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Okay, so our first few months of trying out the online thing haven't worked so well.

 

We've gotten a good number of emails from people saying they love our profile, but when we open up our private pics...radio silence. The truth is, we have very few pictures, and they are not at all revealing. Time for some new pics.

 

We're not interested in putting nude pics online, though we're okay with revealing. After all, you probably want to see body type, right? Anyway, we've had no problem getting some good pics of my wife, but we're not sure what to do for me. I have one that seems ok, but we don't want to have a bunch of her, and just one of me.

 

So, what are some examples of what you like to see in the male's pic? Fully dressed? Shirt off? Feel free to make suggestions!

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I do not believe your on-line picture is slowing your contact rate. You both look good in your picture. You are looking for "tame" encounters, as that particular swingers' Web site defines tame. There are people out there who are similarly looking for tame -- just not very many. You should expect to wait longer than most others.

 

Do you also send invitations to other members for meetings. That's another aspect of on-line swinger dating. My wife and I were meeting nobody through any Web site until we started to reach out to others.

 

One other comment. The phrase "same room fun" is liable to mean different things to different people. Might be worthwhile to be more specific about what kinds of fun you want.

 

Wishing you a successful search.

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It's very common to have radio silence. In fact I would say it is the predominate response we receive. But what do I know, I could very well be Quasimodo!

 

Mr Marvin

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We agree with the above sentiments about tame play, but you asked what do ladies like in a picture. The Mrs. here really likes to see somebody who has a sense of style and dresses cool. She loves to see several nice pics of the male or the couple together dressed up like they are going out for a date. Stage the scenery a bit by picking up the socks or towels on the floor ;-) Have fun and take a few nice pics together just for your profile. And if you want to show off your body type, a nice tasteful shot of you in some stylish boxer briefs or something similar that fits your stye would be good too.

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Thanks for your responses. And thanks to this forum, we were aware we would probably get less interest because of our tame ways. That doesn't actually seem to be the problem, as we receive a fair bit of mail, stating that they like our profile, and tame is fine with them. Enough that we haven't sent out our own yet (though we certainly will).

 

The problem comes when we write back, and say we're interested too, and open the private pics. Now it's fair to say that we won't be confused with professional models, but we're a little surprised that the sight of us has people running for the hills.

 

Neither of us is very photogenic, so we're hoping a greater variety of pictures will give people a better sense of what we look like.

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I see this so much in couple profile. One or two pics of the guy, but a load of pics of the female half. I would like to see more males in poses with and without clothes from the face to just above the penis. A smile to show he is enjoying taking the pics and show a humorous side of yourself.

I was dating a guy that was against taking pics of himself, but would put pics of everything and everyone else on his profile. WTF dude! Not cool. Put some pics of yourself on your profile so people can see what the person they are communicating with look like.

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Ok.. its not about the pic.. its about who you are attracting others. From my experience contacting and flirting with a couple of different couples a night till you find the right couple is what works for us. We do the local search on our favorite adult swinger site and just go from there. I think we get a response rate of 3 out of nine.

 

As for pics.. maybe invest in a photography session with a professional photographer. A different set of tastefully done pics could give you the confidence you need to attract who you want. Besides it might be a fun thing to do..

 

Good luck and thank you for posting your question.

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Mrs. Magiriano NEEDS to see the man's eyes to observe an initial attraction. dressed/undressed/tanned/tonned we can read thru very easily - (just cover part of the photo) but messages with pictures with sunglasses on are a quick delete.

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Mrs. Magiriano NEEDS to see the man's eyes to observe an initial attraction. dressed/undressed/tanned/tonned we can read thru very easily - (just cover part of the photo) but messages with pictures with sunglasses on are a quick delete.

 

Good point. I can't tell you how many couples we've rejected (with female halves I found attractive) just because there was one blurry photo of the male half in sunglasses. Pre-emptively being "cock blocked" out the gate sucks!

 

MrMarvin

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A smiling face pic is all that is needed in our opinion. Your naked body, and cock, looks so much better in person than in a picture. Your wife is WAY more sexier naked in person than in a moments snapshot.

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I agree with what the others said. In fact I prefer not to see much nudity. In fact, like someone else said, I like to see clothed pics just to get an idea of body type.

 

M1F2KTJ may have said it best, we like to see a smiling face pic. Smile to make sure he has good teeth and eyes to judge if there is something lurching behind there that makes me uneasy. There are plenty of sexy women but for me (Mrs Shy) the guy makes or breaks the deal.

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The worst pics out there, IMHO are the pics of nothing but nude body parts. It's like there isn't a person attached to a penis or a set of breasts. ugh.

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We understand that the norm on most sites is you get to see someones body/package and once you get to know them a little a face.

 

Keeping that in mind:

Mrs. New likes to see your whole torso . . . chest, stomach and crotch. Close up dick picks are just a turn-off for her. Who cares how nice it is if it's attached to someone you're not attracted to? After that it's nice to see clothed pics with you dressed as you would for a nice cocktail party. Someone's personal style says a lot about them and can help indicate whether or not you might in fact get along. And finally, you need to have a nice, non-webcam photo of your face.

 

Hope this is helpful and didn't come off too shallow! Just putting the preferences she has out there since you asked for female opinion!

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