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It amuses me to see all of these ads on CL in regards to swinging. I feel that most of them are fake and don't impress me at all. Once in a blue moon I will find a post with normal looking people (no nudie shots) who are interesting, intelligent, but I'm worried they are either flakes or psychotic.

 

Has anyone had a positive or negative experience when it comes to CL and swinging?

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We only had one positive experience when we posted an ad for looking for bi couples (both partners bi). We got one good reply from a couple who organizes bi parties. They referred us to their profile on a local swinger site. We still attend their parties. I would not use CL nowadays. Besides the fakes, we personally have friends who were robbed trying to sell things or meeting others for swinging. Thats just scary.

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In our rush to do this we met our first couple on CL. They were what they said they were but not true swingers. Just a guy and his girl. For us we picked them based on looks only. You must voice verify the female! Mostly fakes and flakes. That being said we met a couple who posted who are who they said they were plus a few pounds. They are now our play with couple. Great people and fun to be with.

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Craigslist is great!...

 

...for selling second hand furniture and finding rental listings. Not good for much else.

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A couple we know -- we've been friends with the male half for more than a decade -- actually met on Craigslist and now they've been together for five years, so it must be working for someone.

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I don't understand why someone truly interested in swinging would use CL instead of a "swinger site". So we will avoid it and stick to SLS.... or maybe some of the requests We get on tumblr....? ;)

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I don't understand why someone truly interested in swinging would use CL instead of a "swinger site". So we will avoid it and stick to SLS.... or maybe some of the requests We get on tumblr....? ;)

 

You have a point, but I've found that it is easier to find gangbang groups on CL than it is to arrange a gangbang using most swinger sites. Having said that, I have done only one CL gangbang. It was good, but I'm not sure I'd do it through CL again. There are just too many risks involved. I was lucky my first time, but I don't want to be unlucky the second time.

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It seems a bunch of the CL ads in the Portland area are posted by tweakers aka meth/molly users. Not all mind you, but I see lots of ads casually mentioning it. They don't come right out and say it, but if you know their buzzwords it's easy to spot. The ads always say things like "couple looking to go fast and play" "ParTy couple looking to have fun". "Come play with Tina and the 2 of us" or "Molly is here, come play with us"

 

The capital T in parTy is short for Tina. Tina is slang for teener which is a small quantity of meth. 1/16th of an ounce. Molly is a form of ecstasy and a close relative to Methamphetamine.

 

Be careful on CL folks. We are looking to meets friends, not get stoned or play with super risky people.

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It seems a bunch of the CL ads in the Portland area are posted by tweakers aka meth/molly users. Not all mind you, but I see lots of ads casually mentioning it. They don't come right out and say it, but if you know their buzzwords it's easy to spot. The ads always say things like "couple looking to go fast and play" "ParTy couple looking to have fun". "Come play with Tina and the 2 of us" or "Molly is here, come play with us"

 

The capital T in parTy is short for Tina. Tina is slang for teener which is a small quantity of meth. 1/16th of an ounce. Molly is a form of ecstasy and a close relative to Methamphetamine.

 

Be careful on CL folks. We are looking to meets friends, not get stoned or play with super risky people.

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For us just a craigslist add is not good enough. We look to see if they have another profile where they have actually played with another couple.. Our screen for craigs list is they have to have another profile some where else.. or they have to be hot. lol

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It is interesting to check out CL ads. How many just show a guy's dick or a girls vjj. Come on, is that the way to meet another couple?

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It seems a bunch of the CL ads in the Portland area are posted by tweakers aka meth/molly users. Not all mind you, but I see lots of ads casually mentioning it. They don't come right out and say it, but if you know their buzzwords it's easy to spot. The ads always say things like "couple looking to go fast and play" "ParTy couple looking to have fun". "Come play with Tina and the 2 of us" or "Molly is here, come play with us"

 

The capital T in parTy is short for Tina. Tina is slang for teener which is a small quantity of meth. 1/16th of an ounce. Molly is a form of ecstasy and a close relative to Methamphetamine.

 

Be careful on CL folks. We are looking to meets friends, not get stoned or play with super risky people.

 

Wow! That was interesting! Thanks for sharing...I would have never guessed those were code words for anything and would have just thought they had an extra g/f they wanted to share or accidentally pressed the Shift key while typing. lol

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It is interesting to check out CL ads. How many just show a guy's dick or a girls vjj. Come on, is that the way to meet another couple?

 

I'm not a fan of CL, however I find PLENTY of just dick and JJ pics on swinger sites too.

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I'm not a fan of CL, however I find PLENTY of just dick and JJ pics on swinger sites too.

 

We aren't huge fans of "junk shots" either. We would much rather see somebody horizontal smile than their "vertical smile" :-)

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I feel CL is sketchy. I think if your just into the NSA rush then that's the place to do it but in my opinion i don't trust that. I would say Nay!!

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CL has its ups and downs. We have found some nice couples and some flakes. Since the wife loves extra cock we have gotten some really good ones off CL. But we have had a few duds. We always voice verify with the people but have have them text us also. We can figure out that day if they are flakes or not. That being said we are also on SLS and the couples and singles are just as bad. On SLS we have had more out of towners cancel or no show more often than from CL.

 

So it is up to you to try out what you feel good with doing.

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Formybubu said:

CL has its ups and downs. We have found some nice couples and some flakes. Since the wife loves extra cock we have gotten some really good ones off CL. But we have had a few duds. We always voice verify with the people but have have them text us also. We can figure out that day if they are flakes or not. That being said we are also on SLS and the couples and singles are just as bad. On SLS we have had more out of towners cancel or no show more often than from CL.

 

So it is up to you to try out what you feel good with doing.

 

Your right about SLS. It's the same everywhere. I guess it depends on the universe or something ?

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reprinted from a post in 2008. This is why we'd never do CL. It's a definite NAY!

 

 

I was on Craigslist tonight just playing around. Well, there was this one letter that was in "the best of Craigslist" section. I seriously about died laughing.

 

Here's the link: best of craigslist : Mom, I know you're there.

 

Here's the letter:

 

Mom, I know you're there.

 

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2008-03-11, 4:38PM CDT

 

 

 

Mom, I know you’re out there, reading this.

 

How do I know you’re out there?

 

Let’s begin with that ad of mine that you recently responded to, shall we? You know the one I’m talking about. It was entitled, “Mrs. Robinson, are you trying to seduce me?—m4w--22” That ad ran for three days before I got a response, and I can’t tell you, Mom, how my heart fell when I saw the photo that accompanied the response. It was your Realtor’s headshot, the one on your business card. Even worse was the text of your response. I’m so, so sorry I know now what you’d do to me if we ever “hooked up.” On the other hand, Dad must’ve been a very, very lucky guy back in the day. I dunno, maybe he still is.

 

I guess, Mom, when I think a bit about it, that I should resign myself to whatever it is that you are doing. After all, you’re an adult and I’m an adult. I can’t tell you what you should do with your life.

 

But Mom, I’d like to raise a few points.

 

The first point I’d like to raise is that you’re still married to Dad. Please, please PLEASE tell me that you have his blessing. My mind is reeling now, hoping that you’re not the people who posted “Fun Couple Looking For Others—MW4MW—57” I have a sneaking suspicion, though, that it is you. Now that I know you’re cruising CE, I suspect that there aren’t too many other 57 year old swingers from the Westlake area posting on Craigslist.

 

The second point I’d like to raise is that you owe it to whoever you’re trying to hook up with to be honest. I mean, I lived with you and Dad for 18 years. You’re not that fun.

 

Finally, I’d like you to stop responding to my “College Stud Needs a MILF—m4w—22” ads. The only one who should find you to be MILF-y at all is Dad. For me, you are just an “M”. Got it?

 

Your son.

 

PS. I’m going to swing by at around 7-7:30-ish to do a load of wash, is that okay? I tried to call you at the office, but they kept telling me that you’re busy.

 

 

 

Location: XXXXXX

it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

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It is interesting to check out CL ads. How many just show a guy's dick or a girls vjj. Come on, is that the way to meet another couple?

 

Sure, if you want to have a date with a dick and a cunt.

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Last night for giggles Mike and I went on to CL to see what is listed. Living in NJ we have South NJ, North NJ, Central NJ and Jersey shore. We go to casual encounters in the personals and we looking at MW4MW and then we also looked at w4mw and checked out many of the combinations. We weren't really looking for anything specific just passing time together. We would label this one phoney and that one ugly and "who want want that" ads. Then we came across one and we said wait is that so and so? A neighbors daughter (adult, in her 20s that we watched grow up for the last 10 years). She didn't post in our area, but in another area of NJ. She had a post for w4m and w4mw and pretty explicit pictures as well. Now my husband is saying let's contact her. I say we can't and besides she is looking to get paid I am sure. I also said it can't be her but I know it is. I would never think that she would be doing that but you never know. And then why such detailed pictures? Needless to say Mike and I had (yes I got turned on by her too) some fun sex last night.

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I really go on there for shits and giggles. Usually it's just dick pics and the usual "We're a fun hot couple/my man just wants to watch" kind of things. I can't imagine all these people are real and are so desperate to find anyone without having any standards except "must be hot". lol

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I've tried Cl before with out much luck we have found a few that were real and then it just didn't work out in the bedroom.

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It amuses me to see all of these ads on CL in regards to swinging. I feel that most of them are fake and don't impress me at all. Once in a blue moon I will find a post with normal looking people (no nudie shots) who are interesting, intelligent, but I'm worried they are either flakes or psychotic.

 

Has anyone had a positive or negative experience when it comes to CL and swinging?

 

I agree with the other members. CL is known for having shady characters. I looked through it a couple of times and there's shady written all over it. I'm sure there are a couple of good people, but they're certainly getting lost in the bunch. I much better way is to go through a proper swingers site. This way there's somewhat of a track record/reputation you can kind of look at. Also, the last thing the other person wants is a reputation/validation/comment on their profile.

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. . . Also, the last thing the other person wants is a reputation/validation/comment on their profile.
That's an interesting observation. I'm curious. Which swingers' hook-up Web site has a facility for attaching a not-flattering comment onto a profile?
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We haven't had much luck either on CL. The majority of the 'couples' we've tried to connect with generally ended with no meeting of any kind after countless emails, and most just picture hunting requests.

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I don't understand why people use CL for swinging..99% of the time people flake and if you meet them they are nothing like who they said they would be.

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LFM2 said:
reprinted from a post in 2008. This is why we'd never do CL. It's a definite NAY!

 

 

I was on Craigslist tonight just playing around. Well, there was this one letter that was in "the best of Craigslist" section. I seriously about died laughing.

 

Here's the link: best of craigslist : Mom, I know you're there.

 

Here's the letter:

 

Mom, I know you're there.

 

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

2008-03-11, 4:38PM CDT

 

Mom, I know you’re out there, reading this.

 

How do I know you’re out there?

 

Let’s begin with that ad of mine that you recently responded to, shall we? You know the one I’m talking about. It was entitled, “Mrs. Robinson, are you trying to seduce me?—m4w--22” That ad ran for three days before I got a response, and I can’t tell you, Mom, how my heart fell when I saw the photo that accompanied the response. It was your Realtor’s headshot, the one on your business card. Even worse was the text of your response. I’m so, so sorry I know now what you’d do to me if we ever “hooked up.” On the other hand, Dad must’ve been a very, very lucky guy back in the day. I dunno, maybe he still is.

 

I guess, Mom, when I think a bit about it, that I should resign myself to whatever it is that you are doing. After all, you’re an adult and I’m an adult. I can’t tell you what you should do with your life.

 

But Mom, I’d like to raise a few points.

 

The first point I’d like to raise is that you’re still married to Dad. Please, please PLEASE tell me that you have his blessing. My mind is reeling now, hoping that you’re not the people who posted “Fun Couple Looking For Others—MW4MW—57” I have a sneaking suspicion, though, that it is you. Now that I know you’re cruising CE, I suspect that there aren’t too many other 57 year old swingers from the Westlake area posting on Craigslist.

 

The second point I’d like to raise is that you owe it to whoever you’re trying to hook up with to be honest. I mean, I lived with you and Dad for 18 years. You’re not that fun.

 

Finally, I’d like you to stop responding to my “College Stud Needs a MILF—m4w—22” ads. The only one who should find you to be MILF-y at all is Dad. For me, you are just an “M”. Got it?

 

Your son.

 

PS. I’m going to swing by at around 7-7:30-ish to do a load of wash, is that okay? I tried to call you at the office, but they kept telling me that you’re busy.

 

 

 

Location: XXXXXX

it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

 

Holy shit....

 

That's really funny!

 

That said, I usually feel like I need a shower after looking at the personal ads on CL. Yeeccchhh...

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We have seen parties listed on swinger sites and also CL. So some of the parties are real. We went to them!!

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My take on the letter from the son is that it is pure fiction filled with standard stereotypes on how a son would feel finding out his mother swung. He certainly didn't write as if he had any concept of her side of sex. I've seen fiction posted on CL before as a fun way to get your writing out there and get comments on it.

 

CL (at least in Vermont) is like any free for all site: read carefully and you can separate most of the fake from the real. We've met couples, unicorns, and single males from CL with about the same success rate as SLS or AFF. There are more fakes, but not that much more, and they tend to be easier to spot than on swinger sites. The one difference is they tend to be more local with an idea of where locally. Of course here in Vermont local means within an hours drive.

 

Perhaps the largest difference is the posts by those in an extreme horny moment who after they've jerked off won't reply or will reply and then jerk off never to be heard from again. Reading CL for a time enables you to pick these out too, but with less sureness. The simplest test is how long, real, and detailed the post is. Few, very few are well written. I stay away from the short "I wanna fuck." posts. Ones that are written well and give you an idea of what sort of persons they are and what they are interested in are the best bets.

 

There are the fiction writers, like the son post above. Those are fun to read.

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We've tried to like Craigslist. We really, really have. But, for us, it just never worked out. The problem with having no barrier to entry (read: paywall) is that it attracts a lot of lookieloos. I'm sure there are some wonderful couples on there, but weeding through all the fakes takes way more time than we're willing to invest these days.

 

I should add that the last straw for us was when our posts started getting flagged and removed because we refused to respond to every (john) thomas, dick, and hairy (dick) who sent a "hey let's fuck".

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We've tried to like Craigslist. We really, really have. But, for us, it just never worked out. The problem with having no barrier to entry (read: paywall) is that it attracts a lot of lookieloos. I'm sure there are some wonderful couples on there, but weeding through all the fakes takes way more time than we're willing to invest these days.

 

I should add that the last straw for us was when our posts started getting flagged and removed because we refused to respond to every (john) thomas, dick, and hairy (dick) who sent a "hey let's fuck".

 

Agree with all of this and have had very similar problems. I feel like if you don't respond they flag you as a way to "get back" at you. Also I hate how many just picture hoarders are on CL.

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Its hard to get serious people there. Most of it its just people who would like to exchange emails

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Cl is only good if you are looking for a large selection of people RIGHT NOW.

 

If you want a mmf NOW, a couple can post an ad, have a couple hundred responses in an hour, and if you're looking to move fast, you can sift that out and make it happen.

 

If that's what you are into.

 

CL does not work well if you are looking for people to get to know and eventually set something up for the future. Most people on CL have a short attention span. They are on there because they are hor ny and looking right now. If you want to chat and meet tomorrow, it won't happen.

 

There are exceptions, but that's been my experience.

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I've tended to avoid CL because I am not what people there seem to want. For the most part it is couples in search of young, fit men with 10" cocks (must have proof) who can host them to a motel room or invite them into your house, or people who want a guy to meet the couple at a bar and play some "seduction game" because "she doesn't know anything about this". I'm speaking about the MW4M category. As other commenters have noticed, it tends to be a more "right now" type thing.

 

I always interpret "right now" to mean "we are drunk, high, or for whatever reason want to do this before we sober up and change our minds"

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"Craigs List is now!" Yes that's the whole point of CL, it's now and it's visited by a whole segment of people who wouldn't go to a swingers site because they aren't there yet. Swingers sites have search, CL is raw data. You need to read what is written, then read between the lines. It takes a while to get the posts that may have reality behind it, and the ones that are fantasy. I've even posted erotic poetry there, because I can.

 

We've met a few good people on CL and have had to wade through stroke fantasies that ejaculate with posting. Did post one that brought in over 300 responses over the course of three weeks. Yes, I know what entices men. And have several promising meetings set up. We get the same sort of responses on AFF that we do from CL, the many short "I want..." and the very few ones worthy of an answer. CL does pull in a fair number of responses you'll never see on a swingers site. Occasionally there will even be a decent one.

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Craigslist can be a bit like finding a needle in a haystack that's being shot at you through a firehose but we've had some success with it, especially for short notice nights out. We've had more luck with posting something on CL when we were on the way out the door than the SLS hot date we put up at the same time.

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While we look at Craigslist, usually for a good laugh, there just really isn't that many people (at least in our area) there and (IMHO) it seems to have people who are fantasizing (I WISH my SO was interested, I wonder what we could find) and picture collectors. People who are SERIOUSLY looking are willing to spend the extra minute or two to set up a profile on one of the swinger websites. Bigger pond = more fish.

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We've made a few dates off of Craigslist. Just make sure you first meet in a very public place, like Grand Central Terminal.

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We had mostly negative results on CL. Basically flakes or the pic collectors who immediately ask for naked pics (but post none of themselves). We have however met a few worthy people on there, one couple not so long ago. Then there's the people who just turn out to be assholes. Earlier this week we responded to a trio (2f, 1m) who were looking for a couple to help celebrate a birthday. We responded, got a phone number , texted back and forth, sent and received PG photos and all looked good. Until we went to set a time. We wanted to go out early, it was after all a work night for us. As they were visiting in town, they had no need to get up early. They said they weren't available until much later in the night, about the time we'd normally head to bed. When I brought up this fact and said there was no way we could do it unless it was earlier, the only thing I got back was...Another CL Flake. I responded kindly (no need to get pissy) that the lack of understanding was pretty weak and maybe it's a good thing we didn't get together as we both hate people with attitudes. I'm sure they maybe had to deal with real flakes, but when we say we'll be somewhere at a specific time, we will be there. I think in 3+ years we've only had to cancel two or three times on short notice for work or emergencies. Hell, we even once continued to a meeting even after I had burned my hand badly on the way when we witnessed an accident and stopped to help. I think that was the only thing that offended me.

 

Bottom line, you just have to dig through the weeds to find the roses. We've had just as many people be flaky from the swinger sites too.

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I checked out sls. There are only a few profiles in the silver spring maryland area. I don't like to travel. Seems like with cl you can find people closer.

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We have tried both with equal success-although CL you get 98% junk/crazies. We will say we have found our current friend on CL-but it took a lot of vetting and as one user quoted earlier we posted a very specific ad with who/what/etc and didn't post anything crazy

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I (male here) have responded to a few Craigslist ads with great success. I met two couples looking for an extra. In one occasion, a guy was setting up something for his wife's birthday. We met a few times, including the following year for her birthday again. The second time was super fun. I also met another couple the same way, and have been introduced to a some fun groups as well. That said, you really need to parse the ads carefully. A lot are fakes and pic collectors. But they are usually easy to spot.

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