I wouldn't say they are too insecure to be swingers, or that they are setting themselves up for failure, but I would say they are setting themselves up for a rough time of meeting people, and possibly even creating issues between themselves.Originally Posted by JTcamp05
Rules such as "no kissing" are very hard to follow when you are physically attracted to someone. The first act you ever did with anyone you were interested in, going all the way back to elementary school, was kiss them. It seems like the most basic act of being interested in someone else.
Having such restrictive rules as "no kissing", "no oral", etc. also puts stress on the other couple who then feels like they are walking on egg shells around them, always wondering if you were going to cross some line that will cause tension between the husband and wife. I know I would. I understand such rules as "no anal", "no solo play", etc., but some rules just leave you wondering "why?" It's like they've reduced sex to a scripted act.
So I think they definitely are setting themselves up for some disappointment, especially regarding someone to play with.