I figured this would be the best place to ask my questions since it seems you guys have some experience.
My husband of 7 years has been trying to get me to have a threesome or group sex with him. It started off years ago just joking around but we have seriously been talking about it lately.
I have some issues that I feel I would need to work through first. I really dont like the idea of him with another woman even if Im there. To me it seems like cheating with permission. Ive tried to explain my view point to him but I dont think he understands it. For me it seems that I am not enough for him or that Im doing something wrong in the bedroom, he says this is not the case its just something he would like to experience and he figures that we've been together long enough that he could bring it up.
Now here are my questions, Do we keep talking about it? Do I comprimise myself to make him happy? If I am not willing to do this do I just say no, and become a hypocrite if one day it happens? (explaniation: I am very open to it spontaneously happening but that time may never come)
If I say no, where does that leave us? Do I tell him to go and find someone who will do this with him and make him happy? I have two children with him and love him very much but Im not sure what to do now. Also Im a jealous person and it almost hurts that he wants to share me with others, he says he doesnt see it that way, I should be honored because its so good he wants to share it with others.
ugg....... sorry this was long, any answers are appreciated.