Twice we have met new couples with the plan of dinner and then attending an on-premise club. My question is are we being rude, should we do something differently? Here are the scenarios:
The first time we had no intention of playing after dinner, but we all went to the club. We did not give them any indication verbally or body language wise we'd be playing, but did encourage them to meet us at the club. Should we have told them outright, "There's no way in hell we're playing with you?" We got there first and started talking to other couples. At the club we talked to the couple we had dinner with and tried to hit on another couple and my husband and I danced together. We did not play with anyone. We said goodbye to the couple we came with.
The second time (different couple) the plan was once again dinner then club. We met and dinner went fairly well, but my husband and I were both so-so about them. Husband did mention at dinner that we had corresponded with other couples who would be at club. We got to the club about a half hour before them b/c they went home to change clothes. Before they got there we started flirting with a couple we had talked to online. We really hit it off with this couple. We did introduce the dinner couple to another couple we knew and danced with them once, but otherwise pretty much blew them off in favor of the new couple. We played with the new couple (and had an awesome time!) By the time we were done the dinner couple had left, so we didn't say bye.
When I recognize I'm not interested in someone I tend to not make eye contact, move away from them touching me and start flirting with someone I do find attractive.
So, I felt kind of bad blowing these initial couples off and asked my husband. He said, "Yeah, I guess we are kind of being dickish..." So, are we?