Ummmmm,yes,we did it,and I loved it!
Just wondering if others have done this .We have done 3somes(fmf,mfm)4somes(with couples),but wife likes to play alone sometimes with her boss(we have never done a 3some with him nor does he know I'm awear of them playing)and it drives me crazy( in a good way)when she comes home smelling of sex,then tells me every detail while I suck on her cum filled pussy,I know there has to be other husbands that have done the same or am I the odd ball here?Hoping to hear from other males,females,and couples please
Ummmmm,yes,we did it,and I loved it!
Hi there, couldn't say I did it, but wanted to!! jeje
with one of my ex, I wanted her to have sex with a friend we had a soft encounter and stayed being friends, even wanted to set a "trap" for him.. jeje but couldn't do it, so I understand what you say.
It's not inusual, some couples don't like it, since they like to go out always as a couple, but if you're ok with it and you enjoy it, well, go ahead. Would be nice if you carry on with a secretary or someone from your work too, don't you think?
I know there are many that will agree with your situation, and get excited by it, but I just don't get it.Originally Posted by denlin_99
I would hate to portray the image of a cheater - and since the guy she is playing with doesn't know you know - he thinks she is cheating. I am SO VERY proud of my relationship with my husband - how honest, loving, fulfilling, and satisfying it is - that I don't want ANYONE to think that either of us would be in a cheating situation.
I'm sure there are many that agree with you, but I would think there are many that would agree with me too. It's not just that we play only together (and we do) but it's the whole image of our relationship - it's important to me that others know we have a great relationship.
I hope that all makes sense.
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving. - Albert Einstein
Just curious...if you are trying to set something up so that a friend or a boss becomes involved with your spouse, isn't that being deceptive. I think swinging is about honesty. Not trying to judge, just trying to echo the honesty and free will aspect of swinging.
I was in a similar situation when I was married to my ex. He knew I played around, my playthings knew that he knew (probably not to the extent that he was actually aware of). Now there were times he wasn't happy about it, but I will say that the sex afterwards was always hot for a week or two. He liked listening in on encounters, made a video once and always told him every story when I would come home.
So if it works for you, go for it. Maybe if your wife really wants to blow the boss's mind, she can make him aware that you know what's going on?
Cuckolding is to Swinging as commercial fishing is to fly fishing.
There are similarities, and you both want to catch fish, but the motivations are very different.
Now that is a good analogy!Originally Posted by Chicup
I understand it completely. And I have a couple comments on it based on personal experience, too.Originally Posted by flkeyscouple
We play together and alone, with couples, singles, in intimate settings and parties. It's okay for either of us to have a "friend" we can see alone from time to time. But, all those people know first and foremost that we are a couple and that we have chosen to make them a part of our relationship. And because of this there is a huge amount of respect from these people for us, and they have also become close friends outside of sex. It's important to us also that they know that we have a great relationship, and because of that we have a great relationship with them.
Then, there are the men and women that try to do what I call "divide and conquer". I don't think in the manner of getting us to leave each other, but the idea of us having not only each other's permission but each other's blessings to go have fun, just freaks them out. So they try to create situations where they exclude one of us.
We've run into several men like this and one woman. The idea made them uncomfortable and they tried over and over to get one of us to play alone with them. And it's not that, because we will. The difference is that those we do play with will play with us in a threesome situation, also. It's about "us". With these others, they don't want "us", they just want Mrs. WS or I alone.
Where this is all going? Well back to the scenario of the OP. There was a guy that was after Mrs. WS really bad. And she thought he was great and would have loved to have an afternoon or three with him. But, he kept pushing her to do it without my knowledge. That was the turn-on for him. The "cheating wife" scenario. I think for him a cheating wife strokes his ego: "the husband can't satisfy her so she's seeing me." Her seeing him with my knowledge, approval, and blessings didn't turn him on... it freaked him out. He didn't want to have a threesome with us, he didn't want me to know when and if she saw him. He wanted her to cheat on me. So of course, Mrs. WS cut him loose.
About ten years ago I was the unknowing single male in a couple's "wanton wife/cuckhold husband" sex fantasy. At the time I didn't know, but now days it all makes sense and I'm still kinda' pissed at her for deceiving me that way. I would have gladly played along with them had I known... but seeing it now I can understand how many wouldn't, so they kept it to themselves.
Hell, I'd bet the OP's boss would freak-out and put an end to the "affair" if he knew the truth, that this is part of his lover and her husband's sex play. i think that sometimes it's just too much for the vanilla mind to wrap itself around.
whats Cuckolding? never heard of it
It is quite different than swinging I think chicups definition was good as far as what cuckolding has become.
The cuckolding by definition is a bit more brutal.
A man married to an unfaithful wife.
tr.v. cuck∑old∑ed, cuck∑old∑ing, cuck∑olds
To make a cuckold of.
[Middle English cokewald, from Anglo-Norman *cucuald, from cucu, the cuckoo, from Vulgar Latin *cucclus, from Latin cuclus.]
Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some Old World cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, "cuckoo, cuckold," and the pejorative suffix -ald and used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.
Like you we have done the couples, thjreesomes, etc, and I enjoyed them all but it really turns me on for my wife to go out and pick up a stranger and then come back to me with the details. She had several long term boyfriends over the years but also a lot that she met at hotel lounges, at work, clubs and to tell the truth many of my friends. I loved it when she came home with a smile on her face, cock on her breath and cum in her sweet cunt. Unlike many women in swinging she has never had her cunt shaved (except for when she had the kids) as I truly love the sight of her hairy cunt, especially when the hair is matted with another fellows cum. HardTongue firstname.lastname@example.org
dictionary of the American language, what you describe is neither cuckold nor swinging.
As sexcupid observed, it works for you, go for it. But I recommend you not try to cloth the obvious elements of deception in names like cuckold or swinging.
I've some experience in this field, and even did some vid. work for a web couple.
It seems to me that this is/can be slippery stuff, I've seen it in the light way where the hubby just likes watching his wife with a larger black man...then there are the hubby's that like to watch, but get somewhat vocal with it...even asking the wife "you like that big black dick"...and who want me to be vocal about it as well....which is all good.
Then I've seen the extreme where the wife is is total control, telling the husband what to do...where to go, where to sit, ect... dressing him up in women's clothing...making him eat creampie, complete and total control.
It was crazy to see this normal looking guy being made to do these things...and after talking with the wife she said it wasn't always like that that it was a progression...they started off just as reg. old swingers...then over a few years she took more and more control of the marriage.
Didn't mean that to come off as some sort of a warning....to each his own.
I don't want this to come off harsh, but in my eyes what your wife is doing is wrong on at least two levels. One, she's having sex with her boss, that scenario looks like a big minefield to me. Two, you both are encouraging a cheater, which in the bosses mind he is, even if he's single he thinks your wife is cheating on you. I hope things work out ok but my thoughts are that we will be hearing bad news from you down the road.
Somebody better go back and get a shitload of dimes!!!
for hubby and I. it started as swinging. then it evolved into a ( AS HUBBY AND I NOW CALL IT ) A " HALF OPEN RELATIONSHIP" I can play with his knowlage and he does not play with anyone. he enjoys the satisfaction of my getting what my sex drive needs that he can not provide. Its not to say i bed hop. I don't. but a night of really really good long lasting filling sex is so wonderful now and then. He so enjoys preping helping and being involved with my pleasure. and the memmories of the night last for several exciting weeks for us. you may say its a bit submissive in nature but it does get his little "Quick Shooter" stiff thats for sure. and I love him all the more.
An honest " HALF OPEN RELATIONSHIP" Is wonderful :-)
I'm left to wonder how many women would get off on their husband getting an occasional servicing from a younger, tighter lady and his relating a "blow by blow" rundown of events?
When we were first married and interested in exploring swinging, Mrs. Alura and I, because of impatience probably, tried "cuckolding" when she was presented with an opportunity. Of course, she was successful; she always was, but there were some problems.
First, she felt like she was talking to a rock when she tried to explain that it would be one time and one time only. The guy just couldn't understand why she would do what she was doing.
Second, when she told me the details, there were few that stood out. The others did not produce the exciting results we'd hoped for. She felt that, had she still been single, the date would have ended after the first kiss, but she persevered for the experience. She wanted to at least get fucked so she'd have something to tell me.
Third, the whole thing was boring for both of us. We decided cuckolding was a waste of time and opted to continue our search for the right couple. Were we ever glad we did! When it happened, it turned out to be as thrilling as cuckolding had been underwhelming.
"They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it."
I never like the phrase cuckolding! I love sharing my wife, the smell of another guy, feeling a freshly fucked and cum filled pussy. but I hate the thought that its to embaressed about it. I have a big dick, some have had big some smaller. I'm good in bed. Some guys are as good most aren't. Cuckolding is just another made up fantasy. In reality I just love having a common intrest with my wife which is a hugh turn on for both of use and fucking the shit out of her as she tells me every detail of the nights events. Just nice to be prelubed pussy lol. The hottest thing I think is when your wife puts her self out there how much attention is waiting, and she glows for a week and self confedance goes threw the roof.
wife likes one on one with a new partner - doesn't feel like she's putting on a show for me and I like her renewed confidence and sometimes a pre lubed sweet surprise for me! definitely a turn on for me .
Great post tho
Melissa & Ryan