Group dinners with swingers

What a fun idea! Please let us know how it turned out. I've been wondering if we should try our hand at hosting and such so your ideas help give us ideas.

I admit I am pretty fascinated about how this turns out. I agree about shouting over the loud music to try and get to know some people is really frustrating. We have done special dinners for other organizations we have joined and they are a lot of fun!

 

That's a shame about the lack of private room. You could have people pre-pay, similar to what the clubs do on a big weekend night. You do get the points when you throw down your credit card, but I would guess for a first event your idea is more prudent.

 

I look forward to hearing what happens.

That sounds like a recipe for a great evening. I'm also looking forward to hearing how it works out.

 

Right now I can't find any restaurants that are acceptable to me (Golden Corral is not acceptable to me!)

 

But, they have that chocolate waterfall that everyone lets their kids stick their half eaten marshmallows in! What's not acceptable about that?

If it helps or lends encouragement, my wife and I know that it can be done. While visiting friends in Florida last November, they tool us to such a monthly meeting and the method of sitting across from your S. O. was applied. It was a pizza place but a very large pizza place having really large tables that could be moved together in-line.

 

I've been watching you promote this at SwingerZoneCentral and I think it's great. Where do you get all of your energy, dear woman?

If only you were closer, we would come. Yes, let us know how things go...

But, they have that chocolate waterfall that everyone lets their kids stick their half eaten marshmallows in! What's not acceptable about that?

 

Did you really have to bring up that delightful imagery??

Did you really have to bring up that delightful imagery??

 

Sometimes my personal filter goes on vacation.

 

Back on topic: Since it's going to be in a restaurant with others, how vanilla do you think you'll need to keep the conversation?

Sometimes my personal filter goes on vacation.

 

I hope you know I was joking with you...although, the thought of what happens with that chocolate fountain is quite disturbing.

That's a shame about the lack of private room. You could have people pre-pay, similar to what the clubs do on a big weekend night. You do get the points when you throw down your credit card, but I would guess for a first event your idea is more prudent.

 

That's what I'm thinking too. I organized luncheons before at one of my previous jobs and with the number of people you have, restaurants may be able to give you a set price with a choice of entrees, such as fish, steaks or vegetarian, and set courses like a salad and dessert. You can collect from the attendees beforehand so you won't be out of any money.

 

My other thought is that with a big dinner party, I tend to only converse with the 2 people immediately next to me. It's hard to shout across the table. If the restaurant has a bar area, I think it's good to have people show up a little early to mingle at the bar. It allows them to talk to everyone with the help of some social lubricant.

 

Please let us know how it goes.

Laura and I used to host a vanilla party twice a year on Saturday night. On the same weekend, we'd have a Swingers Board Meet Up! The swingers all stayed in a local apartment community where they offered fully furnished apartments as one-night-at-a-time rentals for little more than the price of a hotel room. On Friday (and Thursday, for the enthusiastic ones) we had dinner with the swingers in local restaurants, usually about a dozen people. Husbands did not sit with their wives. The wait staff, all of whom knew Laura and me, was pretty good at sorting out "Put mine on his bill." when they took our orders. Once a waitress whispered into Laura's ear, "Is this a swingers party, Laura?" Laura simply whispered back, "Yes, Belinda."

 

Saturday night was the vanilla party, with about sixty people in attendance. The swingers, of course, were also invited. They were discrete and never caused a problem.

 

One Saturday evening, Laura and Mrs. Playmate were chatting with a long time friend of ours,"Donna," a "born-again" Christian, when Donna, asked how the two of them happened to know each other.

 

Taken aback, Mrs. Playmate replied, "I'm not sure. My husband and Mr. Alura met somewhere."

 

"It was in a book store," reminded Laura. True, an adult book store, where both were reading the 3 X 5 cards on the "Swingers Bulletin Board." Mr. Playmate pointed to a card and said, "This is ours." I pointed to another and said,"This one is ours." We read the cards and decided to go for a cup of coffee together where we made plans for dinner that evening.

 

"Oh! I remember!" added Mrs. Playmate. "They were both looking for something for their wives.". True, we were looking for a different man to fuck her.

 

I have a lot of fun memories from those parties. After Laura's death, we tried to keep up the tradition, but it just didn't work.

I might be too late for this dinner but how about a set menu, a beef entree and then a fish or chicken with a set price, cash bar in a private room. A lot of restaurants will go for this. Have the participants call the restaurant and give them their credit card for the two dinners and then you are assured you are not stuck with the check. That can be worked out. Lastly in a private room there will be good quiet conversation and mingling. Give all the ladies a number 1-whatever. Good way to meet and circulate. Lastly when it time to sit down, have all the gentlemen sit down and leave a place on each side of them open; then have the lady holding the number on choose where she wants to sit and go through 2 thorough whatever number you have and let the ladies choose where they want to sit with the stipulation of not sitting next to their spouse. Just some out of the box thoughts.

Thanks for the great update, funcouple!! How do you find the energy and time to set up these wonderful swing events? Also, I still wish we lived closer to you guys!

Was your group dinner on a weekday evening?

That sounds like a really good evening! Great job on the planning too, but no surprise there

Wish we could have come. Just a thought: a buffet since that encourages people to mingle more (?). Maybe instead of one big table, several smaller tables and have people switch tables as the meal progresses...just trying to think of ways to have more mingling.

It was a Saturday night.

I thought I would update this since we hosted our second dinner a few weeks ago.

 

I chose a different independent restaurant and they had a private room without a charge or insisting on all one check! I had to guarantee $400, but didn't need to hold it on my credit card, which was no problem. There was space for 24 people, we had 21 show.

 

This time we had a different group with only a few from the last dinner due to schedules, so that was nice to mix it up. We did have one single gentleman, and as I told detractors previously, he was perfectly capable of making conversation and using appropriate table manners (some people in my group were mad that I would allow singles to participate).

 

I worked with the restaurant ahead of time to have a limited menu. There were 2 soups, 2 salads and 4 entree choices, full bar and dessert. This helped the flow of the meal a lot. It was still a long dinner 7pm - 10 or 10:30, but we had a great time.

 

The room had a door so we could say whatever we wanted, and it was a bit more risque joking. The other nice thing was that we were able to do an introduction time at the start. After everyone got drinks, I had each person say their name, partner's name, screen name and make a toast or tell something they were excited about. I think that helped to promote a bit more cross table talk throughout the evening.

 

I believe that 3 couples went to the swing club after. Everyone seemed to have a good time. The food and service were great.

 

We plan to do another dinner in August before taking the group to a showing of The Rocky Horror Picture Show.

A really good plan! Offering a limited menu and having a private room solves two of the problems that my wife and I have seen at group dinners. Having a single check solves a problem that many restaurants are likely top encounter and I can understand how it would get everybody out the door more quickly when the dinner comes to its conclusion.