[QUOTE=imsherona2;323473]I don't think its necessary for blame on anyone. Mr. J didn't want anything more than our opinions about how to say good buy, basically. He shared their event with us, as good folks, who care enough to offer what we might do in the same circumstances. Hell, I would think we have all had sex with someone we might not want a second time around with. For what ever reasons. At least I know we have been there. And then again we could be wrong about the guy. Not likely, but we could.My opinion, after reading the original post and the replys...is all 3 of you are to blame for the evening!
Thats how we go forward. Nothing happened that cant be dealt with in a positive way. I hope for the best also .
I don't know , I could say that also, knowing what we know now. But we didn't know all about everything when we started. I know we were not only naive when we started, we trusted people..... A little to much perhaps. And lets not forget what our drive was in the beginning.... Sex..... It can be a powerful motive to take the next step.First of all, we would have NEVER even gone through with the meet and greet knowing the female half of the "couple" was not going to show, and if HE showed up (like he did) without her, we would have cancelled right then and rescheduled when ALL could be there.
You took the words write out of my mouth here. Except we have more rules now, than even that... We learned them.... embarrassingly, the hard way.Our rule of thumb is this: if it's a couple we are meeting for the 1st time, the two women speak over the phone, plan on meeting for coffee or lunch or whatever, then if all goes well, we then plan a meet and greet for all parties involved and go from there. It works for us and so far, no mishaps!!
I just have to say we had a couple dupe us as well once. I had a single female try to back door Mrs.fun also. We have had our experiences we learned from all the way around. We learn as we go.
Now I am in total agreement with you. Your speaking my language nowI hope you have learned a lot from all the replys and what to do or not to do in the future. Just because you two are newbies doesn't mean you have to be "had" and you now know what to look for i.e. red flags!!
That puts your heart in the write place to meHere's hoping your next encounter is everything you two want it to be and have fun