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Has anyone found legit swinger people on Craigslist? I know that there is a lot of junk mail "bots" but aren't there real people on there too?

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We have met a few couples off a craigslist and friends of ours have also met several single females on CL. Unfortunately, you have to weed through several bots and pic stealers before getting real people.

 

I know several swingers from my area, that post on CL. Good luck!

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We usually stay away from sites like craigslist. Too much spam, swinger forums and web sites are the best bet over the internet. I heard that they might be shutting down the adult ads on craigslist.

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Our experience from Craig's list has proven to be mostly cheaters and trolls.

 

Years ago we would check it out but have learned it is not worth our time unless I am looking to buy some old appliances for a rental house. :rolleyes:

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I would say there are some real people for M4M, couples, W4W, people wanting a T, but it is very likely most real people are pic collectors or cheaters.

 

A lot of the real women on it, most likely will be BBW. Might be a good place to find a BBW if that's what you are looking for. I am real. Bi-curious BBW and have met single men on there. Suspected but don't know for sure if married or attached.

 

I am looking more into flickr and yahoo for better ways to meet. Met a couple on a local swinger site - a free site.

 

Anyway I am looking for somebody in San Antonio. (Or for travel, also in NC, TN, GA, or Myrtle Beach.)

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Finding a couple on CL would scare the hell outta me. When they start advertising washers and dryers on SLS, I'm outta there, too. I've heard too many stories, seen sketchy ads and there is no way I'd go to CL for a date.

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CL is too hit or miss IMO. I don't mind reading ads, have responded to a few (f seeking f) but haven't met anyone on there.

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I would say there are some real people for M4M, couples, W4W, people wanting a T, but it is very likely most real people are pic collectors or cheaters.

 

A lot of the real women on it, most likely will be BBW. Might be a good place to find a BBW if that's what you are looking for. I am real. Bi-curious BBW and have met single men on there. Suspected but don't know for sure if married or attached.

 

I am looking more into flickr and yahoo for better ways to meet. Met a couple on a local swinger site - a free site.

 

Anyway I am looking for somebody in San Antonio. (Or for travel, also in NC, TN, GA, or Myrtle Beach.)

 

Swinglifestyle.com is good, OK Cupid isn't too bad either. I've found, overall, online swingers searches is hit or miss.

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We've posted ads on CL and while we have never met anyone on there, have found a ton of guy's. Some that have been pretty interesting. A couple that I thought for sure, my wife would want to meet. No dice thus far. But I agree, you do need to weed through the BS

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We have a couple of friends who have met people on CL.

 

We are a little too leary of online security to try it. Toom many spam-bots, fakes, and pic collectors to find the few gems that are listed there.

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We will, answer adds from couples and single fems on craigs list and point them to real swingers sites, then if we find them there we contact them again.

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Well me and my partner have been looking for potential playmates to join us...

 

Right now mostly males to join us for a threesome, and out of a bunch of people we actually met up with one guy, he turned out to be a virgin, or so he said he was, and it was something we thought could have been fun...

 

We ended up talking to him and trying to get to know him for a span of 1-2 years, and near the end of the second year, when we asked if he would be interested in setting something up soon? He kind of was rude, and his excuse was that we made him wait for so long that he does feel frustrated, I think whether or not he was real enough to show up, or if he was telling the truth about even being a virgin, the way he was rude, kind of just totally turned us off...

 

So we ended up just not replying to him, so as of yet, we haven't found anyone from CL, I like to read ad's every now and then, hoping to find someone good, but so far no luck...

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Mrs DS has spent a lot of time perusing CL ads. Because it's free, it invites too many seedy types (imho) to consider it viable. I felt more relaxed at a swinger's club then the possibility of meeting a CL harvested contact.

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I've used CL to sell stuff rather successfully. Also found some good deals on furniture and appliances.

 

That being said, the personals boards are the biggest mess I've ever seen. The casual relationships category has pretty much become a list of hookers trying to line up johns. It's a race as to how many posts they can put up before people start flagging.

 

I've met a couple of ladies who took great glee in describing themselves in ways that no way matched their actual appearance, unless one took great literary license.....

 

Ciao

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We don't do the craigslist thing. I don't know anyone that's had anything POSITIVE happen from meeting someone there. It may just be our area, but here it's mostly prostitutes and bots.

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Craigslist is a nightmare. A long time ago, I tried to use it to find a single guy for a MFM, and the most sketchy people on the planet replied to my ad. If it wasn't a bot, it was some guy replying with nothing but a picture of his penis and a phone number.

 

I know it's not the classiest thing to look for a sexual partner on CL, but good god, those people have zero tact. And even mentioning an STD test basically halts any further communication.

 

I'd rather go to hell than use that site to find a swinging partner.

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It's the same old shit: scary stories, the OMG I wouldn't use Craigs List! People are scared of their own shadows. We have used CL and have actually met people that we still see.

 

First read posts to learn the techniques of bots and scammers. 99% are easy to spot. Read the posts carefully and you'll notice those who are playing fantasy and don't have the guts to be real. Once you eliminate these you are on a par with most swinger sites. We've met some kooks on swinger sites too.

 

Most posts on CL can be quickly eliminated. On Swing Lifestyle we eliminate most on a first read through also. Reading and eliminating those who don't fit are the most essential actions on any site when looking for swinging partners.

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All I get is guys looking to hook up with myself and a girl if and when I find one :lol:... :sad:

 

I have tried looking for couples and there are a million postings from single guys looking for a one night stand. Go and check how many females post looking for men or couples. the ratio is like a million to one. Even the "straight" guys try hooking up with gay/bi men. I think of it as a bunch of mice scrambling after one piece of cheese :confused:

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We will, answer adds from couples and single fems on craigs list and point them to real swingers sites, then if we find them there we contact them again.

 

Please!!! Guide me in the right direction. I'm new at this. And, ALL I find out there is a bunch of junk "Pay Us for a Gold Membership- so you can communicate with someone":( I am so discouraged by all the porn/media sites. PLEASE HELP ME! It would be greatly appreciated :)

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x_tomx said:
Please!!! Guide me in the right direction. I'm new at this. And, ALL I find out there is a bunch of junk "Pay Us for a Gold Membership- so you can communicate with someone":( I am so discouraged by all the porn/media sites. PLEASE HELP ME! It would be greatly appreciated :)

 

A week on SLS and we've got two dates next week and two other couples that we're trying to nail down a meet and greet.

 

We got lucky-- there was a banner ad one day offering up a free one year paid membership. We were gonna get the lifetime deal anyway, but now we've got a year to actually do it. :)

 

Pay for the membership. Put up some pictures. Consider it an investment in the lifestyle.

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It's the same old shit: scary stories, the OMG I wouldn't use Craigs List! People are scared of their own shadows. We have used CL and have actually met people that we still see.

 

First read posts to learn the techniques of bots and scammers. 99% are easy to spot. Read the posts carefully and you'll notice those who are playing fantasy and don't have the guts to be real. Once you eliminate these you are on a par with most swinger sites. We've met some kooks on swinger sites too.

 

Most posts on CL can be quickly eliminated. On Swing Lifestyle we eliminate most on a first read through also. Reading and eliminating those who don't fit are the most essential actions on any site when looking for swinging partners.

 

I happen to agree with this 100%. There was a day when I was shocked as hell that my husband put that first add up on CL for a mfm...thought he'd lost his mind! We don't even use swinger dating sites for meeting others-we prefer clubs and swinger parties...the thought of endless back n forth emails, the thought of dinner dating/meeting another couple on that one night you have a sitter and the possibility of nothing clicking... just doesn't sound fun to me at all.

 

The CL responses were very transparent and easy to spot the bots and the "unreal", the cheaters, the flakes or the ones that just "don't get it", the selfish-I can give you what your man can't attitude or just the many who are unable to follow simple instructions. After those were eliminated, to my surprise, there were some great choices left! I'm adventurous/spontaneous type and there wasn't any couples' parties on that Sun. afternoon, we were feeling naughty so I said, ok what the hell, I'll try it.

 

I was blown away by the incredibly positive experience we had that first time and how easy, fast and drama free it was to set up. I gave my hubby a second try at picking out a date on CL...fun again! (at swinger clubs, I am the one who generally sets play up with couples we are interested in-this CL thing is all him until he is down to a handful that he feels I would enjoy) The third time, I was getting nervous and thought he (my husband) couldn't possibly keep "getting lucky" at picking out such quality single men on CL but it was "out of this world" fun and definitely the third was a charm! (so much so we shared our CL secret on a podcast - even though we don't consider it swinging).

 

I saw this thread earlier but I was still in the "I can't believe how lucky we have been and thinking in the back of my mind we were due for a real CL nightmare scenario" mindset. Well, at least 8 experiences over the last year and all great guys and experiences...three of them 'off the charts' great, I can say it isn't just luck. My husband has some skills and there are some real quality guys that use CL - my stereotypical image of running into the greasy, beer bellied guy that sold me the used dresser was proven wrong over and over again.

 

We still prefer playing and socializing with swinging couples but I am definitely down for the occasional naughty CL adventure!

 

Allie

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:nono: to Craigslist...Being a member on a website is always much better than any classified ad...you may still have a few fakes but it's a lot easier to point them out if they have a blank profile, no friends, limited pics or no validations...

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We have a couple of friends who have met people on CL.

 

We are a little too leary of online security to try it. Toom many spam-bots, fakes, and pic collectors to find the few gems that are listed there.

 

CL, at least here in India, is a waste of time: It is full of pimps. I have been successful in using Yahoo! messenger in certain chat rooms.

 

Sometimes, when I'm feeling lucky, I can try and guess the Yahoo messenger id of people in AFF.

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CL, at least here in India, is a waste of time: It is full of pimps. I have been successful in using Yahoo! messenger in certain chat rooms.

 

Sometimes, when I'm feeling lucky, I can try and guess the Yahoo messenger id of people in AFF.

 

Rakesh Tiku: It's nice to see you here and thanks for the Yahoo messenger tip!

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I advertised for a fem for my BF after I had surgery and got a 'hit' that evaporated... still and all kinda exciting but HER LOSS! and i flirted with and met (for lunch in a public place) two young men, neither of whom I was attracted to.

 

What is it they say? "Women need a reason and guys need a place" lol.

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I did find a really naughty and friendly couple by using craigslist. They posted the ad, I just responded with a pic and wrote things that showed that I had experience.

 

We had many wonderful threesomes before I started dating (I'm ready to swing again).

 

I think many, but not all, of the couples seeking single males are real. They are the type that doesn't want to put as much effort into an ad, sometimes newbies, and sometimes just want 1 hookup buddy for threesomes (or so they think at the time).

 

I'm wondering how to meet kinky single women also. Hmm?

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I've met a few people on craigslist but it was slim pickings and took a long time. Did meet one cutie though but craigslist is not the best way to meet people in my opinion

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I once met a strip club manager who said that all his girls had left the strip club and went to CL

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I've actually had some really good luck meeting women on CL, but that was about 5-7 years ago, and I've noticed that things have changed drastically since then. I met about three or four women by putting up messages and just being really honest and genuine about what I'm looking for. I remember that in most cases I put my Yahoo messenger screen name in the message, and I think that helped.

 

But those days are gone. The last time I tried all I got were bots. I'd really love to meet a women for some honest fun. Maybe I will here.

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I've met one single female on there a few years ago and had a lot of fun. Since we've started swinging as a couple we occasionally post ads there or respond to a few but haven't had any luck finding anyone who was serious. The few replies we do get seem to be all people that HAVE TO HAVE IT NOW! TODAY! PRONTO! lol...

 

Haven't had too many bot responses lately though, just people who weren't interested, were too pushy or weren't serious in the first place. We've had much better luck with Swinglifestyle out of all the places we've tried.

 

I think if you were looking for single males instead you would have better luck on there, personally we don't pick up single guys on the internet though because we've agreed that couples help weed out the crazies a bit (no offense, just our preference when looking online, especially Craigslist)

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We have a couple of friends who have met people on CL.

 

We are a little too leary of online security to try it. Toom many spam-bots, fakes, and pic collectors to find the few gems that are listed there.

 

I generally dislike CL because of those reasons listed above, but somehow I lucked out when I met a nice couple close to my area. It's a rarity but it does happen.

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We've used CL to sell and have even looked at the personals from time to time. Something about hooking up that way would make me feel a little bit skeezy though. Don't know why, but it just would. Of course all of our meets these days are face to face at a local club and not through on-line connections, so that has much to do with it I'm sure. I suppose if you don't have a local club available to you, it's just another option, though I'd put more faith into sites like sls myself.

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We have posted on CL just to see if any one somewhat normal replies. I don't think we'd ever hook up with someone off CL, though...

 

Mr. Erotic does like to check out the free stuff on there, though lol

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We have posted on CL just to see if any one somewhat normal replies. I don't think we'd ever hook up with someone off CL, though...

 

You can find diamonds in the rough on CL; IF you are willing to be bombarded with emails. For example, we like having guys for Ms. PttimeDC, so when we post to CL we get 75-100 emails per day. We always post in the ad a specific subject line; that way we can easily delete any spam we get. I will tell you, we do NOT get any extra spam from CL...not that we don't already get from AFF associates. Over the years we have found some REALLY hot guys for the Ms.

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We've sold appliances on CL, but wouldn't dream of looking for playmates there. You'd probably have better luck hanging out at the bus station and calling the numbers in the bathroom stall, lol. Don't know why someone would take a pig in a poke over using SLS, even as a free member you can at least see certs and some pics. Folks have been killed trying to buy cars on CL, why would you take chances with pervs and crack heads? I love and respect my wife too much to take chances like that.

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I have some friends who have met and played with a few very sane and attractive single females from CL. We've also chatted with several very sane and attractive couples/single females as well. In our experience with CL, there are a lot of couples that don't want to pay for a membership and just want to do something naughty and discreet every once in a while. CL is just another (free) resource to do that with. Of course you're going to have fakes and assholes... I've encountered that on some popular member sites. Once you learn how to recognize them (fakes). Your chances to meet like-minded people increases.

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We use Craigslist almost exclusively and have had very few problems with it. It's the best for what we're looking for: one-time swaps without the certification process, the need to keep in touch or stay friends, and couples visiting our city.

 

There is no question that it's degraded significantly in the past 5+ years, but it's still a valid resource if you have experience recognizing fake posts. I (this is she) tried to outline some of the incorrect assumptions below.

 

1. There are no "bots" on Craigslist. Each post is posted by a human being; whether their intention is to collect pictures, indulge in a fantasy, or actually find another couple or person to swing with is not relevant to submit a post on Craigslist. Anyone can post what the weather is at the time of their posting, or whether a NCAA or football team just won or lost. Unless you understand the 'behind-the-scenes' for what it would take to create an auto-post program, it's easy to chalk all fake posts up to "bots".

 

2. Asking respondents to put something in the subject line does not improve the quality of the respondents, nor weed out "bots".

 

3. Swinging sites or local clubs flag a LOT in some cities, especially ones with pictures in an attempt to dissuade people from free services such as Craigslist.

 

For us, the most frustrating thing in the world is having our post flagged. We put SO much time and effort into them that it can be pretty disheartening. But due to the quality of our posts, we usually receive enough replies to find a compatible couple before its taken down :)

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