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Guys not performing - turned and ran out mid-swing

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This is part vent and part experience share. I am also hoping to get a bit of feedback as to whether others are getting similar experiences?

 

Basically last Saturday night we met this couple. My wife did most of the chatting with him. Standard questions, like how much experience they had, etc. I chatted with the lady, just to make sure she was nice, you know friendly, etc. Pretend to laugh at my jokes. So I check in with the wife, she's in, I'm good. My wife asks if they would like to play. They say sure. We say we'll get a cigarette and be right back, give things a chance to cool down. We return and I ask them, what they are into and how far they go? Really pretty standard stuff. He replies, wherever we go, they'll go a bit more...er ok?!?! Guess he doesn't know me that well, but sounds like fun?

 

We found a bed that wasn't being used in a semi-public area. Myself, my wife and the other lady got undressed. He didn't really get undressed but pulled out his dick. Next thing we know he just splits...like leaves?? We looked at her, and she got up to chase after him? My wife and I were like WTF? I began getting it on with my wife, etc.

 

Later she said something like, he does that sometimes when he has sex with her. Frankly, I couldn't be bothered to talk to them anymore and they were not offering an apology or explanation.

 

Well we were/are kinda pissed off. No apology, explanation, etc. I was more pissed off yesterday. I had a good time with other friends at the party, but that certainly left a raw taste in my mouth.

 

Our best guess was he was lying about having experience, and 'doing more'. We have had some other experiences where he couldn't, but at least we had an explanation?

 

Definitely open for any comments/questions, but the experience still makes me pissed.

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Wow, just wow. Performance anxiety is one thing but just bailing like that is pretty wild. Extreme embarrassment is all we can think of. Continuing to be mad over it won't accomplish anything so you may as well find a way to laugh about it. If nothing else you got a good story out of the experience.

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I have split and left on more than one occasion. For me things just moved to far too quickly and I bolted. Once at a couples house, my clothes were already off and I picked them up and left, I dressed in the bathroom and then thanked them and apologized before leaving. And once at a house party where things went from drinks to an orgy in what felt to me like seconds. The hair stood up on the back of my neck and my body seemed to prepare itself for a crash and instinctively I was out the door. That was then but it has happened to us the other way round too. Where partners have bolted, it's a little weird if you're kept guessing but nonetheless an experience.

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We gave up getting upset by anything others do or don't do. You had fun, you know they are not your cup of tea, be happy cuz it's not like you met them in a hotel you paid for. :D

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Sometimes it's very hard when you are not hard and want to be hard...and this just starts a downward spiral raising doubt in the mans mind making it even harder to get hard. It's not anything to take personally (although him just leaving his wife there seems rather...bad), just move on. There's always another couple...

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Yeah thanks guys...just caught a really arrogant vibe that was a mood killer in general for me/us.

 

Also, frankly, it was so unbelievable, it was hard to get my head around.

 

I mean I have sat out, pulled back, grabbed recovery time, slowed down the action. I just really couldn't get my head around just leaving.

 

It did make me think about why there are some pretty tight cliques. We definitely could have gone off with people we knew were going to perform, now given that option, we will probably re-think the 'new' couple.

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Are you sure it was because his little head wouldn't cooperate? If so, too bad that was his reaction, there's still a lot of sexy fun to be had without a hard cock. AND those other sexy things can lead to a hard cock with some patience. Perhaps he's struggling with an ongoing problem - or for all we know, they were new, or he was not as comfortable with swinging as advertised.

 

Next!

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Thanks Angelkin, actually we have no idea either...he certainly wasn't comfortable...noticed he needed to leave about the same time she started moaning...eh whatever...NEXT!!! :lol:

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Hubby read this and said: Ya know, at least he left and she followed. They did the right thing and did NOT cause any drama.

 

No drama ftw!

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It's one thing to think about it and another to actually do it. It sounds like he was along for the ride and they should not be swinging until they talk more. If he runs away for sex with her, he has other issues as well. But be upset by it? FIDO ( forget it and drive on)

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So, I agree that this couple is not worth investing any more time in. I could have understood, or been willing to try understanding, the guy abruptly bolting from the room, IF they had come back later, apologized, and gave some kind of explanation. But a nonchalant "he does that sometimes" is not sufficient, and seems to ignore the fact that they rudely left you hanging. I understand why you are peeved!

 

It's a mystery what happened to make him leave so abruptly. Maybe he got cold feet, maybe he freaked at the sound of his wife enjoying her experience... hell, maybe he had a sudden intestinal problem! Whatever it was, they forfeited their right to expect your understanding when they thoughtlessly failed to acknowledge the inconvenience to you of their bail-out.

 

If this had happened to the Mrs. and me, we might be asking ourselves if we did anything to precipitate his reaction (and I would probably have that question nibbling at me a little, to be honest). I'm not saying that you have anything to worry about- it's more of a lingering insecurity of ours. And in your case, you didn't say anything to lead me to believe that his departure had the slightest thing to do with you guys!

 

Bottom line is that you win some, and you lose some. Hopefully you two are finding that the occasional bizarre experience is more than made up for with the fun, exciting experiences!

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