Socializing in a club setting

The wife and I have just recently got back into swinging in the last 6 months, but have really limited ourselves to meeting people through KIK. We met an amazing couple that we played together with as well as some singles we played separately with.

We are going to Vegas in June and were hoping to have a couples experience while there. Neither of us are particularly sociable in person, like in the strike up a random conversation department. So my question is how easy are interactions at clubs and do you find that couples who are less gregarious upon first introductions still have fun?

We have found that meeting people at clubs is pretty easy. We are often a little bit shy too, and we've never had a problem finding people who are approachable and willing to chat. Sure, some are more talkative than others, but that's to be expected depending on how well you hit it off. What we've never been good at is spotting a couple all the way across the room and just going over cold and trying to strike up a conversation. That's something we need to improve on, but to be honest, is still uncomfortable enough for us that we eventually chicken out even after we've spent some time trying to build ourselves up to do it. We usually just start with those around us, and then as people mingle and little groups form and disperse, you can just kind of branch out from there.

We have found that meeting people at clubs is pretty easy. We are often a little bit shy too, and we've never had a problem finding people who are approachable and willing to chat. Sure, some are more talkative than others, but that's to be expected depending on how well you hit it off. What we've never been good at is spotting a couple all the way across the room and just going over cold and trying to strike up a conversation. That's something we need to improve on, but to be honest, is still uncomfortable enough for us that we eventually chicken out even after we've spent some time trying to build ourselves up to do it. We usually just start with those around us, and then as people mingle and little groups form and disperse, you can just kind of branch out from there.

We do much the same although occasionally we will go over to a couple and try and chat them up!! It's a learned skill in my opinion. I certainly have not always been outgoing in group social situations, now I can roam a bar like I own the place.

I will say this, going to a club and sitting in the corner staring at people no matter where you are is a turn off. Other people are looking for friendly minded folks as well. They are just as not interested as you, in being treated poorly. If all you are presenting is a less than warm and fuzzy exterior it is not helpful.

We try to roam around ALOT, just to 'see what's happening over there', hit the dance floor, go outside to get some fresh air, etc. Hell we even shot pool, my wife's second game and I am really glad nobody was watching.

Just smile and be as friendly as possible. Also don't put too much emphasis on one night, and make sure you and your SO are having fun!!

We, too, are a bit more on the introvert side of the scale. Just remember that you are all there for the same reason. Like some salesman, there are always those who don’t know when to close the deal but most of the time, you can control that.

Thanks for the advice. It makes me feel a little less nervous for our upcoming trips.

Here's another thing to try, lokkie.

Many clubs have their club events listed on SLS. And people often sign up on the SLS event page to indicate that they're going to the club on a particular night. So you might be able to check out the profiles of some of those who will be there, and even drop a note to those who you find interesting. That could be a nice icebreaker to get you started with a few couples at the club!

Speaking of finding people interesting, I noticed that you guys have a pretty new SLS profile. If you do sign up on SLS for an event at one of the clubs in Vegas, it might be good to drop a couple of pictures into your SLS profile. It doesn't have to be face picture, if you're concerned about that- just something to give people an idea of who you are. Profiles with pictures tend to get a lot more attention! And who knows, some people might drop you a line on SLS before your night at the club!

I was going to add some pics later this week. We've been in NC for the last couple of days for the wife's b day. Thanks form the too though