I have been lurking on swingersboard for a few weeks. My wife and I are considering trying the lifestyle. We are still trying to wrap our heads around everything, but more on that later in another post. I have a question for the established married swinger couples out there. Do you and your spouse (jointly)think of swinging as "our little secret" - let me explain?
Do you know how when you have known someone for a really long time and the two of you are really close you tend to have private jokes, or secrets that no one else knows or gets? I think that having those things that just the two of you get kind of make a relationship that much more special in a way. Do you and your spouse think of swinging in this regard? When you are in the day to day vanilla world, is it a special little secret between the two of you that makes your relationship that much more special?
Don't read too far into this. I am not grasping at straws, we are not in a bad marriage that we are trying to make better. We love each other, have a great sex life and a great marriage. We are just trying to understand the dynamic that exists within a swinger marriage.