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I thought this would be an interest question to ask the SB members! Are you still in contact with the first couple or single you played with? Do you still play with them or just acquaintances? Or maybe they are now close friends with whom you play with on a regular basis?

 

As for us, we're still in contact with our first couple but they aren't a couple anymore. We have mainly kept in contact with the husband half all these years.

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Oh wow, I thought all the good conversation starters have already been asked! Great question. :)

 

As for us, after 12 years, yes, kind of. They split up about 7 years ago. She left him, went hard core for Jesus, and remarried. Our contact is limited to when we happen to run into her in town, and it's friendly. I have my doubts about her mental stability and current situation, but that's just a guess.

 

The male half has been involved/partnered with another lady for a few years now, and they swing (they met on SLS). We have played with them, and still do every once in a blue moon. They're a very nice couple and good people.

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No, we just stayed in intermittent contact for maybe a month afterwards. It was the first time for all of us, and it just didn't go as well as all had hoped. Nobody to blame there really, just a case of the blind leading the blind. We wouldn't have minded keeping up some level of contact, be we kind of just let things wither away when there started to be talk of trying again. We knew that our best chance, and for them too, of learning how to ride this bike would be with a different couple. That's not saying anything bad about them, just that we realized that when you add on the stress of not only trying to have a good experience your second time out, but also redeem the first experience, then that's not likely to work out well.

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She left him, went hard core for Jesus, and remarried. Our contact is limited to when we happen to run into her in town, and it's friendly. I have my doubts about her mental stability and current situation, but that's just a guess.

 

Interesting that you would say that. We wouldn't say the exact same thing about the wife half of our first couple but we definitely are just acquaintances with her and wonder about her.

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It will be interesting to read what answers you get. Just two months ago we got together with the couple who introduced us to swing lifestyle ten years ago. They have moved far away but we were eager to see them and they were eager to see us so we planned a visit while on a vacation trip. Very few people have stayed in our lives but they did.

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We haven't seen our first play friends in almost a year, which I regret- we really liked them! So I've taken this excellent question as motivation to reach out to them again and say hello. We certainly have a lot to catch up on since the last time we've talked!

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It's very complicated, but the short answer is yes, even though the couple has divorced after switching spouses permanently with another couple we knew.

 

We are close friends with all parties involved. We still play with him but not with her.

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For us it's also complicated, but no. They were interested mostly in same room sex (or hot tub) with no cross-couple interaction, which we respected. They also started seeing another couple that we didn't 'mesh' with where the male half was always pushing the boundaries with inappropriate talk and touching (the male of this second couple was married, but not to the woman he was playing with and the wife apparently didn't know of his 'hobby'). Our first couple eventually moved to another state for work for two years and moved back here about a year ago. They did contact us a couple of times after moving back wanting to get together for dinner, which we told them that we would like to do, but nothing further came from their invite and no plans were ever made. In the end, we were looking for more than they were ready to give, and while we never asked for more than they offered, them moving away happened at a good time for us to move on.

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K and I are no longer married, but the couple who took our swing cherry are people I have ran from when/if faced with seeing them. I've avoided club visits, parties, and blocked our profile. We just wanted to get our feet wet and jumped in the deep end with a full swap separate room. The evening went well, but their interests in swinging were almost poly and we had zero interest in that. They were nice, but pushy and a little stalker-ish.

 

It was a poor choice for our first couple, I casually dated the male half in early adulthood and I think he fixated on me. It was all a bit too "fatal attraction" for me.

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The first couple we played with had problems that precluded a second play date.

 

We played for some years with our second couple, but lost contact with them years ago. The wife, an R.N., went back to Medical School. The last time we met to play, she was just coming off a long shift at the hospital and couldn't keep her eyes open. After that, her life got busier.

 

We went to her graduation when she got her M.D. and they came to a vanilla party or two at our house, but our swinging days, with them, ended. I guess life gets in the way sometimes.

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Our first couple was actually three couples at the Red Rooster in Vegas almost three years ago. Obviously we don't keep in touch, but I did send a message to one of the couples on SLS a few months ago and they agreed that it was a very hot time!

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I remember our first couple well. Great people who had the patience to play with a couple of newbies. We played a few more times after that, but then we moved out of the country for a couple of years and when we moved back, it's a different city, so we simply lost touch.

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Now the first couple we met with one on one and played, I saw them several times after that. He liked to see his wife really get off, as I think he has a fairly short fuse. I was happy to oblige when I was in their town... We need to contact them...

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Our first time, we were a wreck, so nervous. We met with a guy who had 'experience' and ensured us great time. The night we first played, he was with us about an hour. He was hard about 1 minute of that hour in which he came. E-mail the next day apologizing for his performance, begged for a repeat. We caved, he never got hard at all the second time. No further contact until he answered an ad a few years later, with the same 10 year old picture. I always wonder what drives men like this. But our first great lay, an sls connection, we still are in contact with but no play. His goals are more poly than ours which makes J nervous. Man, he was fun!

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Wish I could remember the first couple we played with at the Red Rooster over 13 years ago. But, we are still in contact with many of the couples we have played with as most still go to the same clubs we go too. It's funny that of the couples that have broken up we seem to stay in contact with the male half.

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It's funny that of the couples that have broken up we seem to stay in contact with the male half.

 

That's interesting. Do you mean that they are both now single and the male is the one still receptive to staying in contact, or are they both in new relationships and the male is the only one that seems interested in keeping up with contacts that were initially made in a previous relationship?

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Still in contact, they are still together but we no longer play. They are not really active in the lifestyle anymore.

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Our first experience was with Nancy and Bob of the now defunct swing club in Zephyr Hills, Florida. Bob died a few yeas ago and Nancy went on to create another club somewhere else in South Florida. I only saw her once after the first encounter when we crossed paths at a hotel weekend swingers event. She was just as lovely as ever, but since she averaged 300 partners a year, by her own estimate, she did not remember our encounter some 5 years before. But, I remember her well. She was so gentle with this novice and so understanding of the anxiety of this guy who was screwing someone besides his wife for the first time, that she made swinging seem like the most natural activity in the world. She opened up a whole new world of pleasure and friendship for me. Thank you Nancy. I hope you read this. I thanked you at the hotel, but I want you to be reassured that I treasure the evening you gave to me all those years ago.

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Oh wow, I thought all the good conversation starters have already been asked! Great question. :)

 

As for us, after 12 years, yes, kind of. They split up about 7 years ago. She left him, went hard core for Jesus, and remarried. Our contact is limited to when we happen to run into her in town, and it's friendly. I have my doubts about her mental stability and current situation, but that's just a guess.

 

The male half has been involved/partnered with another lady for a few years now, and they swing (they met on SLS). We have played with them, and still do every once in a blue moon. They're a very nice couple and good people.

 

OMG, when I read this I thought you knew me and my ex-wife. :lol: She married a former preacher.

 

The first couple we met we hung out with last weekend at my gf place but we only met them four months ago.

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Yes we are! We met and eventually just kind of effortlessly "slid" into a full swap in a playroom at TPA in northern MD. That was more than 10 years ago. The story is on this site titled Joe & Lynn. After we moved to Fl, they vacationed with us as we have with them back in Pa. They have an open invitation and our guest room is theirs any time they want to come south and we're planning on visiting them in July. Meeting, becoming friends and playing with them remains among our best experiences in this hobby.

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I am still great friends with the couple who introduced me to the LS. We never did play, but they are the ones who invited me to a couple of house parties and resorts, right after my divorce. Without their good humor and affection , plus all of that great sex and other nice couples, I would have been a mess. My divorce was not a pleasant one., to say the least.

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Yes we are. He is actually a close nieghbor. We see him from time to time and we're comfortable enough that my wife and he can solo from time to time.

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