung, allowed me the privilege and pleasure of pleasing his beautiful 34 year old wife. Earlier in their relationship she was well satisfied with their sex life. As age and medical issues took their toll on his body he could no longer please her with the same efficiency and wanted his wife to enjoy her sex life, as he truly loved her.

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For you guys with ED try L'Arginine which is an amino acid. It's function is for increased blood flow. Ask your doctors if it is right for you.

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For you guys with ED try L'Arginine which is an amino acid. It's function is for increased blood flow. Ask your doctors if it is right for you.

 

L'arginine is also available over the counter at most nutrition stores and I'm many energy drinks. We used to love the NO Xplode igniter shots, unfortunately we haven't seen them in stores anymore. Just the powder, and it isn't as effective :-/

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One of the men that we have known in the lifestyle for a while had prostate surgery ended up with E.D . He uses a vacuum pump and a inject able medication. I don't know what it is but his cock is hard as a rock after the injection. The good news is that with the combination of the pump and the inject able medication he is getting his erection back.

 

Good luck.

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