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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilMJ
    I am sure I have said this one 100 times before. But women who pretend they are bi sexual for what ever reason (hubby is pressuring them, they have convinced themselves they are bi) but after spending all your time getting to know them and making plans, you find out they are not even the least bit bi. And I am not talking about those who are bi curious and make that clear from the beginning either, I can respect that, it is those who come off like they have always been bi and have played with other women before.
    Ditto.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jandg
    Bigots of any type.

    We met a couple a while back. They were a well-dressed, attractive couple about our age. After talking to them for less than two minutes, we found out that she really disliked some of the not as well-dressed "trailer-trash" that were at the club (not knowing that she was talking about some very good friends of ours), and he had an absolute hatred for Canadians

    Needless to say, we parted company very quickly. :rollseyes
    Hatred? of Canadians? What the hell could anyone find about us to actually hate? We apologize to our furniture if we bump into it! Would he prefer it, I suppose, if we did something more familiar? Like telling him to fuck off?

    Bizarre.

    As far as deal-breaking traits go, most of our deal-breakers are character flaws. For example, dishonesty is a big one. Don't tell us you're in your mid-thirties when it's blatantly obvious you're at least 10 years older. We have no problem playing with folks in their mid-40's or older; just don't try to trick us into something!

    Other examples: chronically low self-esteem, chronic jealousy, lack of intelligence, insincerity (they like to use corny pick-up lines and make sleazy remarks), bigotry...
    Fear is a symptom of ignorance. Knowledge is the cure.

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    Default Re: Traits that you hate

    Traits to hate:

    Pushy men
    Drunk people
    Gossips
    Pretend swingers
    Excessive screamers

    Traits to love:

    Women
    Nicely groomed men
    Sense of humour
    Flirtiness



    Mrs WA

    PS - How can anyone hate Canadians? Canada is the nicest state in the U.S. *ducking*
    Life is like a box of chocolates - you gotta take a little bite outta each one to find the one you'd love to eat!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TwoLittleBirds
    ^^That's not off topic, Daisy, that's actually very informative.^^

    As for me, it's not so much sexual as social, like at parties: The lecturer. Have you met him? There's no conversation, just him talking about how Rome didn't actually fall to the Barbarians but was destroyed by disease and politics and lack of trees and lead poisening the water and blahablah... I'm not saying I'm not interested in learning new things, but when I'm at a social gathering, I want to be social. Not attend a seminar on how smart Lawrence is.

    I also don't like snobs at parties. It's hard enough to strike up a conversation with a stranger (for BOTH of us) and to start a conversation without people making it more difficult. Jeez, it's a society, at least be civil.

    TLB,

    I'm just the opposite, I love finding the lecturer and debating everything down to the tiniest detail. Partially because I am TERRIBLE at light conversation and have no clue what topics are fair game. You may find that the person who seems to be a snob is really just utterly terrified of saying the wrong things or doing the wrong thing. I am usually the one who appears to be a snob because I am so poor at social interaction until I have been around the person enough to be comfortable. I am not afraid of going up and saying hello to people or starting a conversation, I just know that it will end with them giving me a disapproving look because I said something they considered weird.

    I'm not trying to point fingers , I know that I am weird, but I wish that socially competent people weren't so put off by those of us who don't have that ability. LOL I find that normal people have lots to teach me if I can get them to talk about something other than the weather or the condition of the building/town/roads etc.

    Take pity on us TLB, turn the lecturer towards a subject that you both can have a lively and enjoyable conversation on. If the person is actually nice they will happily change the subject, and if they are jerks then you can prove that they don't have a clue what they are talking about. I love it when people actually TALK with me, they become more attractive and wonderful by the minute.
    The World's mine Oyster - William Shakespeare, "The Merry Wives of Windsor"

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    I positively hate people that
    - are pushy
    - drink/smoke dope excessively
    - have poor grooming habits ie ladies with black facial hair/men with nose hair you could braid

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    - Crazy people..you know they type I'm talking about
    - Serial killers
    - People who claim to be ex-navy seals...did you know for every 1 real Navy seal there are 300 liers...really

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amanda69
    ...if you want to talk to or are interested in my man, then come and talk to both of us. Nothing drives me more crazy than the woman who waits for the two of us to part ways for whatever reason (ie: bathroom breaks, dance, getting drinks) and then she pounces. There is just something underhanded about it.
    Mr teases the crap outta me because this is one of the very, very few situations that I can get incrediably pissed off at. Usually, I'm pretty laid back, go with the flow. This instantly gets my claws up.

    We also avoid profiles that say anything along the lines of 'Looking for sexy single bi-female....and select couples' Couples being the after thought. We do not consider swinging a spectator sport. We do not consider Mr watching and twiddling himself while someone else and their man plays with me swinging. *shudder*

    We do not deal well with jealous spouses. I cannot have a good time rocking someone else's man if I am constantly being monitored by his wife. Its one thing to look over and get all hot about it, another to look over and shoot daggers out of your eyes. It makes us both very uncomfortable when they have to have a meeting right in the middle of a good time (well, really, that was kinda the END of the mediocre time)

    We don't like referee's. We've actually had a couple we have full swapped with stop play and say 'OK, well, you had xyz and we had xyz so its a fair trade.' WTF? So....we're done?

    We have had some *really* awesome expiriences with some very cool people...so we stay in the game

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    From WA_Cple
    PS - How can anyone hate Canadians? Canada is the nicest state in the U.S. *ducking*
    Amanda tosses a few snow balls at them....mumbling hmm I'll show them a passive Canadian.....
    Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. "Harvey Fierstein"

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    Quote Originally Posted by driveajeepnaked
    We met a couple at a Meet n Greet here and invited them back for a hot tub chat... they were average, but we carried on some good conversation. Once in the tub, she felt the need to "add more of her own bubbles" to the water... not just once, or twice, or thrice, but it was pretty much a never ending parade of flatulence which continued after we got out of the tub... She never acknowledged any of this, by the way...

    We bid them a fine farewell and emptied the hot tub the next day

    V
    Now, thats what I call gross lol
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
    Shelly

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    Default Re: What are your hangups?

    Quote Originally Posted by EvilMJ
    I am sure I have said this one 100 times before. But women who pretend they are bi sexual for what ever reason (hubby is pressuring them, they have convinced themselves they are bi) but after spending all your time getting to know them and making plans, you find out they are not even the least bit bi. And I am not talking about those who are bi curious and make that clear from the beginning either, I can respect that, it is those who come off like they have always been bi and have played with other women before.
    I agree with you 100% on this. I myself in all honesty am minimally bi-curious. If you ask me I will tell you that I am straight. I will play, but more to set the mood vs. true sex. BUT I do also say this from jump. On the other hand, I hate it when a bi woman who is attracted to me tries to talk me into being bisexual! We have one couple, and the husband is convinced that I will become bisexual for his wife lol....and then we know a single woman who is constantly trying to convice me that I am missing something by not having sex with a woman. Its just all about honesty, but also about a little respect.
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
    Shelly

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abgirlie
    I positively hate people that
    - are pushy
    - drink/smoke dope excessively
    - have poor grooming habits ie ladies with black facial hair/men with nose hair you could braid
    YUCK!!!! nose hair and ear hair are just gross...
    Grooming and hygiene are most important to us. If you have yucky teeth you aren't even getting near us. No summer teeth allowed. Ya know some 'er here and some 'er there.. lol.
    Polite well mannered people are a plus.
    People that you would find on a Jerry Springer show are a negative.

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    My father-in-law is the lecterure in our family. To him, parties are the perfect time to prove to a large group how intellagent he is. Way too frustrating and irritating for me.

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    Dito

    I would add to the Jerry Springer comment....

    If you can not communicate, how can you have intercourse??

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShellyM
    Hey ya'll. I have a question for you, and I would like your opinion. Is there any trait, other than looks, that would cause you not to play with a couple? I am talking a person who at first glance is great, you like them alot. BUT THEN they do something or say something that causes you to say "Oh hell no".
    For instance, last night lost_j1 and I went out for a few drinks. And there were 2 couples there, handsome young people. Very friendly. BUT these 2 girls, being young caucasian girls, if I'm being politically correct here, have voices like the sirens. The really high pitch, baby, cheerleader voices. Like, I was waiting for one of them to scream "Go Team!" lol. I can't stand it. I could really envision myself stopping all play to tell her to please shut the you know what up!
    So, thats my opinion lol.
    Your story reminds me of a girl I met once that completely ruined the evening for myself and most of my friends I was with. We were at a party some friends of mine were having. Another guy who we were all friends with shows up with this girl (about 19yrs old). At the time we were all involved in amateur websites and swingers as well. This girl that showed up evidently had recently gotten involved in shooting porn, which is all fine. The problem was that she wouldn't stop talking the entire night. All any of us wanted to do was find a dick to stuff in her mouth to make her be quiet because she was killing it for the rest of us. At one point we were in the hot tub and she started up again with "this one time..." and before she could even get the last half of the sentance out I finished it for her with "at porn camp?!". Everyone in the hot tub busted up laughing but she completely missed the joke and just kept on with her story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crystal
    My father-in-law is the lecterure in our family. To him, parties are the perfect time to prove to a large group how intellagent he is. Way too frustrating and irritating for me.

    There are those types as well, I can't stand them either. I am actually more of the soap boxer type, I never leave home without it. The people who expect others to treat them as Socrates are actually great fun to bring down a peg or two.
    The World's mine Oyster - William Shakespeare, "The Merry Wives of Windsor"

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    For us,

    Too much to drink.. Huge turn off.

    Cleanliness..we have actually met couples, usually men however, who look like they were just heading home from a baseball game and thought "hey let's go to the swingers club, maybe we can get laid". So, for us clean clothes, recently showered and teeth brushed. I mean you need to look like you gave the evening of sex your attention, that it wasn't and afterthought.

    Finally, and this is big for us. Men bring your necessary tools of the trade...condoms. I can't beleive how many times I've had to "lend" our playmates condoms. We are always impressed and pleased when a couple or single male come prepared with a goody bag.

    S&A

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    Women who say they are bi, but you find out quickly they are not.

    Couples who say they LOVE giving and receiving oral, but you realize the oral they like to give is lots of talking.

    Couples who view another couple as a female with a necessary evil.

    People who don't have the decency to take 10 seconds to send a 'thanks, but no thanks' note when you've taken the time to send them a nice note of interest. I can't mention how thrilled I am to actually receive a thanks but no thanks note!

    Drama, jealousy and the like. I like to watch soap operas, not be IN them.

    The men posing as couples who scurry off when you want to voice verify with the wife.

    Those that claim they are full swap, then in the 'getting to know you phase' decide they are really only into the girl/girl action.

    Just a few
    Mrs. LiCouple4u
    Just your average married couple seeking friends with benefits :fun:

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheCouple
    For me its couple who talk too much during sex. We were playing with this one couple and he kept telling me what he was going to do to me, and what he was doing to me, and he thought he was being kinky and he was just being stupid. It was gross. And it wasnt just him, his girlfriend was yelling at my husband, telling him to #@@! her harder, telling him she was a slut, she needed to be $#@!ed. It was ridiculous.
    There you have it... One couple's turn-off is another couple's turn-on. We actually enjoy dirty talk. facelick

    Actually, we hold back a good bit when we're playing with others, just in case they feel the same as you. After all, we swing to have fun, not to scare others.

    They gave us no warning that they were into talking dirty and they were a very cute, and normal couple up until then.
    We relish the fact that we aren't a normal couple.

    Turnoffs for us? Drunks, most definitely drunks.
    And those that have a grooming deficiency.
    Remember when your grandmother covered her couch with plastic?
    It was probably because she was a squirter.

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    Amanda - I know for sure that Canadians are far from passive I have seen the hockey and there's not a lot of passivity exhibited in the game. I think Canadians are just genuinely nice people (on the whole) and I think it confuses a lot of Americans because we think they are hiding something...

    Anyhoo... I love Canada - I love playing in Canada - I love everything about it. Plus the hottest women in the world live in Vancouver, BC - oh mama I love that place!



    Mrs WA
    Life is like a box of chocolates - you gotta take a little bite outta each one to find the one you'd love to eat!

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    Other examples: chronically low self-esteem, chronic jealousy, lack of intelligence, insincerity (they like to use corny pick-up lines and make sleazy remarks), bigotry...

    I agree with Intuition on the traits above. It's really a mood killer for me when someone we're playing with has to have constant reasurance about their looks, personality, etc. If we weren't attracted to them, why would we invite them to our bedroom?

    I can think of one particular woman who whined for an hour straight about how fat she was (she wasn't), how she hated her hair, how her feet were ugly (??), and on and on she went, fishing for compliments. Let's just say, we didn't end up playing with her. Or calling again. Confidence is attractive to us.
    "I am giddy; expectation whirls me round; Th' imaginary relish is so sweet that it enchants my sense" -- Shakespeare--

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    you've all hit the nail on the head, but i must add one or two more. I don't like a prejudice couple and a couple that stares. It's freaky. It make you feel like a piece of meat waiting to be bought. If your interested come over and talk to us. I get along with just about everybody.I do have it bad if i don't like you.I'm not rude, but i won't have much to say to you.I'll just let you do all the talking before i find a polite way to say i'm out of here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WA_Cple
    Anyhoo... I love Canada - I love playing in Canada - I love everything about it. Plus the hottest women in the world live in Vancouver, BC - oh mama I love that place!



    Mrs WA

    How untrue. My dear you need to visit the other coast, we make em just as hot out here and we don't wear hemp and eat granola (...sorry couldn't help myself, running joke at University).

    At this rate we are going to be running a thread about Canadians...lol.

    But I do find Bigotry a big turn off. WHen we first got started in swinging I was out with the woman of the couple we play with at a bar having a girls night when she points out a swinger couple and comments that she wouldn't play with them because he was Asian. She also said another time that she would never play with anyone in a wheelchair. Needless to say we no longer play togther any more.
    "Well! Evil to some is always good to others." - Jane Austen

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    1 thng that botherrz me is bad speling and the unibility to comunikate wth wordz I meen I speak english real good so i think sinc you are puting your bestest foot fourword peple kud at leest uz spel chek oh and 1 mor thng that botherrz me is not using punctuation is it that difficult to put a comma in the correct spot or at least a question mark when needed

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    In all seriousness, I'm not sure if the ability to write well is a trait; however for us it is important. We have received mail via SLS and read the profile and immediately responded with a resounding no just because of poor writing. I am not the world's best speller, but there are some handy tools out there to help me along. I'll cut someone slack on a posting site such as this one, but not on SLS. A couple should try to put their best foot forward on SLS, I sometimes think to myself, if that's their best foot, I am not interested. So I suppose it goes along the lines of intelligence.

    Once we meet, proper grammar will do wonders for my perception of someone. When I hear improper English, it sounds like nails on a chalk board. I don't want to sound stuck up, I am more refereeing to the use of "Ain't" "them" when "those" should have been used, etc...

    So I suppose the list of traits I hate are:
    1. lack of intelligence.
    2. Liars
    3. Rude people
    4. B.O. (take a shower and put on some deoderant!)

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    Traits I hate the most...hmmmm...thought provoking.
    -lack of hygeine, you do not have to be the best looking, but at least take a shower, grab some deodorant.
    -pushy people, No does mean No, at least it still does according to Webster.
    -LIARS
    -creepy people that become too attached. You know the ones. They have known you five minutes and all of a sudden you are their BFF (best freind forever)
    -bigots most of all
    -and those that think "i gradiate da fif grade (while holding up four fingers)" is intelligent.
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