I'll give a quick background here.
My husband and I have been together for more than 10 years. We are very happily married and have been swinging for a little over two years.
We are very comfortable with most aspects of the lifestyle. My husband and I have very few rules. Condoms always (unless otherwise discussed rare btw), have fun, always be honest with each other. We play seperately, same room seperate room...it's all okay with us.
On to my problem. There is a couple we have become friends with over time that is in the lifestyle. I (the wife) am not interested in the husband sexually. I do enjoy hanging out with and partying with this couple but I am not sexually attracted to them. Hubby has played alone with the wife and this is perfectly fine with myself and with her hubby. My hubby and his wife really have hit if off, they text/flirt etc and get along quite well. This couple has played with people that we play with and we all are sort of in the same "crowd" (that sounded so high school, forgive me for not having a better way to say it).
The problem now is that since my hubby has played with his wife, he's becoming more and more adamant about setting something up with me. I like him as a friend but have no idea how to say "Flirting etc is fine but I don't want to have sex with you." I DO NOT want to hurt this man's feelings as we ARE friends and I want to keep it that way.
How do I go about telling him I am not sexually attracted without hurting his feelings? I don't want him to be confused so I find myself avoiding the subject and that's not right either.
Guys, HELP ME HERE. How do I tell this guy I'm not interested? I really want to be friends so I fear in telling him this that will blow up.