I lost my wife of twenty-seven years a bit over three years ago to breast cancer. (Ladies, please never miss a mammogram!) I miss her with a terrible ache but the lifestyle, itself, was not important enough to me to try to continue as a single. In my opinion, swinging without a partner is not swinging at all.
About a year and a half ago, I reconnected with a woman I met in India in 1971 with whom I enjoyed a three-year love affair, only to lose each other because we were both traveling, a situation which made our mail go awry. It's been wonderful rekindling our relationship. Our communication is all we could ask for. We've talked and talked about swinging but at this point it's not likely we'll make any attempt to enter the lifestyle together.