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Anyone ever heard of couchsurfing? I just found the site couchsurfing.com and the people on there sound like a bunch of awesome, energetic, fun-loving free spirits. Travelling seems to be to couchsurfers what sex is to swingers. I'm reading about it and thinking what a sexy idea it would be to combine the two! :D Doesn't that sound like fun? Travelling the world, meeting new friends, and fucking your way across the globe? LOL

 

I'm all talk. I've never even been on a plane before. But I sure like the idea.

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Interesting. I had to look it up and one of the search results did say that it was the "best hook-up app ever!" I can easily see it as a plot for a porno or erotic story!

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Yep, you ain't kidding swing.kidz!

 

And sunbuckus, I was thinking the same thing. There seem to be people from all walks of life on there, all ages, all geographic regions...

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Anyone ever heard of couchsurfing?

 

Yes, my 23 year old daughter spent 2 months in Europe and Dad was very nervous.

 

Later she told me that she was couchsurfing and had Dad known that he would have been freaking out.

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This is the part I have trouble with. I prefer to trust everyone and fly headfirst into the world around me believing that if I expect the best of others, they will rise to those expectations. By contrast, if I went into the world expecting everyone to fuck me over, never giving them the opportunity to exceed their own expectations of themselves, they would always fall to meet the lowest expectation ("If I'm going to suffer being blamed for something, I may as well be guilty of it."). The second approach is safer than the first, but FUCK!! What a shitty way to live my life, always expecting people to be assholes. I would hate that SO much. I love that part of myself that trusts everyone. I suppose for my own sake I better find some kind of happy medium.

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Intuition, I have that same "problem". I tend to think that everyone usually has a good heart and are honest but then I have to remind myself that it's not always the case...then I either get mad or sad that it's that way.

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Intuition897-

 

First, fly, fly away. There is so much to see on the other side of the world.

 

Second, it's good that somebody still looks for the good in all they come across. My experience has educated me that many people are not what they seem. Your outlook is a refreshing breeze on topic.

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Yes yes yes travel the world! The best advice my mum ever gave me.

 

And that's exactly what I did. Backpacked my way around Asia for a whole year and met my husband while doing so. I found myself in so many situations...waking up on a train being felt up by a stranger at 2 a.m., had my stuff stolen on an overnight train from Varanassi to Mumbai (Bombay), nearly got arrested trying to cross a bridge in Calcutta because I wouldn't pay a ridiculous fine, and waking up in too many places wondering how the hell I got there and not once have I ever looked back. The world is full of assholes but I prefer to believe that there are more beautiful people in the world than there are wrong'ns! Smile and the world smiles back...fart and you stand alone!!!

 

Couchsurfing is a common phrase in England, you were either couchsurfing or doing 'the sofa circuit' i.e. waking up in too many places wondering how you got there!

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We kinda like Sun's idea. Could be the perfect setup for the best adult movie series ever. Aside from the release forms and other legalities and safety aspects, get over those hurdles and it could be great. Now to come up with a name for the series and figure out how to get a sabbatical from work. Lol.

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