ok here it is, Hubby and I have been swinging on and off for for a cpl of years. Normally it mfm, occasionally its been with a cpl. My hubby met a cpl on a different website and we agreed to meet for dinner etc, just to get to know them better or so I thought. I told him before we EVER left that this was just a chance to meet and get a feel for them that I had absolutely no intention of playing that night and left it with that. We met them and invited them back to watch a movie. I ONCE AGAIN informed him I was not interested in playing that night. I had been released the day before from the hospital from complications w/my diabetes and I had a very swollen neck and could hardly eat.
Anyhow back to the story. My husband said it was just an excuse not to play and that I always said that I wanted to get to know them better before playing(ok so I am NOT looking for a one night stand etc) and that if something didn't happen that night it wouldn't happed. We got to the house and hung out for awhile. I went down to put a load in the dryer to return upstairs to find him fondeling her breast. I was angry to say the least. I used the excuse that I wasn't feeling well and went to my room. I know he could tell I was peeved but I didn't want to seem rude and like a real witch to the cpl. He then asked me if it was ok if He played without me. I just looked at him and said fine do what you want and proceeded to my room and began to throw things out our room like I was cleaning but I KNOW he knew I was angry. Truthfully I was more hurt than angry. I wouldn't speak to him the rest of the night and I gave him the cold shoulder. He kept bugging me and I finally told him that I felt he had crossed a major boundry with me and that I felt betrayed. He tried to twist it to be my fault saying well you should have spoke up etc.
I now am not exactly comfortable with playing at all. Am I right to feel like I do or should I have opened my mouth and said something. I mean I did tell him more than once this was not to be a play date?
Any opinions out there, Male or Female alike I just want to hear what people think.