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    Wink Overcomming our issues about our size, first experiance

    My husband and I talked about swinging for the first time tonight, and I think he's interested! Obviously, we have a lot to talk about before we'd be ready for our first experience...but it's exciting to think what interesting encounters the future may hold for us.

    We have several clubs in the area and I think we'd like to try one out. I have never really done the bar scene before and don't know how well big girls are received. I've attached a G-rated pic...I'm not trying to solicit hookups / criticism / compliments...I just don't want to be too disappointed if I couldn't hookup. I guess I just want to have realistic expectations going into this.

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    Big women need love too. It really does'nt matter what you look like on the outside, it's what your like on the inside. I've met alot of skinny ugly girls. By that I mean, they're very pretty on the outside, but when they are ready to show their asses, they can be the ugliest people you have ever met.Also I hear that alot of men these days are into big women. Skin and bone are a thing of the past.

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    Meggybear, you have the body type I love to look for. Beautiful smile, too.

    It's good to know you are around.

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    The first thing I noticed? A great, confident smile, well-dressed, pretty hair, pretty face, and takes pride in her appearance. She also appears friendly and outgoing. Oh, and she's got a little extra junk in the trunk.

    I've heard it said a few times on here that it was observed that the "Barbies" ended up being the wallflowers and it was the heavier girls who exuded so much more confidence that people were flocking to. It's all about the attitude.

    Now, will you be rejected? Of course you will. It doesn't matter what you look like, there will always be someone whose type you're NOT. But as long as you have a healthy love of yourself, and you take pride in your appearance and your sexuality, you are definitely someone's type. Being rejected isn't fun, but you just have to learn to shrug and smile and wish them a good evening...and learn to not take it personally. You'll have your preferences, too, and the people that you turn down (and if you are confident and outgoing, people WILL be drawn to you) will have learn to deal with YOUR rejection, too.
    Fear is a symptom of ignorance. Knowledge is the cure.

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    meggybear, welcome to the thoughts of the swinging lifestyle. I just have to say that from your looks, you are definitely charming . You say that your worried about rejection... well we have been rejected, maybe not very much, but it is part of swinging. Whats amazing to us is who we do connect with People just like you, who look at things realistically. That just tipped the scales way in your favor, as far as I'm concerned . For us we don't worry so much about rejection, as we do about connection.

    As swingers, we are a couple first. Its about each others happiness. The best part about that is, we never reject each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meggybear
    My husband and I talked about swinging for the first time tonight, and I think he's interested! Obviously, we have a lot to talk about before we'd be ready for our first experience...but it's exciting to think what interesting encounters the future may hold for us.

    We have several clubs in the area and I think we'd like to try one out. I have never really done the bar scene before and don't know how well big girls are received. I've attached a G-rated pic...I'm not trying to solicit hookups / criticism / compliments...I just don't want to be too disappointed if I couldn't hookup. I guess I just want to have realistic expectations going into this.

    Meggybear
    Are you kidding me? I looked at your picture girl, and you are beautiful!!! I love your teeth, btw lol....seriously, you are not TOO big at all. I myself, have more cushion for the pushin lol, and alot of men tell me that they prefer curvy women. No, you will not have any probs. Yes, there are people who prefer "HWP"....but then, I have my own preferences at the same time. You will be fine girlie.
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
    Shelly

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    Is this a joke?



    You are GORGEOUS! You have a great smile, you give off an air of confidence, and your face just glows!!

    Like Intuition said, yes, you will be rejected, but then we all will for one reason or another. Someone might not like you because you don't make enough money, you might be rejected because you live on the wrong part of town. You might be rejected because your boobs are too small or too big. There are a plethora of reasons that people might reject you, but keep that confidence and both of you will be playing in no time!!
    Dave & Holly

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    Intuition is completely correct! You are just plain sexy! Confidence and being outgoing are probably the most important things when it comes to any social situation. Outgoing people are almost always more liked then the wallflowers.

    Mrs. WS is what I call a "plushie", a little extra "junk in the trunk", and she has never, ever, hurt for finding a playmate, and many that are married to "Barbies". It's all in the attitude.

    Mr. WS
    "Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are." ~ Anna Freud
    Blog: Bigger Love

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    <<<<<<<<<<<<<< Look at that butt!

    I forgot to add that I'm not exactly svelte either. I've got more than a little extra padding.
    Dave & Holly

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    Hiya Meggybear! Yeah, what everybody else said. You look like a fun person and that's what counts.

    Welcome

    -B
    "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain
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    Hi Meggybear,
    You look to be roughly the same size and body type as my wife. We have only spent one evening with members of our local swing club but we were thrilled that everyone was so nice. It was the best night on the town we have had for many years. From my admittedly limited experience I'd say just be confident and friendly and you'll do fine.
    Have fun!
    Jeff

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meggybear
    We have several clubs in the area and I think we'd like to try one out. I have never really done the bar scene before and don't know how well big girls are received.
    Hi Meggy, you're a beautiful lady. You have a great smile and I'll bet you have a great personality to go with it. We like ladies of all sizes, except (sorry) not the very skinny ones. My husband and I would both approach you.

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    Thanks for the responses. I know hubby loves me--but I am so nervous to entering something that is nearly equivalent to the dating scene. It's a bit intimidating for someone who hasn't been on the market (so to speak) for 8 1/2 years!

    Anyway, I think I'm brave enough to try to get us into a local on-site club this weekend. Should be interesting! Does everyone tend to take it slow, or do some of you just jump right in?

    Meggybear

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    We jumped right in, but that's kinda' how Mrs. WS does everything so why not this too! We had a few minor issues here and there after the first couple times, but nothing that was a "show stopper". For us it was the right way to do it. For others it might be better to wade in and see how deep the water is first.

    Mr. WS
    "Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are." ~ Anna Freud
    Blog: Bigger Love

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    Meggybear

    You look amazing!

    The things that attract me the most are a lovely smile (like yours!) and a happy confident, bubbly personality. Which just looking, you appear to have.

    It's not all about body shape, my wife feels intimidated sometimes when she sees the model body walk by on our trips to 'on site' clubs. But a smile and a pretty face are far more important!

    If you're ever in the UK and want to visit a swingers club I'd be happy to accompany you facelick

    Gaz

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    this is something I think all big women worry about. I was nervous about starting in this lifestyle too, but I've found that I don't have enough time to be with every man or woman that approaches me!! Course, I have fun trying!

    Honey, just go with it, and have lots and lots of fun!

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    Quote Originally Posted by intuition897
    The first thing I noticed? A great, confident smile, well-dressed, pretty hair, pretty face, and takes pride in her appearance. She also appears friendly and outgoing....
    Couldn't agree more. Confidence and personality outweigh (excuse the pun) a 24 inch waist anyday.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LFM2
    <<<<<<<<<<<<<< Look at that butt!

    I forgot to add that I'm not exactly svelte either. I've got more than a little extra padding.
    Thats just more cushion for the pushin baby
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
    Shelly

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    Meggy,

    I'm married, and my wife and I haven't even talked about this sort of thing yet though I think she has some interest in it based on hints over the years.

    I'd be interested to hear how you got your husband to talk about swinging. I want to have the same frank, loving conversation with my wife.

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    Meggybear you should never be ashamed of who you are. You look like an attractive, happy lady. Clubs up in Canada have a wide variety of body types, it never ceases to amaze me the variety in shapes of women.

    Sexuality comes from the core, not from the skin. Have fun and play safe. Both of us think you are quite attractive
    Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. "Harvey Fierstein"

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    Confidence and personality outweigh (excuse the pun) a 24 inch waist anyday.
    Shit I last had one of those when I was 20 years old...ahh well that is what 24 years of living will do to a gal
    Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. "Harvey Fierstein"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amanda69
    Both of us think you are quite attractive
    Mr. LFM thought she was a dish, too!!
    Dave & Holly

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    Hi, New and researching and shy, glad to see as I read that i'm not the only one that is large (I like to call medium) is nervous about my size and the rejection. We just have a few extra curves and we have fantasy too

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    I know this has been said a lot and it may start to sound insincere but really you are beautiful. And I'd like to point out that as strangers on the internet we have no reason to lie to you.
    I feel that a woman doesn't have to be called 'Ms.' in order to be a woman of her own making. I believe 'Miss' allows moi to be a woman, and my karate can get me anything else

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    Thanks everyone for being sincere and sweet and accepting.
    I think I can answer my own question now since I'm officially a swinger now!!!
    Hubby and I had first time this weekend.
    The guy didn't run out of the room screaming or anything! In fact he seemed to enjoy himself...(and so did the mrs)

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