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A couple of weeks ago my wife and I were talking to friends we just met at a local swingers club. We were starting to make good progress. Found out that they also were interested in some of our hobbies.

 

While we were talking. Someone tapped me on the back, when I turned around it was my daughter and her husband. She said hi Dad!

 

That caught me completely by surprise.

 

What do we do now? I wonder if they are in the lifestyle also?

 

The couple that we met will not have anything to do with us, will not respond to any phone calls or email.

 

Rich

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Wow! She must have already known or at least suspected about you guys being in the lifestyle and known that there would be a chance of eventually running across you in the clubs. Otherwise, I can't imagine her having the courage to walk right over and say hello. She must have been practicing what she would do for ages. Especially considering that your back was turned and she could have made a quick exit. I think it's a pretty sure bet they're in the lifestyle, too. Otherwise I think she would have taken the quick and painless unobserved exit.

 

I think all you can do is open a discussion and see where it goes. Good luck.

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If I understand you, you were AT a swingers club when your daughter and son-in-law tapped your back??

 

If so, then it would be reasonable to assume they swing. Did you ask them? I'm not sure why or how this could affect a couple that you just met though. People not getting in touch after the first meeting is not all that unusual though. There could be a myraid of reasons. John.

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Originally posted by yhungry

A couple of weeks ago my wife and I were talking to friends we just met at a local swingers club. We were starting to make good progress. Found out that they also were interested in some of our hobbies.

 

While we were talking. Someone tapped me on the back, when I turned around it was my daughter and her husband. She said hi Dad!

 

That caught me completely by surprise.

 

What do we do now? I wonder if they are in the lifestyle also?

 

The couple that we met will not have anything to do with us, will not respond to any phone calls or email.

 

Rich

Were you at a club when this happened? Yikes! I don't want to even think about being *found* out by my kids. I can only think of one thing worse than that, and we aren't going there.

 

If you were at a club then it is safe to assume they are both swingers. If you were at a local restaurant of something did you just feel that they knew something that you didn't want them to know? *confused*

 

I don't really understand why the other couple will not have anything to do with you, unless they felt it hit just a little too close to home for them.

 

Let us know if this happened in a club or an outside environment.

 

Lori

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I don't really understand why the other couple will not have anything to do with you, unless they felt it hit just a little too close to home for them.

 

Let us know if this happened in a club or an outside environment.

 

This happened in a swingers club. Nice thing is the couple did call us this evening and we are meeting again but at a hotel.

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Well, I would say it is safe to assume that your family members are swingers.

 

I don't know what I would have done in your shoes AFTER someone had revived me! I have this fear that my youngest and most spiciest is either in the lifestyle or just feeling me out when if comes to swinging, but I am not at ALL comfortable addressing it with her. Fortunately they live in another state and the risk of running into them at a club local to us is minimum at best.

 

Did the other couple let you know why they didn't return phone calls or messages? Was it holiday related (a time issue) or was it because they were concerned about the fact that you were confronted by your daughter?

 

Glad to hear that it didn't ruin everything for you though. :)

 

Lori

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I guess what we have learned is that you never know who you will meet at swingers clubs. It might be a family member, your boss, a close friend or one of your employees. You just never know.

 

Rich

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I'm sure this was a most uncomfortable event for you. I can see my daughter doing something like that to me though.

 

My daughter age 21 is so laid back with me on sexual conversations i can see her approaching me in the same situation.

 

We have stepped away from swinging. I don't think my daughter has ever been involved with it. If so I have a feeling I would have heard about it.

 

This is how I feel, my daughter and I have been close since she was born. Dad was the guy. Fishing, hunting, whatever... she went along with me and the boys. She did not face ridicule or embarrassment from asking me anything, although I will admit she shocked the shit out of me more than once.

 

Point is, if things are somewhat similar, congratulations, you have done a great job of raising your daughter. She is not ashamed of her sexual being and clearly is open with her parents.

 

Suggestion: if I am somewhat right here, talk to her. Don't expect her to forget you were there and don't be ashamed that you're human too.

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