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    Default Re: Secret Signals

    Originally posted by fun_pairTX
    If we don't want to have sex with another couple one or both of us will squat, put our thumbs in our armpits, flap our arms and scream like a chicken. This usually brings the evening to a rapid halt.
    Hmmm. FunPair... you're in the wrong thread.

    You want to go here.

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    Too funny!!!
    Unfortunately, if the other couple has a good sense of humor they're likely to take that as a come-hither!
    In fact, my wife says she thinks she's heard good things about you folks. Want to get together??

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    Chris and Amelia,

    We don't need no steenking TEST to know we are crazy. It is our predominant attribute.

    Imsnowman check your messages
    fun_pairTX

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    Back at ya. BTW, we now have 105 posts with this one. Should we get a large or extra large t-shirt? How do we get the t-shirt?

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    Originally posted by imsnowman
    Too funny!!!
    Unfortunately, if the other couple has a good sense of humor they're likely to take that as a come-hither!
    In fact, my wife says she thinks she's heard good things about you folks. Want to get together??
    Geesh you guys...what do you think this is a SEX site? Obviously so, you are both CRAZY!!!....

    Imsnowman, WOO HOO....Order that shirt! Just send your address and size request info to Julie@swingersboard.com and she will ship it out to ya. Welcome to the sanitarium! Private club, no brains required....

    Lori

    Edited by OhioCouple....sorry folks I had the wrong address in there to write Julie for your shirts the first tiime.
    Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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    Default Crazy ok we can live with that.........

    Crazy isn't a requirement, but it sure does help
    fun_pairTX

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    Originally posted by Roxysbayou
    We usually give a squeeze. Whether it be while he is holding my hand or a hand on the knee, usually one squeeze is a yes and two squeezes is a no. It's a little more suttle. If that isn't possible then he will escort me to the restroom for a quiet "what do you think?"
    This is a great idea, one that I will definently use - subtle yet obvious to my wife or I. I have been trying to come up with something good for a while now - THANKS

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    No doubt about it.. If you have a mate that is in a faster mode than you are, signals are a great way to slow them down. I seem to need more time to decide if I truely like the people involved first.. men don't seem to need anything more than a little encouragement! haha... My hubby and I use the back rub and scratch an itch combo also.. seems to work well for us!

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    Originally posted by Rhythm_Blues
    ... men don't seem to need anything more than a little encouragement! haha...
    Not always, my wife is 5 times faster than me- and I'm only exaggerating a little

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    Originally posted by Nymph an' Satyr
    Not always, my wife is 5 times faster than me- and I'm only exaggerating a little
    Sort of the same thing here. While I may start out more interested to interact/flirt. My wife almost always is the one to have sex first. Both in terms of number of meetings and during a get together. And no just because she (or I) full swaps with one of the partners doesn't automatically mean that we both do. Each plays at our own pace. She just seems to enjoy a good fuck more than the foreplay. Once she's wet she jumps in/on full force. LOL

    Paul & Kalin

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    My husband and I use the ole, gotta check on 1 of the children, stating that they were not feeling well when we left, both knowing that they are perfectly fine. If he is not interested he simply states I think you need to call and see how "child" is doing or if it is I who is not interested I will state I need to call and see how they are feeling. We then close the conversation politely and tell them we will talk it over. On the way home we will discuss it and either call if we have thier # or E-mail saying the ole we don't think we are compatible.

    And we like others do nothing on a 1st date .
    negacpl

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    Question Signals for swinging?

    Hi everyone-

    I have been wondering what non-verbal signals other couples use during meetings with potential partners...

    H and I have talked about various signals to one another for things like "no way", "I'm comfortable", "I'm not comfortable", "yes", and a few others..

    However, we have yet to use them because we have only met one other couple in person, and it was so obvious after meeting them in person that we were not a good match for one another. Now that we are starting to get a few interesting inquiries about meeting, I am somewhat concerned that our signals may not be as clear as I would like for them to be. What have you all had success with?? And also, what kinds of things to you communicate with one another when meeting other couples? Is there anything we have left out that we might need a signal for?

    Thanks for your ideas!
    J and H

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    THE universally acceptable signal for "NO FREAKIN WAY EVER". This sentiment is commonly expressed by an individual imitating being jerked by a hangman's noose with the right arm and hand, while simultaneously sticking their left index finger down their throat and setting any pubic hair they may have on fire. Once you add this you should have it all covered. I would caution you against using it too often.
    fun_pairTX

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    Originally posted by NWARcouple
    Hi everyone-

    I have been wondering what non-verbal signals other couples use during meetings with potential partners...
    Rubbing the earlobe between thumb and forefinger
    "I think she's going to have someone's eye out with those earrings."

    Single finger drawn horizontally across front of throat
    "No deep throating."

    Rubbing the small of the back with one hand
    "He/She is going to snap me in half."

    Rubbing both temples simultaneously with index and middle fingers
    "I'm sending a telepathic message to their babysitter to call them home."

    Hand covering both eyes
    "I don't want to see this pair naked with the lights on"

    It's not going to be an orgy. It's a toga party . . .

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    Hi NWARcouple

    I've tried the non verbal signals.....one particular was to rub my earlobe, but if he's not looking at me - it's rather ineffective

    SO... we discovered 'code words'. Long time swinger couples told us that they have a phrase or a comment they make, that sounds harmless enough, but they both know what it means.... 'no way!'

    Like: 'Honey...let's go outside for a cigarrette'.

    Hope this helps

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    Brit_Pair

    If the couple are close & could hear us...one of us says "hmm hope the kids are ok..we should call" then explain to the couple thats its a new sitter. We excuse ourselves to call & if there is NO way in hell we are playing with them..well wouldnt ya know we have to go cuz there are problems.

    We also have signs that if one of us is talking or getting friendly with someone say across the room from us and we arent comfortable with it, I will play with my hair(twist it around my finger). Hubby blows me a kiss. And we stop whatever we were doing until we get a chance to talk.

    I use to think we were the only ones who did stuff like that. Now we find it amusing to watch others to see if we can figure out thier signs.

    naughtygirl27
    To Each His Own...

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    Originally posted by Brit_Pair
    Hand covering both eyes
    "I don't want to see this pair naked with the lights on"

    OMG these were sooo funny!!!!

    I use to think we were the only ones who did stuff like that. Now we find it amusing to watch others to see if we can figure out thier signs.

    naughtygirl27


    LOL I can see me doing this as well I like the checking on kids...we have 3 and the excuse would give us time to talk and see what the other is thinking. Of course it would probably be totally obvious...but at least it's not as rude as turning to each other and saying "YAY OR NAY?" lol
    ~~ AlaskaFunCpl ~~

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    My wife has the unfortunate disposition of being incapable of putting on a convincing act when it comes to showing real interest. All I have to do is look at her. If she's initiating conversation, we're good to go. If not, I buy drinks, cover for her, make fun of her shyness out of respect for the other peoples feelings, and try to get out of the situation with no emotional damage inflicted.

    Me? If I don't like the situation, I'll have a story to get out of it preplanned, and I'll use it at an oppurtune time, and she'll know by the way I'm totally lying about why we have to leave that I'm not cool with it.

    No hurt feelings is the main goal if it ends up being a no go.
    John & Kim

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    Default LOL Brit

    For us, we have the ability to just give each other the "LOOK" that lets each other know what direction to take, move forward or remember I left the iron on

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    Default Beef or Pork

    When I was in the Army, three buddies and I used to hang out with a few "lesbian" strippers. Of course, they were only lesbians in the club because two of them introduced me to the swing scene in the Pacific Northwest (Damn, I miss Vancouver, BC).

    Anyway, for various reasons, we had to protect ourselves and our reputation and careers, so we created a question to ask women before we got busy. "Do you prefer beef or pork ribs?" One of us would then say, "Seriously, I don't think things are going to work out" or "Something doesn't feel right and we have to go." Only happened twice, fortunately. One was with a porn star doing the club circuit who's bodyguards just didn't look right. The other was with a woman who was just too eager to visit us in the barracks.

    Then, there was the time my friends set us up with actual lesbians. But THAT is another story
    "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too."

    Prince

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    My wife and are new to this.... we have been moving very slowly...

    Everyone talks about the "Signals" what we would like to know is what kind of signals does everyone use, ie: 1) some sort of guide lines a) verbal b) body langauge

    We met with a single guy at a restraunt after several e-mails seemed like a nice guy we were just going to meet him, period. But, as things progressed we went to his apparment where he started kissing M (the wife) and they went to the bedroom while I watched from the door... I wasn't asked to join and really felt weird just being a voeyer (sp) ..... after we left my wife said she felt weird having done that and I said me too .... the thing is we BOTH thought the other would say somthing if it was getting "weird" or didn't want to go on ....

    We love this 'feeling' we get from the lifestyle and plan on going to some clubs and would love to know what we should use for signals... please?!

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    In that case I would say you should have just talked before leaving with him and discussed it. And rather than waiting for the other person to say something if it's getting weird for THEM... say something when it's getting weird for YOU.

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    With us we do alot of eye contact. and have always dicussed what will or wont happen before we meet anyone...we figure there is always time for another date in the future if we want to play if we decide NO playing on that date. Before you meet anyone discuss all the rules and what you want or dont want to happen. play out different things.....like if this happens then what. cover all the posibilities before hand so no one is left feeling wierd or uncomfy. And if something comes up that wasnt expected then say something if you arent comfy with it. Nothing is worth making you or your SO feel weird or uncomfy. If the other person or couple is decent they will understand if you need a few minutes to discuss stuff alone. I would chalk it up as a learning experiance and move forward. best of luck to you!!!!

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    ESPECIALLY when you are new, don't try to read each others mind. Set up signals before hand, if things get uncomfortable don't just stand or sit there, VERBALIZE. This cannot be overstated. You need to sit down together and talk before you try anything else in the lifestyle or it is gonna bite you on the ass.
    fun_pairTX

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    We always carry a flare gun.

    If you have been to any hotels in our area, and noticed a giant hole burned in the bedroom ceiling. . . .that would be us.
    "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~ Mark Twain

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