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  1. 1. Do you wear your wedding ring?

    • Never have worn it
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Since my fingers aren't what they used to be 20+ years ago, I had to get my wedding ring cut off to get it off. According to the jeweler, I need to wait at least 4 months before we size my finger, since doing it before then would be pointless until my finger recovers from being strangled over the last several years. I have never liked wearing rings, and if it wasn't my wedding band, I wouldn't have worn it. But, I never took it off.

 

Interestingly, neither one of us have given much of a thought to I'm not wearing a wedding ring now. I'm not sure that always would have been the case, not just her, me too, it would have just felt "odd". I have no doubt maturity has something to do with that, but I wonder if swinging hasn't played a role too. Not at all that we are any less married now than back then, but maybe we have a bit different mindset now and don't feel as much of a need to wear something to just to proclaim our marital status to the world?

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We wear our wedding rings and I actually had to get mine sized down a few years ago after losing a lot of weight. (Yowwchie, I don't want to imagine my finger being strangled by a ring, by the way!) However, I think it would be more of an issue for our families if we stopped wearing wedding rings. I already don't wear my engagement ring because it needs to be sized down and it's too tall (I'm always afraid of poking someone with it).

 

Edit: The only time I take it off is when I'm doing weight lifting or pull-ups. Mr. Sun does the same but also in the shower. We have noticed other couples in the LS that don't wear their wedding rings.

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I took off mine a few years ago because it was too small. I saw it in a desk drawer the other day and wondered if I should put it back on. (I have another ring which I've had on for 20+ years and I don't think I could get it off if I tried.) No idea where my wife's actual wedding ring is, but she has a different ring she wears on that finger (it has our kid's birthstone in it).

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Interesting topic. I always wore my wedding ring until the band broke. I was sort of ho-hum about getting it fixed and just went without for a while. My hubby, however, really wanted me to have it. Once I got it fixed, I was actually really happy to have it back. Then I lost a bunch of weight and it started getting very loose and I was afraid I would lose it. Since I knew how important the ring was to my husband, I got it resized and now I wear it 100% of the time.

 

I wonder if lifestylers are less likely to wear their rings, simply because they are also less likely to buy into the cultural norms surrounding marriage. Also, I'm curious, who cares more about the wearing of rings --- men or women?

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Maybe not, Sabrina. Ms and I are not married but have something which is named 'registered partnership' in my country, signed by both and an attorney. We both don't believe in marriage as a special bond with vows and all but with such a partnership we have all the legal and financial privileges. Sadly, I have a medical condition which prevents me from wearing a ring but MsDiscover wears a nice silver ring which we jokingly name the 'wedidnothadaweddingring'. So we are not into the cultural norm which wedding seems to be, but she does wear a ring.

 

She always wears it and to be honest it was a very hot detail during our last date, it is special for me to see my lovely wife stroking an another man's cock with a hand showing the ring which stands for our love. :rollseye: I think I'm far from the only one in the LS that feels this way.

 

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The Mrs. and I wear our wedding rings whenever we leave the house (I recently got mine resized as well, after losing a fair amount of weight). It's a longstanding habit of ours to do this, and we have felt no need to change that since we've started playing with other couples. Does that add a bit of naughtiness to our play by reminding us (and our play partners) that we're married? If so, we're not conscious of it.

 

Speaking of rings, we recently got each other black rings to wear on our right hands ("swingers' rings"), which we wear for fun when we're out at lifestyle events. No one has seemed to notice or mention anything about them so far.

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I (Mr) used to wear one back in my first marriage at the very beginning. Unfortunately, things didn't go very well and if it wasn't for my son I wouldn't have stayed for the 20+ years. Still I stopped wearing it after 3 years since the marriage was pretty much over by then (you can't fix a person who doesn't think they are broken...lesson learned). The Ms. has a similar story, but it took longer for her before she stopped wearing her ring. The relationship the two of us are now in is AWESOME, but one of the things SHE wanted and really enjoys is that we are together because we WANT and ENJOY being together. We don't have any symbols tying us together...if you can't tell just by looking at us that we love being together then what good is being in a relationship? Best part is both of us think we are the lucky one in the relationship.

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I (Mr Shy) used to wear mine all the time. It got dented and warped. We kept getting it straightened but finally it actually broke. So I went a short time without wearing one. We renewed our vows at our 20th anniversary, Mrs Shy got a new ring and we got both blessed by the priest. Well after going without one it was difficult to get used to it again, then I put on some weight and it bugged the crap out of me. Mrs Shy wants "her territory" staked out so I always wear it when meeting lifestylers.

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I have never worn mine, I did not want to loose it removing for surgery or playing basketball (dangerous wearing rings up around the rim). Even though I am retired now my fingers are so damaged from basketball and volleyball that I can't wear it.

 

Wu wears simple gold with a recessed diamond much nicer than we could afford when we married, later symbol affirming our love.

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Wife always wears hers, unless her hand is swollen (old broken arm injury that is sensitive to weather). I never wear mine, for fear of losing it... as an active guy, often around machinery and vehicles.... wearing ANY kind of ring (or jewelry of any kind, even a watch) is a good way to lose body parts.....

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In collage I watched a guy slide down a roof we were replacing and he caught his ring on a nail, it was not a pretty result. Went home, told the wife what happened and have never worn one since. Advised the new second wife the reason and never wore one with her. We know who belongs to who, the ring is just jewelry.

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Just a personal update to this since I was the one who started the thread. Still not wearing one.  I maybe wouldn't mind wearing one just to go out or something if she wanted me to, but 24/7 daily, no way.

 

djjwp, I had a similar experience in college too, except I was the one on the receiving end.  My and a couple of other guys were loading a canoe filled with gear into the back of a pickup.  I was on the front by the tailgate, they were on the back.  I lifted the canoe up onto the tailgate, and when they put their weight behind it and shoved to slide it in the bed of the truck, my ring caught on something and basically pulled me up into the truck too by my finger.  Nothing broken fortunately, just bruised and sore, but the ring cut up under the skin on the underneath side of my finger to where the flap of skin almost covered the ring ?

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About 2 weeks after we were married I was working on a piece of equipment and forgot about the ring. Ended up getting a bolt cutters from my truck and with some help cut the ring off. I never worn a ring since and my wrist watch (clock bracelet) is easily broken loose, and no I won't tell how many times it's been tested! 

Mrs ID always wears her ring although she recently stopped wearing the diamond part.....seems like after 38+ years the diamond came loose.

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On 6/28/2021 at 11:43 AM, cplnuswing said:

Just a personal update to this since I was the one who started the thread. Still not wearing one.  I maybe wouldn't mind wearing one just to go out or something if she wanted me to, but 24/7 daily, no way.

 

djjwp, I had a similar experience in college too, except I was the one on the receiving end.  My and a couple of other guys were loading a canoe filled with gear into the back of a pickup.  I was on the front by the tailgate, they were on the back.  I lifted the canoe up onto the tailgate, and when they put their weight behind it and shoved to slide it in the bed of the truck, my ring caught on something and basically pulled me up into the truck too by my finger.  Nothing broken fortunately, just bruised and sore, but the ring cut up under the skin on the underneath side of my finger to where the flap of skin almost covered the ring ?

Happy to see you recovered. For people that work or play with heavy items, just not worth it. 

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Wedding rings are a sexual/psychological kink for my wife.  Before we met, she used to have relationships with married men, cheaters.  She said it was because the relationship had built-in limits (men don't leave their wives), they were appreciative, the sex was good, they couldn't complain if she was seeing someone else, etc.  I think there was also a strong element of sampling what another woman already had, like eating off her plate in a restaurant.  Anyway, Daniela said she liked being with a man wearing a wedding ring, while she wasn't wearing one.

 

That all stopped when we got together because I didn't like cheating, as well as thinking it is dangerous.  But now that she's a married woman and we're swingers, she likes wearing her wedding ring while having sex with other people, men and women.

 

I don't and never have worn a wedding ring with my ex-wife either, and never cheated.

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Mrs. E's first husband was a cheap POS and her grandfather-in-law slipped her a family ring because he was embarrassed for her. It's a sore subject, so she likes to wear her engagement ring whenever she dresses up to go out somewhere nice together. We have bands but are hit-and-miss about wearing them, and never at home.

 

I agree with the above about rings having a strong kink component. In my single days a married woman used to crash with me here and there and getting head watching the diamond while she stroked me was amazing. Same thing applies to watching Mrs. E.

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On 7/4/2021 at 5:17 AM, Numex said:

Wedding rings are a sexual/psychological kink for my wife.

For me, however, it's kind of the opposite - when I see the love of my life on her back, naked, with her legs spread and another man's dick inside her, her wedding ring is an objective reassurance of her commitment to me. 

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Hubby and I got rings when first married, but I no longer wear it.  Hubby no longer wears the one he got with me, but he and Lora wear matching rings (they're in love!).  Red doesn't wear one; Clair wears a wedding ring that doesn't match anything along with an "engagement" ring she got from me (sentimental value from my grandma) for reasons of commitment to our family and to somewhat discourage guys from hitting on her.  It doesn't figure into what we have done or are doing sexually.

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Who needs wedding rings?  We have children.

 

What I have found interesting is that just as I love my biological children because they are the product of me and the men I love who had them with, I truly love the other children in our family because they are the result of the emotional and physical relationships between two other people, both of whom I love, the women as much as the men.  Looking at the children from Clair, hubby, Lora, Red I see a combination of people I love.

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I like to be able to wear mine more but the type of work I do I cannot stand times I forget to put it on

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We both wear ours everyday only taking off at night or showering. When going to the beach it was the only thing both of us always wore. 

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