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After a year of not knowing the full story, I got the back story of how we started. I always thought it was spontaneous. Let me say I am fine with what happened. I had posted before that we met a couple on a cruise vacation, went to a nude beach with them, then that night after drinking and having a fun night we decided to swap spouses. I found out that the husbands talked earlier on the beach about doing this. Not as spontaneous as I believed. I found out both were drooling over me and the wife. My husband said the new friend made a comment about me, I think my husband could have made the first comment. I can only imagine the real conversation but my husband said the guy said he would give anything to be with me. Now I know the wife is in better shape than me so maybe my husband made the first comment. If he did it had to be as a joke. When the "spontaneous" talk started that night the guys had planned it. I have no regrets to what happened it just wasn't spontaneous like I always thought.

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Something we could do together for adventure and to step outside our outwardly normal boring lives into an exciting world that is our own little secret.

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Why does a dog lick his balls? Because he can.

 

Why did we start? Because we could? We were pre-disposed to the idea. The slighest suggestion that it really was possible for people like us (not something exclusive to the jet set) propelled us directly into it. No looking back.

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Another couple approached us with the idea, actually with an offer. Told us she was bi. That part scared me but as hubby, then boyfriend and I talked about it, the rest of it seemed very fine. I blurted out, that I would love to do the other guy or both guys but was nervous about the other woman. So, the guys took me up on that offer. To me, it was like two guys and the boyfriend is saying its fine, where’s the catch. Do pieces of candy or one, I still can’t believe that we women hesitate so much when confronted with such a deal.

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We started because my wife was bi before we met and we never enjoyed her past together. Being the pig I am, I wanted to watch her with a woman and she was good with doing it. Problem was we couldn't find anyone to do it with. We turned to cl and only found a much younger couple. I got to watch the girls go at it and as a bonus got to have my first sex outside of my wife since we married.

After that is was like eating chips, bet you can't eat just one. We both enjoy being the first for couples looking to try this.

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I love hearing all the answers!

 

Our swing adventure was born of infidelity. We toyed with the idea, and when I realized he wouldn't stay faithful without the permission to have sexual variety I agreed to it! Now he gets to have sex with a variety of women (so do I!) and I get to keep my family intact. I call that a win-win!

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I don't. I call it a lose-win as it was not your free choice.

Just my personal opinion.

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I don't. I call it a lose-win as it was not your free choice.

Just my personal opinion.

I don't see like that. I had three choices 1. Divorce 2. Look the other way and put with him cheating 3. Take the philosophy of *if you can't beat them, join them*. Through the years of being a swinger I have met many people who are in the lifestyle by way of infidelity. I think it is a good compromise!

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Short answer...because we could (meaning she said that she wanted to).

 

Longer answer: We were talking about our sexual fantasies and I said that just about every man fantasizes about having a menage a trois. She then told me about how her and her ex had swung with two other couples in their hot tub. Both couples were friends and after awhile of getting together for wine in the hot tub, they started joking about not wearing bathing suits...then started not wearing bathing suits...then having 'same tub sex'...then progressing to soft swapping. She told me that she loved looking at the other girls but that neither of them were willing to do much more than kissing her, but she would like to have done more. In the end, everything ended very badly since once they did a full swap with one of the couples, the other guy wanted to keep having the affair outside of the group and he told her that her husband was having sex with more than just the two couples (which he was). The other guy told her that he was willing to leave his wife (her best friend) for her. Things rapidly ended and she got a divorce and told the other guy that she wasn't interested in anything (she still occasionally talks to her now former best friend and her husband has made it clear that he's still very interested in her). Anyways, in spite of how things ended, she said that she was still curious about exploring another woman's body...and/or another couple. As long as you are going to have friends that you like to spend time with, wouldn't it just be more fun if you could also see them naked and watch them having sex? I set us up with a profile on SLS and we started from there taking one step at a time.

 

There are still days where I don't believe we are doing what we are doing and conversations that I can't believe we are having. I am a VERY lucky man and will never forget that.

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My wife and I, by mutual agreement, never considered monogamy to be a part of our relationship but when we started we didn't have any real ideas how to define that. At first it meant that I was free to make out with an ex-girlfriend and later a nice young coed at a party. The coed and her boyfriend called themselves "polyamorous" (though in retrospect, I'm not entirely sure their definition and mine matched) and we engaged in some heavy petting, but it never went further. It did, however, prompt me to do some research into the concepts of polyamory and, from there, swinging. Having thus put names and definitions to our vague ideas of non-monogamy my wife and I explored the idea further.

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Because as a young male, the driver was sex, of course, and some loneliness to be truthful. Then, after it dawned me these are real people (2nd time playing!), it got even more fun!!!

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I love hearing all the answers!

 

Our swing adventure was born of infidelity. We toyed with the idea, and when I realized he wouldn't stay faithful without the permission to have sexual variety I agreed to it! Now he gets to have sex with a variety of women (so do I!) and I get to keep my family intact. I call that a win-win!

If I had to answer the question a single word, ReadynSexy, it would be infidelity. But my adventure started differently. My ex-husband was unfaithful. But he called what he was doing swing. After I was rid of him, I became curious. I suspected swing was not what he had told me. I was correct. My path to my current situation started at this website. I went on to attend swinger clubs. I recently received an invitation to a private party and I have a man who will be there with me. I am now ready to call myself a swinger.

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Sweet.Pea: Cheating is never swinging. What you are doing is swinging. Welcome to the club, we're glad that you made it here.

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We started in this lifestyle as part of a sexual "reawakening" we were enjoying. After our daughter went away to college, we kinda pined after her for a while, waiting for the next call or visit home, or looking for an excuse to make the drive out to her to see her. But we eventually realized that we could be having a lot of fun together in the empty nest! As part of our renewed enthusiasm for our sex life together, we decided (more or less at the same time) to explore swinging. And it has been the most exciting, arousing, surprising, frightening, challenging, growth-inspiring thing we have done together since getting married!

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We had been married for over ten years. Our sex life had become routine, infrequent, boring and unsatisfying. We both had a couple of affairs which we enjoyed. When we found out we agreed to seek the sexual variety we both wanted together rather than solo. We placed an ad in the personal column of the local paper and arranged to meet one of the couples who responded. We clicked with them and ended up full swap in separate rooms. That was over 30 years ago and we have never regretted our decision to start swinging for a moment. Swinging is fun and a main reason why we still have an active and enjoyable sex life at our advanced age.

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Watching the 1982 World Series with wife and a good friend, going back to the kitchen for more beer and finding my wife's hand firmly grasping my friends erect cock and jacking him off, both with shit eating grins on their faces as I entered the room with beers in hand. The evening progressed with my wife entertaining two hard cocks for the next 5 solid hours.

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I always reply to the original post but I read MrDiscover's reply "Fun". It can't get any more pure than that!

 

Our first time happened by accident. It wasn't planned. We were drunk and stoned and my future wife and I thought it would be FUN to get naked and for her to let a friend of ours have some fun fucking her while I watched while I "protected her from any deviant behavior :)

 

Our first time, her first time with another man in front of me, was awesome. We both were hooked.

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I know I was always attracted to the freedom component. Must admit never really thought it was real.

 

Looking back on it we (my wife and I) were certainly hit on a few times by swinger couples. I thought we were being set up to be robbed or something, eh, only the paranoid survive.

 

Anyhow I brought it up to her and coaxed her along for the idea and now we have a really wild Labor Day weekend planned.

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Church. I suspected what they were teaching me was wrong and had the courage to experiment with the unknown and taboo. A few years later now I am enlarging my size A breasts and size 7 cock. But it was the Church that got me into it. Definitely.

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I was very sexual in nature from a young age and was dating a girl who was the same. She had done some things growing up like blowing four older boys at a party and hearing about that turned me on. We were dating in our early 20s and lots of alcohol led to my gf making out with a couple of other girls at a party. That led to more parties where everybody got naked. The group was three couples and one single guy. At first it was the girls making out, then going down on each other. Us guys would watch but eventually it led to swapping and the guy fucking my gf but not the other girls. I loved it all so we started looking around online and her and I had our first swingers profile.

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...but who won the game?

 

Well, the Cardinals won the series that year, but I have no recollection of who won that particular game. :-)

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Bogeyman: Priorities...get your priorities straight :lol: This is what DVR's (or VCR's) are for...to record what you were all doing so WE could also watch (with an occasional scan of the TV for the score).

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After a year of not knowing the full story, I got the back story of how we started. I always thought it was spontaneous. Let me say I am fine with what happened. I had posted before that we met a couple on a cruise vacation, went to a nude beach with them, then that night after drinking and having a fun night we decided to swap spouses. I found out that the husbands talked earlier on the beach about doing this. Not as spontaneous as I believed. I found out both were drooling over me and the wife. My husband said the new friend made a comment about me, I think my husband could have made the first comment. I can only imagine the real conversation but my husband said the guy said he would give anything to be with me. Now I know the wife is in better shape than me so maybe my husband made the first comment. If he did it had to be as a joke. When the "spontaneous" talk started that night the guys had planned it. I have no regrets to what happened it just wasn't spontaneous like I always thought.

 

Would love to hear the unabridged version of this...

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Hubby had never been a jealous one. When he went away to Army basic training g while we were still dating he told me to "have a fun summer, just don't bring home anything I'll have to feed later on". Watching porn together the multiple partner scenes always got us hot & then I had a dream about having sex with both him & his brother! I told him about it & he was turned on by the idea.(no I never have been with his brother) we fantasized about it for years as life happened. This year our youngest child started driving & working so we had a bit of empty nest feeling, had been working on our communication so naturally became really open about our fantasies & that led to talking about swinging, researching & I ended up here. Our 1st experience was with a male friend of ours & it was awesome, he is still my FWB, then we joined SLS & have met a few couples & played with ones we hit it off with. Meeting a new couple tomorrow night & we are really excited!

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