My husband first introduced me to the lifestyle 4 years ago. Since then I have made many wonderful friends and love the clubs etc. The problem is I never really have enjoyed soft and or full swapping the way he does, but I continued to do so to make him happy. I KNOW that is wrong, but that is what I did. Now, during the past 3 months, he has been pressuring me more and more to be with other men/couples. Our night out at the club or party is not complete if we do not end up with another couple. I am finally speaking up and telling him this is NOT for me. I just can' t do it anymore. I told him that I still want to go to lifestyle parties/clubs...and keep our friends in the lifestyle, but I just want to be with him sexually. If the right circumstances arise, I would not rule out playing with others, but I just need to have the pressure off of me. It is affecting our marriage, so I asked my husband to "take some time off" from the lifestyle and let's concentrate on US. He said he would do so because he loves me so much, but that I am not being fair in giving him such an ultimatum. He told me I need to compromise. He is very angry with me and I feel guilty for this. He said I have changed, but all that has changed is I am finally speaking up for myself and stating what I truely feel. Is my marriage doomed? Can a person stop swinging and not hold it against their spouse?
Any comments much appreciated. I love my husband with all my heart, but I just can't swing anymore.