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Playing at home - do's and don'ts?

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My wife and I are starting to set up meetings with single men. We are meeting the first later in the week. He was a participant in her first gangbang and she really clicked with him sexually. We got to know him somewhat well and we are comfortable having him over to our house.

 

We are still relatively new to the lifestyle and we are looking for any do's and dont's of playing at home. We just want to make sure no rock is left unturned before we commit to playing here. Thanks in advance.

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I usually tuck my purse away - and if you have kids, make sure they are not home.

 

Some preparations we've made...condoms and towels available at the ready, any toys you may want to use are clean and out, music, lighting. Alcohol, water or soda iced and available for break times.

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We've played at a club, hotels and at home. The couple with an open invitation to our home are friends as well as playmates, so we don't worry about hiding the silver or our wallets. We wouldn't do it with more casual hook ups, but it's all about your comfort level. If this is within it, that's pretty much your answer right there.

 

It's like any other social occasion on some levels, except that it'll be one where your visitor will need a clean towel and the use of your shower in addition to the other amenities you shower on guests.

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I agree with what has been said and this is what our experience has been with swinging at home.

 

It is damn nice to swing at home. We get all the fun and do not have to leave the house. We really enjoy entertaining at home; all our good porn is home as well as our toys. We have a huge bed that if it could talk...

 

We are reluctant to take single males home. Not just because I do not want another dick in the house. I dislike another single cock competing for her in our castle. My wife is hot and she gets propositioned all the time at work in public. It is just a compliment that gets old. It can be stress on us both. I was in the emergency room (hurt myself again) and the ER Doc all but forgot I was in the room when he saw her. I was like... help me I am bleeding to death... or so I thought. He worried me. She could have traded up on that one.

 

Not that there is anything wrong with single males, we just do not play with them at home. In the past we have had married men and a few singles try to pursue my wife back to the house. My wife is hot and some men get stupid and think they have a shot with her outside of swinging. This happens more with single guys. I understand that and we don't do any mmf's at home.

 

It is all good and sometimes that extra attention men want is only natural. It is how you deflect those situations that change you from ordinary swingers to very successful swingers.

 

It is easy to demonize someone. But to change them and keep them on good ground with you is better.

 

In short we prefer to play at home but are selective in who we do bring home and we realize that there may be problems. Any relationship will have this.

 

Get to know who you are inviting into your house. Where they work, where they are from, what kind of car they drive. Protect yourself.

 

Good luck... and let us know how it goes.

 

M and N.

 

Oh, and the wife says No sports on when your buddy shows up.

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When we could, we invited men to our place. Once J's mom moved in with us, we had to take it elsewhere. We much preferred doing it at our house. We know how to entertain, where most single guys are clueless. Filthy toilets, no offer of shower use, never a glass of water. We started to bring our own "fucking survival bag" containing lubes, candles, water, music, munchies etc.

 

I never felt like there was any danger of having a guy at the house. They were always with us, no time to steal. Most were very nervous with all that was happening and going to happen so stealing wasn't really on their mind. Since some guys tend to be secretive about their lives, I insist on seeing a drivers license.

 

One guy (he hadn't been to the house, we saw him at hotel rooms) was very secretive about his identity. He always paid for the room, he would get us the most expensive room in the downtown hotel he liked. We knew he was a doctor but nothing else. One night, we decided to stay the night in the room as it was very nice and was just going to be going to waste. He would always leave right after the sex. The next morning there was a receipt for the room slid under the door. So we had his last name. We googled him and found he was an anesthesiologist and someone had been left brain dead from his neglect and had been awarded the largest malpractice suit ever awarded in his state. Made sense why he wanted to remain discreet.

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We enjoy MFM play, and at home, for us, is best. We know where everything is, (and isn't), it's our power center, so there's no concern about "who is in charge", plus it makes the wife more comfortable and when play is over, we can just fall in bed, the guest travels, not us. Plus, if it were to ever "go bad (has not in 10 years), we know where everything is to dissuade things from going further then she's comfortable. Although, I have to say, we've never had a problem of any kind. And when we decide the night is over, neither of us have a problem stating the night is done.

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We selectively bring "already vetted" couples to our home playpen. Very comfortable set up, very sexy results. Note the word "vetted".

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We selectively bring "already vetted" couples to our home playpen. Very comfortable set up, very sexy results. Note the word "vetted".

 

Same here. Basically couples we've known for a while, and have probably played with before.

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We also play at home (or at the residence of the other couple) for the most part. Mrs finds it more relaxing for her as she is in her comfort zone. In addition, as we are not into one-night-stands, we usually don't invite another couple or individual to our residence until we have initially met them in a neutral location, established a common connection and interest, and established a basic level of trust.

 

Plus, as we usually prefer to make an event out of a get together for possible play, we enjoy having a nice meal, relaxing music, and a few drinks to set the stage and make everyone feel relaxed. In our experience, this plays out more favorable at either our or their residence.

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Never had a problem playing at home and much prefer it. However any and all are well vetted outside the house before we extend that privilege.

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