Swinging, pot, and the new acceptance

I recently archived an eleven year old thread about whether or not swinging and marijuana mix. Things are certainly much different today than they were in 2004, so I'm thinking a new thread about our current reality might be interesting.

This thread will start out a bit U.S. centric, so my apologies to the international audience if this is a bit of a bore. However, your insight, experiences and thoughts are more than welcome. Just no picking on us puritans.

Marijuana use has been legalized in a few states, and it appears that if things continue, at some point every state will legalize the weed at some level.

So, if/when pot is legal in your state, how will you handle the mixing of swinging and pot? Does legalization change your boundaries about what is and isn't acceptable as far as bringing these two things together?

I don't think it will change anything for us. Right now, we don't run from it or run toward it. It's like alcohol, if it starts to get in the way of a safe and fun experience for all involved, then we are out. If it's just something that is present but not front and center and isn't causing any problems, then to each their own.

The only place I can see legalization changing thing for us might be clubs. Right now, if we were at a club and it was being used with no objections from the club owners then we would immediately get leery about that club. The logic would be if they were going to turn a blind eye to that and endanger their business (and everyone patronizing it), then what else are they turning a blind eye to?

The times, they are a-changin'!

The idea of taking smoke into her lungs disgusted Laura so she never in her life smoked a cigarette nor a joint. She didn't object if Mr. Playmate did, however. She maintained that stoned guys were more adept.

Pot appeared rarely in our swinging experiences. When it did, most often, a joint was produced by our token (tokin'?) lawyer.

Alura

We have a lifestyle friend who hosts parties in a Washington D.C. suburb and is employe3d by government. He expressly forbid holy smokes at the parties that he and his wife host. This is much to the regret of his wife as well as mine. It is allowed at our home. Personally, boo, grass, Mary Jane, Maria Juana, pot, or whatever you might call it does nothing for me except make me caugh and make my lungs ache the next day.

We don't have a problem with it if others are partaking in it at a party. We may or may not partake in it as well if we are asked about our interest in it. It's only a problem if it seems like everyone at the party is being pressured into doing it. Our only experience thus far has been ingesting it through foods and it only made us feel dizzy.

The only place I can see legalization changing thing for us might be clubs. Right now, if we were at a club and it was being used with no objections from the club owners then we would immediately get leery about that club. The logic would be if they were going to turn a blind eye to that and endanger their business (and everyone patronizing it), then what else are they turning a blind eye to?

I can't see how any club owners would turn a blind eye to marijuana smoking. After all, alcohol is legal and there are many consequences to those who drink too much. I don't know how it is at other swinger clubs but here you can't drink inside...but that doesn't stop people from stepping outside and drinking in their car then walking back in. As for consequences, non-consensual sex is one. Driving home drunk is another. Then there are those who get annoying or angry when they are drunk. I am sure that clubs have ways to minimize how these sorts of behaviors, due to excessive drinking, affects the club and other members but there's only so much that they can do within their walls. It wouldn't surprise me if club members smoked marijuana outside and then stepped back in the building. Just as it is with alcohol, as long as someone who is smoking marijuana outside isn't being disrespectful to others inside the building, they won't get on the radar.

Mr. Prufrock and I may have partaken in some toking in our college days. We've never ingested, only smoked. The friends I had who ate pot brownies had horrible experiences. It isn't possible to overdose on pot, from what I understand, but it IS possible to take too much and become a paranoid crazy person for the duration of your high (I was convinced I was dying and that everyone hated me. It wasn't pleasant.) For that reason, I now abstain, and I certainly wouldn't partake during swinging. I don't think I've ever heard of or witnessed anyone going on a rampage while high (maybe if they mixed it with other drugs?) so the risk of smoking and swinging would probably be you yourself having a terrible time and then by default whoever you're playing with not having fun either.

That being said, I used to love getting high. We were broke college kids, so it didn't happen often. That kept it fun. At first all I want to do is listen to music and dance and sing my ass off. I probably look and sound like a complete idiot, but I don't care because EVERYTHING IS GREAT AND THIS MUSIC IS AWESOME! I particularly like techno and swing whilst high. I also giggle a lot. Then I move to the eat-anything-that-is-edible-and-possibly-not-edible phase. Fruit, while high, is the best thing ever. Basically my experience is that the Ganja heightens all of your senses, while killing your attention span. Sex while high is amazing, but because my attention span is that of a sparrow with ADHD on crack, I find it very hard to actually orgasm. My mind flits from one thing to another too quickly for me to focus simply on the feelings.

Anywhere it's legal and edibles are available, I assume some people are using it. And a couple of people admitted they had oil in their e-cigs and no one noticed.

So it's there more than most of us will notice.

We both enjoy smoking pot and love having sex well under the influence! We do not care if others don't do it and never push it on anyone, but we also have no interest in hanging out with people that are stuck in the 1950's on their view of what it is. Not the kind of open minded people we like to be around. Way rather be around people that have a puff once in a while than drunks.

It doesn't change anything for us. It's not a deal breaker and we don't mind partners who partake in it. I had a few men tell me that pot makes them last longer and have more intense orgasm. I have tried it and don't really have a preference. It doesn't do much for me except sometimes it makes me really sleepy.

I joke around about how I don't do pot (or alcohol or fill in the name of your favorite vice) since I found cocaine (or heroin or speed) . Neither of us do any drugs (including pot) or alcohol for that matter. We don't mind if others do, it's just we actually like to remember in vivid detail the things that went on the night before...and (in the case of alcohol) if we are going to intake that many calories, would rather it be from licking chocolate off of other people.

I love to drink and have sex. I've never done pot because it's illegal and not easily accessible, not that I've made an effort, where I live. If that changes or I was visiting somewhere it was legal I would absolutely try it. I am only interested in trying while having sex, actually.

I only smoke pot when couples I'm with enjoy it. I do enjoy it but it's just not part of my life otherwise.

We only smoke with couples who do. We don't any other time.