We recently attended a wedding followed by reception at a swank hotel, out of town. As we watched the ceremony and then mingled with many great looking couples over cocktails and snacks, our instinct was to guess how many swingers there might be in attendance. Many women were so gorgeously dressed that it inspired a strong desire to play with the couple/s and swap mates for full range of sexual actiities, intercourse included. Since many attendees including the two of us stayed overnight at the hotel, it could have been a night of exciting partner exchange for sex.
Of course, we were too timid to inquire, and, also did not know how to query disreetly, if the couple would want to swing, play and swap mates during the night after the reception, for sexual activities, including full-blown sexual intercourse with each other's mate. Having booked rooms at the same hotel would have facilitated the swinging and partner sexual exchange, same room or separate rooms. Just imagine getting up next morning after a night of sex play and intercourse with each other's partner and then having breakfast with the couple with a broad smile on everyone's face.
Since there were 150 couples in all, at least 3 or 4 couples (2-3%) must be swingers who might want to play, we thought. This was for all purposes as far as we know a vanilla wedding. Neither the wedding couple in their 30s, nor the parents on either side, are swingers to our knowledge.
The purpose in posting this thread is to find out how many of you lifestyler couples have been in a similar situation and how did you go about identifying the swinger couples. It need not be a wedding reception. It could as well have been a vanilla party of some kind. Four questions:
1. What strategy did you or would you use to identify those couples willing to swing? What quesions did you or would you ask with discretion?
2. Were you successful in playing, swapping mates and copulating for intercourse with the other couple's spouse, friend or significant other?
3. If your tried and did not succeed in swinging with the couple for sexual activities, what would you do differently.
4. What suggestions do you have for us for the next wedding we attend so we improve chances of meeting, playing, mating and partner swapping for sexual play with intercourse in mind.