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Do you kiss during swinging sex?  

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  1. 1. Do you kiss during swinging sex?

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A hot topic when it comes to a couple's swinging rules is kissing, to do or not to do? Do you kiss your playmates, or do you reserve that act for just your spouse or significant other? Why or why not?

 

For us, kissing is a big part of it, and we couldn't imagine having sex with someone without kissing being part of the fun. It would feel very awkward, but we understand exactly the opposite is the case for others, they find kissing to be too intimate and something that should be reserved for just your spouse.

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Hell yes!! Its all about passion and great sex. If you share your wife to suck cock. Why not kissing?

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We have done that now, but it was the most intimate thing we have done with another couple. Yes, more then oral sex.

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Since we are poly, most definitely. But one thing I find both intimate and a turn on is to be kissing (especially hubby) while someone else is getting me off by fucking or licking. Or kissing him while he's fucking Lora. Sometimes both at the same time °° !

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We both enjoy kissing so it was natural to have us kiss others from the get-go. While we are respectful of other couples' decision to not kiss, it seemed a bit odd to us when they were willing to have a full swap but not kiss...especially when it is something so natural that it could easily be a rule broken in the heat of the moment or prove to be a hindrance while playing because everyone would have to be focused on not kissing and make playtime stressful.

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We enjoy kissing, but we understand that a lot of couples prefer to avoid it during play, so it's no big deal to us if the other couple doesn't partake.

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It's funny, I don't really kiss my wife that much. Somehow, we just don't have good kissing chemistry. I've kissed some swinging partners and enjoyed it, with others it's felt awkward. I kiss my Friend regularly and we enjoy it. I've never really thought about it much, but I guess we just go with chemistry.

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We both enjoy kissing so it was natural to have us kiss others from the get-go. While we are respectful of other couples' decision to not kiss, it seemed a bit odd to us when they were willing to have a full swap but not kiss...especially when it is something so natural that it could easily be a rule broken in the heat of the moment or prove to be a hindrance while playing because everyone would have to be focused on not kissing and make playtime stressful.

 

More unusual for us, is hubby and I in each other's presence to exchange "I love you"s: me with Red, hubby with Lora or Clair. It isn't that it bother me, but makes me feel strange, like I'm outside and should be doing something. During sex it's no problem - I can, like, flow in. But when one of them is leaving the car or the house and kisses are exchanged... I feel like the electron in a covalent bond that for that instant has had the attraction shifted away.

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It's such a natural thing for me to do during intercourse and it really helps to get me going, but like others said, I respect other couples' limits if that's not their thing.

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For both of us kissing our swinging partners is just a natural part of the foreplay leading to oral sex and intercourse.

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I am in the kissing camp. It's an integral part of sex for me and for that reason, I don't have interest in playing with couples who refrain from kissing while swinging. I respect their choice, but it doesn't mean I have to compromise my choices to accommodate theirs.

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We started off with a no kissing rule, but we ended up setting that rule aside once we crossed that bridge. Originally we thought it might be too intimate, but when the time came it was just...hot and neither of us had any problems with it.

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We had a no kissing rule early in our swinging career. When we finally did do it, we wondered why we took so long!

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We also thought about the no kissing when we were first curious about the LS. However, that thought quickly fell by the wayside from the first couple we became involved with.

 

Both of us enjoy the kissing aspect very much and could not possibly see us being with others without considering kissing. For us, there seems to be something missing or incomplete without it. Plus, it really increases the passion and heat of the moment. Even, when we are in the MFM situation, we feel that there is definitely an intensified passion in our kissing between just the two of us.

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We don't have a rule against it, if it's an MFM it's up to my wife, if it's another couple and it's not specified we play it by ear. So far, I don't think we've ever been with anyone where kissing wasn't condoned.

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Oh yea, I'm a kisser, it gets me going. If he's not a good kisser, the game might be over.

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A hot topic when it comes to a couple's swinging rules is kissing, to do or not to do? Do you kiss your playmates, or do you reserve that act for just your spouse or significant other? Why or why not?

 

For us, kissing is a big part of it, and we couldn't imagine having sex with someone without kissing being part of the fun. It would feel very awkward, but we understand exactly the opposite is the case for others, they find kissing to be too intimate and something that should be reserved for just your spouse.

 

Yours is an interesting question inquiry -- one which I don’t fully comprehend. I’ve read many a review indicating they will “f” you to death … but they don’t kiss. Do tell, is kissing considered more intimate than intercourse? And, if so, why?

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Yes, some feel it is. We don't feel that way so I won't presume to state categorically why others do feel that way, but yes, I think for many it involves intimacy and where their lines in the sand are on that subject. Someone who does have that rule and it is working well for them (which is all that really matters) could probably explain it a lot better.

 

One additional thought I had on the kissing subject - if I sit and try to make my entire swinging life flash before my eyes in a few seconds, it becomes apparent that I've kissed more women than I've had touchy-feely with, and I've had touchy-feely with more than I have had intercourse with. I enjoyed every bit of that, from one end of the spectrum to the other, and if we didn't kiss, then a large chunk of that swinging flashback would be gone. I think that's another reason we enjoy kissing, it's offers the chance to go somewhere short of actually going all the way there.

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Yes, some feel it is. We don't feel that way so I won't presume to state categorically why others do feel that way, but yes, I think for many it involves intimacy and where their lines in the sand are on that subject. Someone who does have that rule and it is working well for them (which is all that really matters) could probably explain it a lot better.

 

One additional thought I had on the kissing subject - if I sit and try to make my entire swinging life flash before my eyes in a few seconds, it becomes apparent that I've kissed more women than I've had touchy-feely with, and I've had touchy-feely with more than I have had intercourse with. I enjoyed every bit of that, from one end of the spectrum to the other, and if we didn't kiss, then a large chunk of that swinging flashback would be gone. I think that's another reason we enjoy kissing, it's offers the chance to go somewhere short of actually going all the way there.

 

Interesting reply cplus. I noted your tag. I've spent my life both wandering and wondering. Are the two synonymous?

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We love kissing. In fact a night kissing a bunch of different partners is a night well spent, even if nothing else happens.

 

That being said kissing my wife while other things are going on is always a huge turn on. Really makes the whole experience really electric.

 

@sunbuckus you may catch more flies with honey, but you catch more honeys being fly:cool:

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We do not have sex with people we don't kiss. People can have whatever rules they want and we respect that, but if they have a no kissing rule we are not interested!

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Absolutely yes. We have an amazing kissing chemistry, I happily get lost in Mr G's mouth and it's a big part of the act for us, he's the best kisser i've had the pleasure of. If potential partners don't kiss, and there aren't many of them around, then we don't swing with them either.

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There was just a poll on this one, herein on Forum, but yes. If a guy is a good kisser, it makes me want to go down on him more, kind of heightens my appetite.

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I was prepared to watch her enjoying having sex, getting fucked, by another man but I wasn't prepared the first time I watched another man kissing her and her reaction to it. It made me feel very uncomfortable the longer they kissed. It was mixed emotions for me to see how horny he was making her as he kissed her.

 

It doesn't bother me anymore. I shouldn't have been surprised. It's just all a part of the experience.

 

My wife can't get pregnant and we only play with people we have grown to know first so we always go bareback. Other than condoms the more rules you have the less fun you'll have.

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We had a rule against kissing and then one night in the hot tub with another couple I looked over and my wife was all over this guy's face. At first I was WTH?!? but after watching them for a few seconds it just made the night hotter.

 

Later I asked her why she did it and she said the guy had a gotee and she was curious what it felt like.

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The wife and I have mixed emotions when it comes to kissing. Sometimes we are just in it for the sex and other times we are into the passion, which would include kissing. While we both really enjoy kissing each other, when alone and playing with others, we always set our own ground rules in the beginning of our play dates. But that doesn't mean the 'rules' get trampled on sometimes! LOL When things get hot...well screw the rules! LOL

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We debated what to do on this issue before our first episode. But our first partners jumped in with full tongue, we enjoyed it and no questions since!

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We do for sure! Matter of fact, that is generally how it gets started. We never could figure out how one could let someone else have sex with their mate, but not let/allow them to kiss the individual. Besides, watch 2 women start passionately kissing each other and I guarantee you that you will not be able to contain yourself.

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At the very beginning, it was sorta difficult to imagine either one of us engaging in kissing another partner, but once we got into the 'swing' of things (pun intended) it was a complete 180! Why not kiss - it's only natural and as was mentioned in an earlier post - it's a bigger turn on.

 

We both engage in kissing the other partners we're involved with...it only heightens the pleasure.

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We had that kissing rule too. It went away quickly, then the no swallow rule. A girl gets excited and forgets all of the rules. Hubbies, you can't have it both ways. You want can want to see us let go and expect us to abide by rules......

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Heck, yeah, we kiss! It's an integral part of sex, and I think we would have a tough time doing all the other things that are part of good sex and not kiss. If I can "kiss" your pussy, and "kiss" your breast, I want to kiss everywhere else that might feel good, too!

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Yes, for us kissing is important. We turned down a couple recently who have a no kissing rule just because of that rule.

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Kissing is a very important part of sex for my wife and me.

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Granted we are VERY new to this. Like still have not even had our first hookup. I know we really don't know anything yet, but the thought of him sharing a passionate kiss with another woman at this point is ine of the few things that get my blood boiling. It's one of the few things for now I don't think I am ready for. Then again, I've heard you don't really know where your lines will be until you've have a few experiences. We'll see. I'm open to a lot and idk why the kissing thing seems so intimate to me, it just does.

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It's one of the few things for now I don't think I am ready For. . .
Your feeling do you credit. It means that you care deeply for him and want to keep him.

 

My wife and I are not bothered by the idea or the sight of passionate kisses. But I believe the reason for this is that we frequently assure each other that we are the only ones important in each other's lives. We kiss each other passionately and often. We show affection in public.

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Like I'd mentioned in a related post the other day, we definitely are okay with kissing. I can see how it's very intimate, but sex is intimate! Anytime you're getting in someone's personal space like that, close enough to experience them with all five senses, you cannot avoid physical intimacy. What meaning you want to assign to that intimacy is up to you. I'm usually pretty passionate and intimate with my partners, and I like making them feel cared for...because - hey! - I love everybody. But the thing is I can only offer so much of myself. Beyond a certain point, there's just nothing there for me to give to swing partners. Mr. intuition owns that part of me; it's not even mine to give any more. I have no choice in the matter. It just belongs to him. That's why I don't worry about the idea of falling in love with partners and I feel free to explore whatever emotions come up. I know there is that point where interest mutually fades and we start thinking fondly of the one we're going home with.

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