WTF couples!

This is a little bit of a rant about couples online that feel it is okay to hit the women in other couples up for threesomes even though on that couples profile it clearly states they only play together! We get it that many including ourselves are looking for the elusive unicorn and that yes they are hard to find. That doesn't make it cool however to be constantly bugging other women in couples to ditch their man and play with you alone. It isn't enough for us to have we only play together in bold print on our online profiles even though it should be. We have now had to add she will not play with other couples alone to all of our online profiles to try and be even clearer about it. Still doesn't stop some idiots from trying though. We find it so disrespectful that people think it is alright to bug others for this even though they would never offer up their wife for the same situation. Our response to people like this is no she will not play with you alone, but we will gladly fuck your wife without your man there. Which usually gets an angry response back right before we block them. Nine out of ten times when we look at a profile we are only interested in the woman. Doesn't mean we feel it is okay to be assholes and hit her up to play alone when it clearly says on their profile they only play together.

We hear you enhancer, but unfortunately I think there is little you can do to combat this.

I believe many folks don't even bother to read profiles (as the myriad of profiles that explicitly state they're not interested in single males can attest) or if they do, they are either so wrapped up in their own wants that they gloss over the inconvenient facts that get in their way, or feel they are such 'special snowflakes' that obviously you'll make an exception for them.

We have had a threesome with a temporarily minted (and shiny) unicorn, it was wonderful, unexpected, and was at her partner's suggestion. We would never approach a couple with the sole purpose of wooing the woman away from her partner.

D

Beauty is only skin deep, stupid goes clean through...

While I'd like to think all swingers are polite, respectful, well-mannered people, it simply isn't so. In any group, there are always going to be those who think the rules don't apply to them or like someone above said, they are special and therefore deserve special consideration.

Like anything that is aggravating online, the best thing to do is just ignore or block it and move on. Any other approach just wears you out and in the end gets you nowhere.

Since the post speaks specifically about a profile, I assume this isn't being dealt with after meeting and playing? Is this a question that comes up during the initial emails to get to know each other? It was mentioned that the profile probably wasn't read. You need to know it was read completely.

Somewhere in your profile, not in the beginning or end, you need a word or phrase repeated back to you in their reply. A sentence in the middle of a paragraph that simply states. "In your reply, please enter 'fun' in the subject." Or something along those lines. Simply delete replies that don't have it. When I started doing this, my success rate shot up. The number of replies I opened, plummeted.

This is people we have never talked to before asking on their first message to us! It is about as common now as the guys from couples that don't have anything in their profile about them playing alone hitting us up to have a threesome with just them. Another thing we have had to state on our profile we have no interest in. We are not new to the online thing, but it still surprises us at how many people do not bother reading profiles or just ignore what others say. We also know that these kind of people get no where in the lifestyle and wonder why. They probably do not realize that people that do have lots of friends online do talk to each other and they are not doing themselves any favours with the way they approach people.

I hear you about this peeve. We used to get upset about it too but now we just brush it aside, send a polite message about only playing together and forget about it. I think it helps that we don't put a lot of stock into online messages we receive anymore. Most of them get the, "Thanks for the interest, maybe we'll see you at a party," message since we don't regularly go out to swing these days.

We are so turned off by the wannabes! We frequent Fort Lauderdale and love the openness and frankness of the people that we hang out with in Florida! Is there anyone out there that would like to get together to hang and get to know each other before we get down?

Yes. They are inconsiderate. Just ignore them.

While I'd like to think all swingers are polite, respectful, well-mannered people, it simply isn't so. In any group, there are always going to be those who think the rules don't apply to them or like someone above said, they are special and therefore deserve special consideration.

 

Like anything that is aggravating online, the best thing to do is just ignore or block it and move on. Any other approach just wears you out and in the end gets you nowhere.

You see it all the time here and in other swinger communities that most swingers are polite, respectful and well-mannered people. Of course it's not all, but I still think this to be true. It takes a certain amount of openness and maturity to live this lifestyle which leads to most being this way.

I think the issue is, the people doing this are not swingers. They just want FFM threesome and that's it. That's not really swinging in my book. Swinging=Swapping and there is no swapping going on, just adding.

In addition, you have the anonymity of the internet added in here. The people that do this probably do not even have the balls(or ovaries) to go to a club. If they did happen to go, I seriously doubt they would approach a couple in the same manner as they do online in person. Would likely get a few husbands angry and get them thrown out.

We simply respond that we don't play separately, and if they had read our profile they would know that. Then, we ignore them.

AngelandTiger

enhancer, that sucks! I think I agree with those who talk about just letting it roll off your back, though. Ignoring, or sending a brief, polite-but-clear, pro-forma response, sounds like a good way to leave the idiots behind.