Recently we met with a very nice couple who have no experience in the swinging lifestyle. The meeting went very well, and they expressed a strong desire to meet again. After a few days, they dropped off the radar for nearly a week, then sent us an ICQ message saying they were now having insecurities about whether or not to pursue this. Not with us specifically, but the lifestyle in general. They say they need to talk with each other more before deciding to go ahead.
Now here's our dilemma. We wrote back saying that we understood their hesitation, but we did tell them that it would have been better for everyone concerned if they had done all the talking needed BEFORE agreeing to meet someone. We explained that declining on the basis of non-compatability with a specific couple is fine, but they should have decided whether or not to actively seek out couples before actually seeking one out and meeting with them. Namely, us.